I did something REALLY stupid...

GrotesqueGoddess said:

For the record... it was a JOKE about the turkey baster. I would never do such a thing. Now will you two stop arguing? Regardless of what my friend and I were joking about... it was uncalled for and I hope to God he forgives me.

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You didnt answer my question lol

Best of luck to you... By the Way... the rudeness in this place... Hi Valwardon! (as if you're not refreshing this thread every 5 seconds)

GrotesqueGoddess said:

For the record... it was a JOKE about the turkey baster. I would never do such a thing. Now will you two stop arguing? Regardless of what my friend and I were joking about... it was uncalled for and I hope to God he forgives me.

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Ehh he was telling me he did forgive you and that he thinks it was a misunderstanding.. I do not think he would lie to me. He has no reason to.

Misunderstandings do happen in relationships things can be taken out of contect and are on a daily basis. The thing is you GROW with that. He really loves you. Love is a rare thing. Just enjoy it. I am sure you too will have hurtles it is bound to happen. You too will get over them just relax.

You 2 have a long life together. Just do not give up hope.

well ive been known to "rape" my friends (usually to tears) when they got into relationship problems. im a big afficionado for the manly man and not being a big giant woman and start being a confident teh confident man he's supposed to be

i mean, i dont know the guy, and by all means ill give him the damn speech but i suggest u get a good friend of his to do it
btw, excuse the bluntness or harshness of the speech but the bottom line is it works
and an extra apology is in order cause he is a respected member and all and has very insightful posts. dont know why he got banned but anyway here it goes..

he's being insecure and a big giant pussy. he needs to be a MAN. he's driving himself insane and its all in his head.
your flirting with other guys.
who the fuck cares? he shouldnt. its only natural that you do.
HELL, what do you think happens when he see's an attractive woman?
he'll treat her nice and go out of his way for her cause she's sexy. or he'll tell his friends that the blonde over there has a nice ass?
but doesnt he always bring his ass home to you.
doesnt mean he's cheating now does it.
u are a woman, people have been offering u dick everyday ever since you were 13 years old.
its the way the world is.
its fun to flirt, big deal. flirting is meaningless.
he just needs to stop being a big pathetic baby and start being a man.
he knows that you mean alot to him. and he means alot to you or you wouldnt even be here with this thread.
point is, he's being an over protective baby who is getting jealous and childish over nothing.
where is the old valwardon?
where's the person who actually had nuts.
cause u arent him. and ure frankly just a big crying baby.
and if you're stupid enough not to realize that she actually likes/loves u and u are the most important guy in her life.
than your an idiot.


now, thats basically a giant paraphrase. by rapings change depending on the situation (make up/break up)
but look at it from the male point of view, one of his best friends screaming this at him from the top of his lungs. and including derogatory terms towards women in general and also referring to you specifically. (usually the word bitch or bitches)
if you are able to tolerate being insulted (sorry, dont think youre a bitch i promise, lol)
and look at the speech for what it is and what its meant to do. (make him realize his stupid behaviour and pointless over reacting over nothing)
then i hope you can see how this will help him realize how much he likes u and how much you, in fact, like him.
(cause he wouldnt like the fact that his friend just called u a bitch)

anyway, it will put him in his right mind and in my personal experience it works everytime.
if you can find a way to utilize it or at least take something from the psychological triggers you can pull on on him with this.

maybe he'll realize he's being a big baby. hope this helps!

GrotesqueGoddess said:

First off, there have been a lot of relationship threads here lately... and the sheer number of them are getting annoying, honestly. I do post to them with the most heartfelt advice I can muster.

I can't believe I am making one of my own now. I just don't know where else to turn. I guess I am a bit of a hypocrite.

I won't go into too many details but my boyfriend broke up with me and I don't know what to do. He thinks I am secretly seeing my best friend (who is a guy... and a million miles away). I'm obviously NOT, but I admit we do say flirty things to each other. My boyfriend has always known this, as I disclosed that early on. Before you all say it... I know it's a bad fucking idea. I shouldn't have even continued talking to my best friend, but I did... and I was always open about it with my boyfriend. I thought being open about everything was enough.

I admit I said some things jokingly to my friend which crossed the line. At the time I didn't think anything of it, but now I regret it more than I can say. I've always had male friends, not female, so my interactions with men have always been a bit odd. I never hid anything on purpose... but my boyfriend seems to think I "verbally" cheated on him. I know why he would think that, but in all honesty, the things I said to my best friend were just in fun. I am such a fool. I ruined the trust... I broke his heart... I don't know what to do. Guys, please help me. What can I do? I am so lost without him. He's making me make a choice on who to be with... him or my best friend but I am not with my best friend so I can't answer that! I keep telling him that and he just won't believe me. Even if he does take me back, the trust is gone and no matter what I do, he'll always think I cheated.

I feel so gutted.

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If he cant handle you having a male friend then he has jealousy issues. I bet he will want you back when you actually are banging someone else. BTW is your exBF a BHW member I seem to remember a loveydovey thread on the forum.

bizcredit said:

If he cant handle you having a male friend then he has jealousy issues. I bet he will want you back when you actually are banging someone else. BTW is your exBF a BHW member I seem to remember a loveydovey thread on the forum.

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Yes... Valwardon made a thread about me about 2 months ago... and I guess now I've made one about him. I just wish mine was as pleasant as his was and under better circumstances.

I'm honestly horrible at relationships becouse i'm a bit of a narcissist (and no that doesn't mean I sleep with dead people) However I have found the key to the whole infidelity B/S....I only date women that are into women...This works wonders. I have no idea how this would work out for you as you are a woman. But as you said there seem to be at least 3 of these relationship threads a week and maybe I can help the guys prevent themselves from falling victim to these situations.

I guess its time for you get suspicious and peep around as to whats really going on...but trust me, do what feels right, don't go by what people say...its you who needs to work it at the end imo

Hagiology said:

You're indirectley calling me an idiot? Cool?

Alright, next time your girlfriend/wife/whatever chats to another guy about sticking a bastur up her pussy and her also going along with it, mind you, we'll see how you react. But it's her best guy friend, so it's okay, right?


PS: GrotesqueGoddess - I'm not trying to 'bash' you or anything. I'm just giving you my honest opinion about it because I'm a guy.

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Your kidding right? LOL! It's call sarcasm and a joke.

Myself I don't have to worry about these type of things so we will be waiting a very long time for it to happen to me, or find my wife making jokes like that. Snowball chance matter of fact.

I am a guy too, and offering a POV as well.

Chill already.

I say this in absolute seriousness, "Are you a Goddess or aren't you? Start acting like one!"

Gods and Goddess's don't grovel are waste their time on what does not please them.

shit, this is getting blackhat soap opera

just remind Your boyfriend about fucking and he`ll be back. basically that`s all convincing guys need if he dont, then fuck someone other! dont think, just do it! after that You can go back to thinking, as currently looks like You are brain fucked and this will get nowhere.

Relationships are not really so hard, its all about sex. Path for next generation.

Tell him you will let him stick it in your butt. He will come running back i guarantee it.

Jcsarokin said:

If the other guy is a million miles away how does he suspect you cheated lol.

Cyber sex over the internet? Scandalous.

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cyber is cool and good ! so you better think about it try it ~

GrotesqueGoddess said:

LoL My best friend and I have never had phone sex. He actually saw some status messages that I had put up... most of which were for my boyfriend... but a couple flirty ones for my best friend. He thinks they were all for my best friend... but enough about that. Yeah, well, I should have been more clear somehow... but actually... I shouldn't have acted the way I did... as innocent as it was.

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well ... do you know what's funny ? boys are stupid , and that's hard way to make them to be quite more '' smart '' on this area ... most of them can't even think by themselves and need '' someone '' to have care of them , yeah girls are made for that ... if he can't understand by hes own you joking with someone , make it / force it to understand maybe he can learn who knows

jrslyrics said:

Try Girls for a while!

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Film that shit and put BHCB on it = $$$$

All I can say is "Shit happens, then you step in it."

Learn from this no matter what the outcome is in the end. I have been through some crap when it comes to relationships and trust issues. I have been on both sides of the fence as well. Neither are fun.

I hope the best for you both...either way.

It is NEVER fun to go through a breakup, especially if you're the receiver. When it's happened to me, it ruins me for a time, but the old expression "better to have loved and lost..." is very true, but extremely difficult to grasp when you're in the midst of things.

If he is that mis-trustful of you, it's doubtful you can bridge that gap, since not only would you no doubt have to cut off your friend (which you shouldn't need to do), you'd also have to bridge a gap which grows wider and wider.

If he makes the move to come back, then think about it.
But if you must make the moves.... the you that move to move on.

IDK....alot of guys and others on here say jealousy issues this and insecurity that....but lets get honest....How many men in here with a pair would honestly let this crap go on whether serious or not with a woman that they loved with all their heart?

I don't know about you guys but if my gf did that crap it would be over the line and I would say "Your either all in or you fold your hand"....

I don't think any guy with a pair would not care if this happened with the woman they were head over heels in love with....

Just my thoughts....

So i skipped over all the other reply's and got right to my own. Basically your probably a cute girl and what your saying to your "friend" is obviously making your guy jealous. You need to know that even though your saying these things jokingly he doesn't really know that and maybe wonders about what you 2 have done in the past even though your a thousand miles apart from each other? There has to be something that makes you want to still talk to him and be as open as that. Maybe women ARE that much different but if a guy said something in a sexual manner to a cute girl even if they claimed it was a joke theres probably a 95% chance the meant it. This is how guys are and how they relate there own thoughts to that of yours. But basically he isnt going to be happy unless you stop talking to this guy so its time to decide if you wanna be with your man or alone talking to some guy halfway across the country that you have some sort of connection with? I guess thats the best way to put it but i probably wont find this thread again so pm me if i helped lol.