My gf left me after loooong time :(

[salo123]

My main anger is now that she left me message yesterday like she will go out for drinks etc with that guy who is writing to her..and i am angry because i know she will be with him and kiss him or make out or whatever and like something is tearing me apart..i don't even know who is that guy and it looks like she wanted this break up just to be with him or someone else and like she hopes she will enjoy that so soon...
and i also thought a lot, if that was true...then i would fee a lot of pain even if she wanted me to be back together i wouldn't want because of this anger i feel..it is not jealousy but more of anger knowing she is capable of doing this now after all that time...like she is acting happy that is my anger :/
I can't think of another girl right now, to be happy etc...but she is either happy or she wants to do it on purpose for i don't know what reason...
Stupid women...i know guys are troubled too, but fuck they are really bitches.

It doesnt matter why she left you. She left you!
It is always harder for the one who was left. You should follow her example, and go out. I wouldnt drink too much, because that can end in sending several drunken messages to her, which is neither good for you, nor for her.

 

[maybesomeday]

She won't tell you why, because she doesn't wanna hurt you. The more you push her, the more she will ignore you. Let's face it, You got dumped because you was oversensitive. If you want her back (I don't recommend this), start acting like a man, don't accept the friend zone. Tell her goodbye and walk away from her. She will keep testing you, whether you crawl back to her anytime she contacts you. If you respond to her immediately, she will keep ignoring you while going out with other men. Why wouldn't she anyway? You are the guaranteed option for her. Don't show her any weakness. Make her believe that she fucked up and she will never see you again. But you won't accomplish this by being her butler.
I suggest you to invest in yourself. Read a few books on this topic, get educated. You suck at relationships, because you never learned anything about them. Stop acting like a sensitive girl and be a man. Chicks want real men, not butlers.

 

[Deleted member 657006]

i been in the same situation and it hurts but time does hell , i promise .

becouse you been in relationships long time . it time to think about your self .

you and ex girlfriend was willing to give a separation a go, so deep down there was things you didnt like she was doing in genral.

the truth is you was interlaced with eachover so you didnt get to no your self , you was very young getting to no your self .

it might hurt for a while but getting to no what you really want in a relationship will help you understand why this ant for you, a relationship right know.

got to remember as narsty as it sounds no one owns no one, at any time a person in a relationship can sleep or kiss anyone, there no laws in relationships, it all based on trust .

your eventually relise at least you had broken up, and not cheated on .

it hard but it better to no when young she wasent for you.

next time be wise .

good luck god bless

ps.
getting back with a ex is a big no , can be real big arguements trust me , i could never forgive any girl sleeping with another man , but like what i said no one own no one.

 

[Sombrero]

She was cheating on you.

 

[Chimmy1990]

Some of the advice on here is mind-boggling i swear

 

[Robm]

Yes never a good idea to pour out your soul and get relationship advice on the internet on a forum based around seo techniques and marketing. It's almost as if people you don't know don't care.

 

[Kash007]

Have a mindset, you don't care. She left you and thats that. Go bang 10 other chicks, trust me you won't miss her no more. If you can't do that then its time to work on your self. I wish the best for you bro.

 

[Apocalypto]

Perfect timing for you to listen to the new Weeknd EP that dropped yesterday.

 

[MartysW0RLD]

Don't talk to her anymore, become more successful and go bang some other chicks. She will come back to you with apologies and all that in no time. DO NOT get back with her though, she made her choice don't settle for being plan b.

You should always keep some side girls for situations like this, it will save you headaches in the future. Or better yet don't even have an official "girlfriend" that way there is no "breaking up".

 

[invictum777]

grow a pair of balls and move on

 

[royserpa]

Lol we seriously need a relationship section ASAP

*dating and crybabies section

 

[kromik100]

It really sucks man. Went through the same thing last year.
Guess you just have to accept it. I saw some other user here recommend taking a trip - that sounds like a great idea. Get your head thinking about something else.

 

[Psh]

Big Hard Weiners section sounds appropriate.

Yes you called me?

Ontopic: Was she maybe sick of waiting to get engaged/married? Are you guys still talking?

 

[Perforate]

Really feel sad for you, Don't worry though you will find women who are better than her

 

[Beceras]

i think you did many things wrong. don't get ever in the position that the girl can leave you. you have always be the prize.
i think your were tooo good for her. girls are the most evil thing on earth. if you are to kind they want someone who is more male. if you are to hard they say you are an asshole.
stop thinking of here. there are so many beautiful girls out there. you just need to work on yourself. i say this because i lived the same crysis like you. don't give up.
just be strong and one day if you do everything good she will hate herself why she left you.
the way is to get better!! trust me. work on yourself and you will get 100 girls like her




btw even that you are positing it here i can see you are a weak personality.
seriously get stronger and no girl can break your heart or even think about leaving you!!!!!
trust in my words

 

[Heiko]

My main anger is now that she left me message yesterday like she will go out for drinks etc with that guy who is writing to her..and i am angry because i know she will be with him and kiss him or make out or whatever and like something is tearing me apart..i don't even know who is that guy and it looks like she wanted this break up just to be with him or someone else and like she hopes she will enjoy that so soon...
and i also thought a lot, if that was true...then i would fee a lot of pain even if she wanted me to be back together i wouldn't want because of this anger i feel..it is not jealousy but more of anger knowing she is capable of doing this now after all that time...like she is acting happy that is my anger :/
I can't think of another girl right now, to be happy etc...but she is either happy or she wants to do it on purpose for i don't know what reason...
Stupid women...i know guys are troubled too, but fuck they are really bitches.

Here's the deal. If this guy that she is dating at the moment just fucks up a little bit.. then she will get back to you. Why? Because after six years of relationship there is a big emotional bond between both of you. For Girls its easy to find the next guy. But you know what they don't do? They don't learn from the relationship because once the next is on their doorstep they will get such an egoboost that they think like "Oh i can have anyone, i don't need ..." - But here's the deal, eventually this guy will fuck up. Dude, she came out of a 6 yr relationship. She is gonna send him so much mixed signals. So what you want to do is to stop all contact with her, and live your life. No more contact, no more facebook status like or Instagram likes, nothing. It's almost as if she is dead to you. Everything else you do is just gonna open up old wounds again.

 

[ShiningWarrior]

After long time i don't even have courage to say how many years(but over 6 years), my gf left me because she said that she wants to try to move on and find someone who she thinks is for her...like our relationship didn't go, etc...although she is right 10% for that i am not ok for that and i am very bumped now...it has been over 10 days now but i still can't get over that..
I feel in love when i was only 18 years old with this girl and she was older then me few years, but i never wanted this to be obstacle with us and she agreed and everything was going out nicely..we had fights here and then but never to the point that i leave her or that she leaves me for good...we had minor breakups for 1-2 days but eventually all came to happy ending....but now after she told me let's go only on break to see how it works out, i agreed and after 10 days she said no i said break up for good and not like pause....so i asked why etc and she said she don't want to go back to old things(me) and that she wants to find someone who is more fit for here sort of speak and i recently found out that some guy from work where she works, is hitting on her and that she agreed to go out with him to see if he is good...that is even more stressful for me and my feelings.

I still love her and she knows that, but she is acting now like she is hurt for some reason and like her feelings are hurt etc and she wants something new....i know for sure that people from work told her that this is good and that she should move on, even though that is not their business because i am not like that...

I feel like someone told her to do this and she is acting all weird etc, because in this period when we were together, neither of us cheated that was for sure...like i said we had fights like all couples do but never to this point. And she broke this somehow saying okay listen it is better if we are on pause...and we were and then she said no no i meant break up there is no pause bla bla and like she is over more, like for months she was preparing etc...My only thought is that for months she was maybe seeing or talking with that other guy or with someone else but she didn't tell me that or i don't know, my head is in mess now

Anyhow, i wanted to share this with you, since lot of you have similar feelings and similar past relationships and i really want to hear what you have to say.

Sorry for longer text...

Brother, I know how that feels because I have been in that situation before and I quickly learned this:

Boy (with good money) = Girls will come running to you. You won't believe me now but trust me that is the way how it is.
Boy (with low or medium money) = You HAVE to waste your time chasing for her acceptance.
Boy (with low or medium money after acceptance) = You will always have to cater to her wants and needs and will always have to say sorry first even tho if it's not your fault! She will craete tantrum on little problems. Too much headache.

There's a saying - Never run behind a TRAIN, BUS, and a GIRL, because when one goes, another comes!

I know what you are going through right now and it was a lot worse for me, but know this man - She was NOT "actually" meant for you.
She is a guy hopper!

Wait for someone who is actually for you brother and don't get frustrated and think you need a GF right now and waste time thinking about things that ain't gonna happen. Wait for sometime and good things will happen. Give it some time. The wait IS always worth at the end.

In the meantime, go read some entrepreneur books if you haven't already and take a chill pill, go out with friends, go to a bar and have fun.

One more thing, it's 2018. Okay? There is NOTHING called a REAL and SERIOUS relationship. Best is Friends with benefits. Because when you get committed, that will bound to break your heart in the long run and 90% is the boys that get hurt. At a later point in time, you will understand why the saying B#tches Be Crazy was said for some girls.
Don't always eat the same thing. Have fun with variety in life.

Live a FREE and OPEN life. Get friends with benefits with your fellow girlfriends or maybe hire a high-class female escort to have girlfriend experience to satisfy your needs. Trust me, if you treat them well, they won't even let you know that you hired them.

Nowadays most girls don't want a serious relationship because that because it eliminates the need for serious commitment and those who do, they only use the guy for their expenses. Brother, you should utilize that time to make a big name for yourself on the internet. Develop the correct mindset brother.

Best,
ShiningWarrior

 

[Mr Positive]

Believe it or not the problem is not in your relationship or that guy from work, if you really are keen to get your life back I would strongly suggest purchase this book called you can heal your life by Louis hay. You'll come back to thank me for changing your life forever.

I know your reaction would be what can a book do, same reaction Japanese had when they bombed pearl hadbour.

Believe me just buy it,read it slowly , read it few times and you'll realise truth about your life, do message me when your life changes, I expect a good reward lol. Now go on and read it.

 

[Fritzyboy]

OP, are you inlove with her or are you just inlove of the fact being together?

Relationship takes two to tango IN UNITY. So if one doesn't want to cooperate, then you're dancing alone.

However, let's say you have her back, but it's not gonna be the same treatment (it will never will). You'll just end up breaking the relationship... again.

Look, I bet you are still young, so give life (and love) a chance with someone else. This way you'll get to know yourself much better, and learn much better, and love yourself much better. Yep, it's gonna hurt before it gets better, but one day you'll look back and said it was worth it, whether or not you'll end up with her or with someone else.

As for @ShiningWarrior , let me correct you... THERE STILL EXIST a real and serious relationship. I'm having it and my parents have it and anyone both of me and my partner's relatives are having it. Nope, they are not pre-arranged, but they are getting married the right way, not because the girl is pregnant or whatever. NEVER divorced or separated. You probably is screwing whoever you met, but deep inside it's not gonna give you an inner satisfaction. For now, you can't understand it, but soon, when found someone you can settle in, you will.

 

[ShiningWarrior]

OP, are you inlove with her or are you just inlove of the fact being together?

Relationship takes two to tango IN UNITY. So if one doesn't want to cooperate, then you're dancing alone.

However, let's say you have her back, but it's not gonna be the same treatment (it will never will). You'll just end up breaking the relationship... again.

Look, I bet you are still young, so give life (and love) a chance with someone else. This way you'll get to know yourself much better, and learn much better, and love yourself much better. Yep, it's gonna hurt before it gets better, but one day you'll look back and said it was worth it, whether or not you'll end up with her or with someone else.

As for @ShiningWarrior , let me correct you... THERE STILL EXIST a real and serious relationship. I'm having it and my parents have it and anyone both of me and my partner's relatives are having it. Nope, they are not pre-arranged, but they are getting married the right way, not because the girl is pregnant or whatever. NEVER divorced or separated. You probably is screwing whoever you met, but deep inside it's not gonna give you an inner satisfaction. For now, you can't understand it, but soon, when found someone you can settle in, you will.

All the best brother!