How can i do away with suicide thoughts?

Hello guys, i know this is not an health forum but i do know that some of us here, might have passed this phase already.

I'm 26, A graduate of estate valuation in Nigeria.

Graduated with 2:1 which isn't bad compared to other grades.

I graduated in 2015. it's been 5 years now, yet i couldn't land a single job (here in Nigeria, you need to know someone who will recommend you for a job, fortunately i come from a poor family, as such, i don't know any influential person who will give me a letter of recommendation.)

I decided to go Online, probably I'll make some money.

Tried affiliate networks, but seems like Nigerians have been blacklisted by almost all the Networks (tried using Chrome VPN extensions, still without success of getting into ClickBank).

Right now, I feel like I'm a failure as no one respects me in the family anymore (Including my siblings).

Lately, throughout this week, all I've been thinking of, is Taking my own life.

I know it's not the reasonable thing to do, but i feel like i will be relieved of my pains and suffering i'm going through right now.

I'll be Grateful if i could get some advice on how to stop these thoughts going on in my head.

I am not an expert, but think about your family first and how would they feel if they lose you. There are many things in life you need to see and experience, and you are still young.

You need to fight, and I get it it's very hard to live there, but you need to keep trying. If some of those methods are not working, try to find another one. Try to work on improving some of your skills, maybe you are good at graphic design or web design, or you can be a good programmer. You can try Amazon Affiliate, that should work but that requires some money to be invested.

I would recommend you to start learning something new and to work on those skills, read books, listen to music, and start walking/running where you can think more about life and other things instead of thinking about how to kill yourself.

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This guy is from Uganda, and I don't know if that country is better than yours but he is proof you can make it even from Africa.

Read 1) you can heal your life by Lois hay. 2) How to think big just read these two books come back to thank me later

If you take your own life you are just redirecting the pain to your loved ones (in that case your family). Do you really think killing yourself is the solution to all of your problems? Because it's not.
There is so much to live for and we all have to go through some pain in order to gain the pleasure (There are times when i sit in my room for 10-15 hours a day just grinding). I know that you might have a disadvantage in the current country you are living in, but it's definitely not the reason why you are not earning money right now. There are so much more possibilites to earn an online income. You just are not looking hard enough.

Learn a useful skill... become useful (provide value)... make money (win the adoration/affection/respect of your friends/family) and you won't feel like a loser and won't want to kill yourself.

So like I said, learn a useful skill and offer that service to people in the West (and perhaps create a course and help others in Nigeria to follow your path).

Useful skills right now; AI programming, Cloud computer architecture (Microsoft azure / amazon AWS), cyber security.

You can invest $100 - $1000 and take courses & get certified in any of the things I mentioned above without leaving Nigeria and you'll be able to get remote work (if you're good at your job) that pays you $100,000+ per year.

You can do this in less than 6 months.

Do you know how to code? You sound like you are plagued by impatience, I would recommend to learn a language, start with something simple like python and just focus on it, not the outcome, learn it for the sake of learning it to keep you distracted.

Life is hard but let life beat you into submission,when there is a will there is a way.I live in a "third world country" myself in the Caribbean but I don't let that stop me from achieving my goals.It's all in the mind.

My dad took his own life when I was 6 and it destroyed my family. You have no idea how much damage you will do to your family if you do that.

None of my family talk to each other anymore. Everyone is distant. Others have mental health issues which I won't say here. All because of my dad taking his own life and he never got any help.

If I was you I would forget IM and SEO and focus on yourself. Speak to a doctor and tell them about your thoughts.

htmlweeb said:

Hello guys, i know this is not an health forum but i do know that some of us here, might have passed this phase already.

I'm 26, A graduate of estate valuation in Nigeria.

Graduated with 2:1 which isn't bad compared to other grades.

I graduated in 2015. it's been 5 years now, yet i couldn't land a single job (here in Nigeria, you need to know someone who will recommend you for a job, fortunately i come from a poor family, as such, i don't know any influential person who will give me a letter of recommendation.)

I decided to go Online, probably I'll make some money.

Tried affiliate networks, but seems like Nigerians have been blacklisted by almost all the Networks (tried using Chrome VPN extensions, still without success of getting into ClickBank).

Right now, I feel like I'm a failure as no one respects me in the family anymore (Including my siblings).

Lately, throughout this week, all I've been thinking of, is Taking my own life.

I know it's not the reasonable thing to do, but i feel like i will be relieved of my pains and suffering i'm going through right now.

I'll be Grateful if i could get some advice on how to stop these thoughts going on in my head.

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I'm not a philosopher or can I write long detail advice. I can just suggest only two thing that helped me a lot while I was in failure stage.

ONE:- If you are married then think about your Wife & Children's
SECOND:- If you are not married then think about your Parents

Earths is like a dust & We are like a dust partial in this big universe - Stay Focus you will find a way

You said you feel like a failure. The people in life who are successful are the people that have been through hell and have won in spite of their circumstances, not the people that you stereotypically think are "successful".

One thing that is important to consider, because I know it's helped me when I've struggled with life before, is that you're not some exception to the norm. It feels like your situation is so much worse than other peoples' and they are so together and achieving things, but those people are just as fragile and worn out and stressed as you.. difficulty is something we all share together mate, it's not just you.

You need to try to turn your focus away from yourself as much as you possibly can. Think about other people and their lives, try not to dwell your situation. It's easier saying than doing sometimes, but you have to minimise the amount that you focus on analysing yourself, because that's what you want relief from.

Before doing anything with a permanent outcome, try to find something you can do to help someone else. It's the most freeing feeling in the world to be donating your life in service of helping someone else for no reward. Even if it's just helping someone for an afternoon or a day, you will feel better afterwards.

Also, it is very easy to have biochemical reasons for feeling depressed and exercise is the easiest way to give your endorphins a boost. Even if you really don't feel like doing it, force yourself to do some kind of gym/weightlifting. It is one of the best stress-relievers available and it can help to change the way you feel.

Don't give up bro, you've got a lot of options even if right now they're not obvious.

thegoldeneye said:

I am not an expert, but think about your family first and how would they feel if they lose you

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Seems like you have some experience.

I also have, although I am successful in what I do

if you want a tip: your life needs to have a purpose, you need to have a dream/objective to achieve, something that makes it worth living to try to reach this goal

I don't have dreams anymore, so I live in a constant state of indifference, I have dysthymia, my life hasn't been happy for a long time...I suggest you to set a purpose for your life, it can be anything that keeps you busy, focused and makes it worth to wake up early to fight for it

ziko12345 said:

Seems like you have some experience.

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I had suicidal thoughts in my past, and sometimes I get those thoughts but nothing serious. Every time I thought about taking my life I was thinking about my family and how would they feel. I don't want them to feel sad all life because of me, so we need to fight against that and to fight for a better life. My life completely changed in the last 2 years, ofc in a better way, but I think I was working hard for that.

2 years ago I was living on the parent's money and I was in college, now college is finished I have a full-time job and working IM part-time. Everything is possible.

How would suicide help? Get over yourself. Get some guts and take action; waiting ain't gonna help you. NOBODY will come down to you and beg of you to live your life.

How can people be such cowards and think of suicide? Think of your family, for Christ's sake. I am deeply disgusted that people are having such thoughts even tho THEY LIVE, and they CAN MAKE IT.

What, you think that everybody is rich? Does everybody live a happy life? No, that ain't true. You are not ALONE. Calm ur horses and start over. So infantile..

Try reading one of these books. Maybe it will help you in some way to get rid of suicidal thoughts.

1)Reasons to stay alive
2)A manual for heartbreak
3) Remember this when you are sad
4)mad girl
5)The recovery letters: Addressed to people experiencing depression.


You can read all these books on the website below for free.

https://b-ok.cc/
And please remember there are lots of people who love you. So sometimes you need to be alive for them.

Accept the virtual hug from a stranger, and feel free to message me if you want to share your feelings.

GainTheImpossible said:

How would suicide help? Get over yourself. Get some guts and take action; waiting ain't gonna help you. NOBODY will come down to you and beg of you to live your life.

How can people be such cowards and think of suicide? Think of your family, for Christ's sake. I am deeply disgusted that people are having such thoughts even tho THEY LIVE, and they CAN MAKE IT.

What, you think that everybody is rich? Does everybody live a happy life? No, that ain't true. You are not ALONE. Calm ur horses and start over. So infantile..

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Why are you homeless? Just buy a house. GTFO with this petty shit.

Mr Positive said:

Read 1) you can heal your life by Lois hay. 2) How to think big just read these two books come back to thank me later

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I read both, Louise Hay was the start of my healing journey.....

I can vouch for both these books.

talk to a resource that knows how to help you. Google
Nigerian Suicide Prevention Initiative Counselling Centre
It's free and they can get you the help you need

Please send me a PM. I will help you in a great way (no money involved, I swear!).

May the universe be with you my friend! May you feel the love of all seen and unseen forces!