all you need is love brother
Yeah, that sounds very nice, but ultimately doesn't mean anything
I'm hungry!
All you need is food brother.
Where do I get it?
Well you need money.
Where do I get it?
Well you need a job.
Where do I get it?
What can you do, what do you know?
la la la la la...
You need to go out dude, seriously, that's your issue. I was in your situation about 6 years ago, same like you.
The issue is, you are confortable at home, you got used to it. And you like it.
Get a shitty job, in a bar or restaurant something, where you get collegues and make some friends first, they you will surelly get into an antourange and find a girl.
This is how it works...
Yeah, true that. It is comfortable, yay
That is how it works. I used to work those kind of jobs for almost 10 years, and that is how it works.
But when I did it I lived in a multicultural country where people are quite open to meeting people and hanging out. Now I live in a homogenous country, and, I don't know, there's a certain level of hostility and closeness I sense whenever I'm out and about. That's not often I go out, but I've sensed it.
I didn't go out much in the past 7 years, but the few times I did go out the most interesting moments I had was with a Mexican and an American, and a girl from Pakistan. You just talk and they talk and you talk and they talk and it's all good. But with local people, it's like, it's weird.
It's probably just me though. Something wrong with me. You know what they say, if you think everybody else is fucked up, maybe it's you that's fucked up
Move to a Country/City where you actual money will mean nothing, where life is expensive
Your motivation will come back for sure.
HA! Forget about it. I didn't bust my ass all these years to save a few bucks in order to go and overpay for shit and throw it all away.
No thank you
So what about switching your focus on yourself? Start doing some sport, bike, running + gym. Change your diet and all the other things like girls and other stuff come to your life naturally. Good health and a adequate condition, decent physique give you a mental confidence and toughness. Then everything somehow go easier.
Not necessarily. You change your diet, you eat differently. You go walking, biking, exercising, then you come home, and nothing happens.
You can walk around feeling awesome, but meeting and hanging out with people takes other things. Openness, diplomacy, I don't know.
I just gotta hang tight until I get my apartment, then I'll re-examine things.
1st You solution is to get married, yes it is time for uu to have a wife and kids playing arround they will change your view of life...
imagine you are 50 years old and you have a son who is 1 - 5 years old that stupid man you need to see yuur sons grown in front of you becoming man ...etc
that the first thing you need to knew.
second thing is that we, most of us 'IM' onliy thinking about money how to get money what to do with money, and never asked the question why im here on this plannet at first place, what is the purpose of my life, the reason why is because we forget to rememebr there is a GOD who created us for one reason to worship him only, you keep talking about losiing money.. what about losing your life dont uu think about that ? you keep talking like you r going to live for ever... so bro just try to get back to ur sense..
having money is good but to think of it as the key for happines is wrong...
And dont tell me uu dont believe in GOD 'atheist' cause that is some big bullshit.
anyway bro i hope you find your happiness
Well, could be a solution. Getting married and having kids could be a solution.
But I can't afford that. The little bit of money that I have is a trick. A wife and kid is a major expense. And once the money is gone it's gone.
Sorry, I don't believe in God. I'm agnostic leaning towards atheism as far as that goes.
Thanks for the comment
Wife and kids not necessarily wrong, could be a solution. But I'm far from that.
It's also something permanent. I go down that route and I find myself regretting it 3 years later, there's no going back now...
You have BHW. And the Lounge. what more could you ask for?
I don't know. A hug
I'd suggest getting out of your comfort zone and start mixing with real people.
Easy way to do this is by setting a goal of x amount of small wins each day.
Talk to people in the street eg ask for directions, ask about a product in a shop.
Start off with people who may like a quick chat eg the elderly, unattractive (incidently physically less attractive people sometimes have much more attractive hearts) etc and keep doing this until it becomes habit... things will fall into place from there.
Talking to people in the streets and asking for products in a shop isn't that big of a problem. Depending on the atmosphere and situation actually, but for the most part I have no problem doing that.
I don't know man. It's complicated...
Get yourslef in a senior sportsclub, football, boxing, whatever you want
It's a kind of brotherhood inthere
Uhhh... I don't wanna join a club or a brotherhood.
It's like, if I'm alone and I rely solely on myself, I live in a way where nothing can ever get to me. I take precautions and I play defense and I'm very careful, and nothing ever goes wrong.
Maybe when I get my apartment in December I feel more comfortable, because I'll have a home and the security allows me to open up some. For now, while I'm still renting, I'm technically homeless
Have you tried learning to code?
Have you tried online gaming?
Both have helped me in times where I felt like how I think you may be feeling. They don't (by themselves) do much for your social life, in the traditional sense. That being said, my primary Guild Wars II guild does WvW at around the same time each day, and so many of us get on Discord and talk about whatever is on our minds for that day, while kicking the butts of our rival servers.
And then there's writing code. Everytime you figure something new out or find the solution to a problem or get hit with a burst of new inspiration, a very rewarding feeling usually follows. There are also good Discord chats for coders, too!
Oh my God, stop it with the gaming
I play games about once per year. I usually play for a few weeks to a month, and then I stop. Games like Age of empires, age of mythology, Heroes of might and magic III, Cossacks, etc. I play chess sometimes too.
Well I just had my month this year. And it fucking scares me. I open a game and play for 11 hours straight, and when I'm done work hasn't been done, I'm like a fucking zombie, and I don't wanna do it anymore. The next day I do it again.
Because when I start something I wanna finish it. I start a game, I play for 11 hours to get it finished. I start trying to make money online, I play for 7 years straight trying to finish it
hahaha
It's just how I am. Addictive personality, whatever, fucking nuts
I'm not particularly interested in coding. I can do some CSS, HTML, PHP, iMacros, even a bit of javascript. But that was all... I learned all that as it was required. I start a blogspot 7 years ago, and I wanna put a widget on the sidebar and make it blue. Shit, how do I do it? Okay, html this that. Okay, css this that.
But my coding skills don't extend farther than the things I had a need for at one point or another. Learning how to code properly, why would I wanna do that? Noooo...
