You can always find another woman but you can never recoup time.
Something to understand here: Finding the right woman is like finding the right business model online. Not everything you touch will turn into gold. You're going to have failures. You're going to lose money. Most of the things we try online will never work out. Marketing is all about testing.
I feel for you..
I'd be upset about the years wasted doing my best to keep the relationship alive. I have been there myself a few times.
For a fact, men spent more effort in keeping the relationship alive than women do. Women can always find a richer man - someone who provides the security they're after. But how about men? What happens if and when you get sucked dry by a woman? You can't really go out there and find a rich chick.. I mean you can but it's much harder for a poor guy to find a rich lady than the other way around.
But we are also at fault. We show our lifestyle, our cars, our material possessions - so what the hell should we expect? What type of person will this behavior attract? BINGO! A gold digger - someone who wants the things we provide but NOT US.
That's why you see lots of wives of professional athletes stick around even though they know their men committed infidelity. It's all about the money.
We are all influenced by our friends, including your lady. Most of us don't want to admit it but it's true. Who you spend time with is who you become.
Most relationships these days are artificial and in many cases benefit based relationships. Gone are the times when Mary loved John, no matter what. John wants the hot chick, so he can show off in public. John wants someone who improves his self-image. It's really stupid. Get someone average looking but someone with brains, good morals and someone really likes you. Looks get worse over time.
A good character only gets better.
You certainly can find a good woman these days.. just be prepared to date 100+ women because 95-99% won't be any good. The game has gotten tougher. It's harder than ever to beat the game, to find a woman with conservative values.
Most women aren't worth having a relationship with anyway. And I mean like 95%+ of women. They don't respect our time or work yet expect to be treated like a first lady. Something just doesn't add up.
Women gained a lot of strength through the media and all this feminism stuff going on. I'm not saying that they shouldn't have gained it but it's how they respond to it. We, men, are being thrown under the bus.
We make our own beds, though. Life is all about choices. You chose what you have right now. Think about that for a second. Be it positive or negative — you manifested it!
In the west, if you're a man who get divorced these days (which represents 50-60% of men depending on country), you lose everything. You're lucky if you get reasonable visitation rights and just lose 50% of what you built after marriage. How stupid is that?
I'm seriously contemplating to adopt a child so I never have to worry about being thrown under the bus by a female.It's a pretty good option. Could be the least expensive, least troublesome..
I'm just blown away by how brainwashed we have become, most of it is the fault of Hollywood and social media.
It's even worse if you have money. It's very hard to find someone who
values the REAL YOU, and NOT your money. You just can't tell her how much you have until you've been married for some time. If you tell her about your monies upfront, I think there's a 100% chance that she'll go after it even if she is a good person. Money changes people. Money opens doors. Money gives people options to choose from. She's going to want most of it. There's this entitlement/equality mentality.
Date plenty of women and form friendships. If you see that one sticks around after months of dating, and you didn't provide her much, then you can trust her a bit more. And yeah, she shouldn't have been f*cking around with other guys. Trust her a bit more only if you see stability in performance. I mean, loyalty.
The easiest thing to find these days is the wrong woman. It's never been easier than now!!
The best women are the ones with
conservative values yet are interesting enough to have a
meaningful conversation with. That's probably less than 5% of all women I met. Forget the ones who need flashy things to be happy. So, women who are able to talk about a lot of stuff, not just what handbag they will buy next.
Humans got sexual, emotional and spiritual needs. If you just hit 2 out of 3 then you're screwed. You need to hit 3 out of 3 to be fulfilled.
Good luck!