My first blind date and I like her already.

[sagarpatil]

Hola folks,

(This is the most interesting story you will ever read)

To be honest, I am a workaholic person. I work long hours and my life is all about computers and money. I hang out with my friends on weekends and we get drunk and stuff, but that's pretty much it. I travel abroad once a year for fun.

This Saturday, I met a girl on what was my first blind date (I am not sure if I can call it a date, we met for a coffee). I went to her place to pick her up. She was very beautiful. We went to a coffee shop to hang out. We started getting to know each other through small conversations. She told me she's a student and studies in Canada and was in India for a student exchange program. She also mentioned she had a BF back in Canada and they were together for 8 months. We talked about Politics, Corruption in India, Indian Culture, God, Festivals, Love, Friendship and what not. She was very intelligent and I loved talking to her. Later we went for a long walk and when we had to cross roads, I held her hand. I really enjoyed doing that. Afterward we went to meet her new Indian friends, two of them were guys and there was a swiss girl. She knew them for sometime and to be honest, I didn't feel very welcome when we were hanging out.

At 4 AM in the morning, we decided to call it a day, we hugged and she said she had a great time. She messaged me after some time asking If I reached home safely and mentioned she would love to hang out with me again.

We met again on Monday for a movie. We had to pick up her laptop from the repair guy. When the guy said its not done yet, she was really pissed as she couldn't talk to his BF and family back in Canada. I told her we will get it fixed the next day. All the way to the theater, she was really pissed and didn't talk much. I thought I would give her some time.

We finally went to the movie, she wanted to buy some pop-corn, I got them for her, she insisted she will pay for it, I didn't let her. It was a bollywood movie, but even then she really enjoyed it.

After the movie, I was going to take her out for Dinner. This is where the sad part of the evening starts. She said she is going out for dinner with a friend and I am welcome if I wanted to join them. I told her that doesn't sound right because I am not invited. She insisted I come, but then I said that maybe the guy wants to take her for dinner alone. She said I was her friend and so was this other guy, so there's really nothing awkward about it. I didn't go. We hugged and she left.

At night, she sent me a message saying thank you for everything. I didn't reply. Next morning I went to meet her at university. We went to a restaurant and had our lunch. We listened to some songs. She told me how she's not comfortable with her bf/friends who are possessive about her. She told me how she met her BF and stuff. I asked her some tips on how guys should approach girls at bar. She said "Can I buy you a drink?" is the worst pick up line ever as they can buy a drink themselves.

Yesterday she was hanging out with some other friends and when I messaged her she wasn't very excited about talking. So i told her to message me when she's free. She sent a message at night. I received it today morning.

I asked her if she wants to hang out in the evening or maybe go for dinner. She sent me a message saying, lets see I am going out for dinner with the other guy. (Last time when they were out for dinner, it wasn't just the two of them, it was her, the other guys and their friends.)

Now I feel bad, I want her to hang out with me. I feel stupid. I really hate it the way girls can make you feel. Before I met her, I was kinda happy with my work and my life. But now, I keep getting upset over small thing. I don't think this is a good thing. She said we will hang out on Sunday and she would love to meet my friends.

Some facts:
1. I like hanging out with her at the same time I think I am falling for her. I know she's quite serious with her boyfriend and she made it clear to me as well as the other guy when we were together. I believe her when she says that.

2. I know she only looks at me as a friend she wants to hang out with and I would like to believe its the same with other friend.

This is the part where I need your help:

Should I stop thinking about her? Should I stop seeing her? I know it will affect my work life. I believe I am a very sensitive person. I have no idea whats going on.

(Sorry I lied about the story being interesting, I wanted you guys to read the whole story)

Can I get some PRO-HELP.

EDIT: Each and every advice I've been reading are the awesomest (I know that's not a word). Can I please add you guys on Skype, I would love to stay in touch with you and get more of your advice. Please PM me your skype.

 

[Taktical]

sagarpatil,

Before I jumped into the IM community, I was involved in the pickup community.

Imagine an entire league of sexual "blackhatters", who wrote ebooks, had forums and discussion like we do about women.

I'd love to give you some advice. But you'll have to explain first how you went on a "blind date" with a woman who is serious about a boyfriend. How did this happen?

 

[Abstroose]

tl;dr?

 

[CPAchick]

Looks to me as though you're headed for 'friends-ville' mate!

If she's really serious about her boyfriend, then you need to accept this, see less of her and refocus on your work. It won't happen over night, but quit her now before you really become lovesick!

 

[Essence19]

Dude - How can it be a date . when she has a Boyfriend? - is she gonna break up with him,if not - you should probably get her to like you and then tell her to brake it off with the other guy.that would be my strategy.make her fall in love with you - then the other guy is done.

 

[JohnnyRabbit]

It's not a real blind date or real date at that if she has a boyfriend!

Pm me pics bro!

 

[ShiftySituation]

She wants to have sex... think about it, she is there basically to soak in the culture and then head back to Canada, never to be seen from again. Next time you go out with her, make it a point to get her back to you place... have a drink while you ask her questions about her happiest times while visiting, this will get her wet and I'm willing to bet she will bring up times with you. Then slide in and give her another happy moment. After that, just go out with her as friends, with friends, what ever and use her for what she wants to use you for, sex.

 

[Krazie]

I know females like this. If you fall for her she will end up getting mad at you and/or hating you. Take my advice, concentrate on your money and stay away.

I know it's probably not the advice you wanted to hear, but it's the honest truth from my experiences. Women like having guy friends, but the ones who are actually loyal to their bf's get really mad and never talk to guys again once they cross that line.

Either way goodluck with whatever path you choose, but don't ever let anything come before your real happiness, and of course BHW ;D

 

[euhero]

no bro, she is really in to you. go for it.










and then cry.

 

[srb888]

She has a BF who she cares about coz she wanted to talk to him (and her family there) and couldn't, it got her pissed off for a long time. Canada is where she belongs and she will go back soon... that western life is in her blood and the infatuation is one way -- from your side; she obviously has a lot of other male friends and for her you seem to be just one of them. IMO, move along and then when time comes to part you'll not be shattered.

 

[switch_2012]

it depends on what you need mate - do you really want a long term relationship or casul one?

it seems you are falling for her and a bit emotional (very bad mate - girls dont like that)

Yep she has a BF but he lives in Canada - you live very close to er and you have the upper hand.

Just be there for her - make her special and throw out some cash and make sure you are in the centre of the circle

But make sure you wont push her to do thing she wouldnt -

take it slowly mate n yes girls do change their minds

good luck

 

[Sellmesomething]

To be honest I wouldn't hit on another mans woman, it's not nice if you take her from him. I would just stick to point 2 she only sees you as a friend, if you go for more you risk messing up the friendship.

Just keep her as a friend unless she makes the move on you.

 

[kirkonpolttaja]

I think you should just try to ignore her as atractive and whatnot, try to think her as a friend when you manage to do that.. you will be more casual.

For me, going to movies and eating with friends sounds weird, cause i'm just like you in the beginning = i have limited best friends, and when we hang out, we drink alot.

I'm going to give you an exploit which is going to make her crazy by time.
You should slipt out question on which perfumes she likes best and later ask what her BF uses. If you do this quickly in a manner that she wont remember this non-meaningful question, better.
"i love perfume X cause it resembles my BF's smell<3<3"

You have perfume Y which is not that impressive for her.. for the trick This works if your going to see her many-few times in the future aswell.
Get that perfume X! going using it would be too noticeable for her "oh you bought it...why?", so you should use your own first and squirt a little of perfume X on you to blend smells.

steps for blending:
perfume Y/perfume X
90/10
80/20
70/30
60/40
50/50
40/60
30/70
20/80
10/90

So you need to meet 9 times, she will get warm feeling near to you at first step cause there is hint of her BF on background.. when going steps forward she should have toughts that is she getting attached to you cause your smelling better and better by time. In the end she will be in the edge cause your giving out cuddly and warm messages for her via smells, she should feel like that you would have been in her life for long time.

Blending smells is just to introduce you for more loved smell of her BF so that she wont notice what is going on, you could blend them slower for better results.

Thing is that prefume X will introduce her to come closer to you, and when you say your hugging her always after date is coming to end, she is going to have some serious tought about you after you guys are split for the day.

If scenario goes as planned and you she gives you her hearth, it is time to stop using perfume X and blend slowly back to your normal perfume, your perfume Y should be good now cause she has all this time smelled it also and now she relates it as one of those warm cuddly smells.

This is exploiting human mind so it is a baaaad thing.


Smell of loved ones strips off mental defenses (example: why would you defense yourself from your family/loved one?)



This is called social engineering, manipulation of human mind, it can be used for good, but also for evil things... I hope people will get something out of this


EDIT: and yes, smells are indeed VERY important. I used some perfume for long time and i run out of it... i just took some cheaper brand and used it... and did you know what my GF's reaction was? she was confused and said to me "you dont smell like my BF" and she felt akward She felt like hugging another guy, but it weared of quite fast and she felt normal again.

 

[lanbo]

I think you should just try to ignore her as atractive and whatnot, try to think her as a friend when you manage to do that.. you will be more casual.

For me, going to movies and eating with friends sounds weird, cause i'm just like you in the beginning = i have limited best friends, and when we hang out, we drink alot.

I'm going to give you an exploit which is going to make her crazy by time.
You should slipt out question on which perfumes she likes best and later ask what her BF uses. If you do this quickly in a manner that she wont remember this non-meaningful question, better.
"i love perfume X cause it resembles my BF's smell<3<3"

You have perfume Y which is not that impressive for her.. for the trick This works if your going to see her many-few times in the future aswell.
Get that perfume X! going using it would be too noticeable for her "oh you bought it...why?", so you should use your own first and squirt a little of perfume X on you to blend smells.

steps for blending:
perfume Y/perfume X
90/10
80/20
70/30
60/40
50/50
40/60
30/70
20/80
10/90

So you need to meet 9 times, she will get warm feeling near to you at first step cause there is hint of her BF on background.. when going steps forward she should have toughts that is she getting attached to you cause your smelling better and better by time. In the end she will be in the edge cause your giving out cuddly and warm messages for her via smells, she should feel like that you would have been in her life for long time.

Blending smells is just to introduce you for more loved smell of her BF so that she wont notice what is going on, you could blend them slower for better results.

Thing is that prefume X will introduce her to come closer to you, and when you say your hugging her always after date is coming to end, she is going to have some serious tought about you after you guys are split for the day.

If scenario goes as planned and you she gives you her hearth, it is time to stop using perfume X and blend slowly back to your normal perfume, your perfume Y should be good now cause she has all this time smelled it also and now she relates it as one of those warm cuddly smells.

This is exploiting human mind so it is a baaaad thing.


Smell of loved ones strips off mental defenses (example: why would you defense yourself from your family/loved one?)



This is called social engineering, manipulation of human mind, it can be used for good, but also for evil things... I hope people will get something out of this

Nice, this is great blackhat method!! How are the conversions on this?

 

[kirkonpolttaja]

conversion should be 100% if it is targeted, i dont think this would work with men cause i'm not that interested in smells, but if someone smells like candy, my first toughts are "hmmmm kinky"

 

[sagarpatil]

sagarpatil,

Before I jumped into the IM community, I was involved in the pickup community.

Imagine an entire league of sexual "blackhatters", who wrote ebooks, had forums and discussion like we do about women.

I'd love to give you some advice. But you'll have to explain first how you went on a "blind date" with a woman who is serious about a boyfriend. How did this happen?

I found her on a community website and I sent her a message saying, I am new to this city and I guess you are too, maybe we should hang out and have coffee some time and explore the place. She replied back saying "we could do that and gave me her number."

I didn't know it was going to turn out so good. I wasn't expecting anything more than a cool friend to hang out with.

She said most of the other guys who messaged her asked, if she stayed alone and had a BF, she's very beautiful and blah blah and they were only doing this to get laid. I on the other hand was very polite, (She said I am the most polite person she's meet in India) respected woman and she would love to hang out with.

 

[sagarpatil]

Looks to me as though you're headed for 'friends-ville' mate!

If she's really serious about her boyfriend, then you need to accept this, see less of her and refocus on your work. It won't happen over night, but quit her now before you really become lovesick!

That seriously makes sense. But I can imagine how hard it would be not hanging out with her when she sends me a message or when I am bored and want to hang out with her.

I.SHOULD.LISTEN.TO.YOU.

Let me know if you want to stay in touch via skype.

 

[sagarpatil]

Dude - How can it be a date . when she has a Boyfriend? - is she gonna break up with him,if not - you should probably get her to like you and then tell her to brake it off with the other guy.that would be my strategy.make her fall in love with you - then the other guy is done.

I agree it was not a date. Lets say we met for coffee. She isn't going to break up with him for no reason. Even if she starts liking me, I would never tell her to break up with her BF. If she really likes me and wants to break up, she will.

 

[sagarpatil]

It's not a real blind date or real date at that if she has a boyfriend!

Pm me pics bro!

We did take a picture together after the movie. But I am not comfortable sharing it online just like that, she has a BF. I want to respect her privacy.

 

[sagarpatil]

She wants to have sex... think about it, she is there basically to soak in the culture and then head back to Canada, never to be seen from again. Next time you go out with her, make it a point to get her back to you place... have a drink while you ask her questions about her happiest times while visiting, this will get her wet and I'm willing to bet she will bring up times with you. Then slide in and give her another happy moment. After that, just go out with her as friends, with friends, what ever and use her for what she wants to use you for, sex.

She said she is not going to cheat on her BF.

And to be honest, I'm not in this for sex. I love her company, I love talking to her, if you understand what I mean.