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Don't ever get married

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by ttmschine, May 21, 2018.

  1. CoolNicks

    CoolNicks Registered Member

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    I am really sorry for your situation. Sometimes it really hurts me deep me when seeing news,stories about incompatible couples and their struggles to broke their ties when they have kids and have to think about the future of kids. Make your pocket deep, and take your life to a new prepective. There are so much of very very good hearted people out there.

    Currently i am watching "Young Sheldon" series, something nice to see.

    Now, lol, i was eagerly waiting to get married. Today went to eye doctor with my father, on seeing the doctor(just simply she was my dream girl, cute, calm, caring etc) i just fell for her. And then,,, yeah came back home.(nothing, because i need a hell of money to get married to a doctor)
     
  2. Stewielenor

    Stewielenor Supreme Member

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    My now ex-girlfriend agrees with you.

    Also I forgot my USB with my social media accounts !! -,-'
    Left my keys and phone there as well..
     
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  3. theRevolt

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    Sucks for you, good luck with everything! However, I always thought the same but the issue is (and this is very broad and I do not know your situation), many people feel the need to get married and do so to someone they feel they love enough. Turns out they were to quick to do so and it would have been better to wait for that one person you do realize is special compared to everybody else.
    Hard to generalize, but just as if you were to invest money you do your due diligence, the more $$$ the more you research. This is supposed to be a lifetime commitment, and see too many not putting in the same effort they'd do for just a measly car etc.
    Good luck, you will be fine!
     
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  4. mrharrypotter

    mrharrypotter Registered Member

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    Yeah!

    Getting married is a scam.Pure "SCAM" I repeat .
     
  5. BacklinkzTopper

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    Even I don't believe in the institution of marriage
     
  6. Pixel Groot

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    Some days ago I feel like you, but ;) she ( doctor) is my gf righ now .
     
  7. ttmschine

    ttmschine Power Member

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    Girlfriends are cool, wives are a whole different ball game - legally and financially speaking.

    My advice to anyone is do not get married, and most importantly read the red pill reddit so you at least have an inkling of what's really going on while she turns your emotions inside out and takes a big dump in your heart.

    We make the mistake of thinking they are just like us, that they think and feel like us, and that we can reason with them like you would a guy to a guy - but you can't because they are prone to emotional thinking (i.e. not really thinking, just emotionally driven), while we're trying to use logic to talk to them.

    Doesn't work, and if it all goes wrong - you're up the creek without a paddle - or a boat - or a life preserver, etc.
     
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  8. lemoy

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    how do you take care of yourself when you are very old ?
     
  9. Pixel Groot

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    Well Said " they are prone to emotional thinking"
     
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  10. Broskii

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    Hope you get through it okay! Divorce is terrible.
     
  11. jmada

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    Thanks for the advice xD
     
  12. apex1

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    I somewhat agree with your position on marriage, there isn't nearly as much in it for men as there is for women.. and almost all the risk is on the man.

    However..

    You failed to pick a suitable partner, now you're paying for that mistake. If your partner was ideal, then you failed to nurture the relationship.

    Marriage can be amazing for men, but only in very specific circumstances. It's definitely not something to be pressured into, or to hastily rush into.

    You have to look at things objectively if you're going to improve as a human being, and move on without being bitter. Try to have a clean, friendly break without hard feelings. That's your best possible path forward IMO.
     
  13. Apricot

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    Ironically, your above statement lacks logic and, in fact, appears to be really quite emotional given the context. Good luck with the red pill thing - whenever I've read anything about it, it's a bunch of guys commiserating with each other about how badly they've been treated and how evil women are. Unfortunately, their little circle-jerk of validation doesn't appear to make any of them happy or fulfilled. Just angry, resentful, miserable and aggressive towards the other half of the species that they wish to have sex with.

    Meh, they can have their "logic" and they're more than welcome to go their own way. Wish they'd go out of earshot though.
     
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  14. Gogol

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    Your statement is not applicable for everyone. It's like saying, don't eat food. If you get a food poisoning, you might end up being dead. LOL.
    I got married last year and it has been an wonderful experience so far. I chose the correct girl, and I am happier than ever.

    P.S.> Marry someone who would be compatible with you. That would be much more enjoyable than going for someone just because you think he/she is sexy.
     
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    Been there. Done that. Marriage can be a wonderful thing. I have friends and family that have it that way. After mine failed I'm not really interested in doing it again in the forseeable future. Personal choice. I still think it can be great though.
     
  16. ttmschine

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    LoL that's what I thought at first, but after 21 years together - thing change - so come back in 20 years and tell me how great it is then.
     
  17. Gogol

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    Sure.. Let me enjoy the experience while it lasts. Much better than being a single and doing right handed workouts.
     
  18. WilhelmScream

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    Some people prefer being married and in long relationships and some people prefer to be single. Nothing wrong with either of those preferences.
     
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    Getting married is like ending your thoughts and living according to someone else. Whether a man or woman, both repent lifelong.
     
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  20. Gogol

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    Yepp. I agree to that. My original point was, that everyone is different and it is not fair to tell everyone to not get married just because OP had a failed marriage :)