Let me add some 1 tube sugar in this as per my experience.
I am a woman here who been divorced before 6 years ago and got married again 2 years ago. Not every woman will be same and not man will same.
We are humans and we are all different with our expectations, thoughts, advise etc. Both have freedom to do what they want to. If you both not understanding to each other divorce will be there. In understanding you need to be compromise, sacrifice, love, caring, satisfaction everything is required as per situation. If you expect something from your partner definitely same would be expect from your partner for you too. But both expectations would be different not same all the time. In that part you can't say she/he would be known of your expectation till you tell him/her. Because no one came to know your dream expectations or dream with your partner what exactly he/she looking for.
If your marriage is stand up on lie then it never ever be happy, while trying with all your efforts. So be honest with your partner and try to understand him/her and give him/her chance to understand you.
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