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Do You Get Depressed?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by ManicMystery, Mar 6, 2011.

  1. ManicMystery

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    I do.

    Quite a lot actually and it impacts on my ability to work as well as my motivation. I'm not talking about the teenage blues either, I'm in my late 20's and past all the minor issues (in hindsight) that bother you when you're in your teens.

    We live in very interesting times but there is very little in the way of challenges. I read a quote once that stated

    That describes exactly how I feel.

    I'm a huge fan of Horatio Hornblower (books and T.V. series based on the life of a Navy officer) but I know I will never experience the thrill of discovering an unknown land and risking life and limb in the process.

    Sometimes I wish an asteroid would hit earth and throw society into utter chaos. That would be very exciting; a throw back to survival of the fittest.

    I've done some traveling, so it's not like I need to get out more but the problem is you already know what to expect. Planning a holiday? You can get an idea of where you're going by watching videos on Youtube and reading about the experiences of other people online to the point it almost feels like you've been there yourself.

    I earn my living online, I have always had a roof over my head and there has never been a day that I have gone hungry. My lot in life is better than 99% of the other people who call this planet their home.

    I'm not suicidal but I often wonder what the point of life is and I always conclude that life has no point. Some what nihilistic but then I want to know why life has no point. In the end, I guess it's all about the biological urge to procreate but that doesn't make me feel any better.
     
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  2. dantheman1370

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    Point of life can be summarized in one word: Jesus Christ
     
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  3. ManicMystery

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    Not when you're an atheist but let's not have that discussion.
     
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  4. Monrox

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    You can explore the deep sea. It's unknown, cheap and dangerous.
    But yeah, there's no point in life just like there's no point in magnetism. It simply happens if conditions are satisfied. Same molecular interactions will happen in a jar under the absolute same circmstances.
     
  5. Tirade

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    Now that you've come to the realization that there is no point to life, you've got two options. Spend years being miserable and angry about it, or accept it, move on, and create your own point.
     
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  6. thetvnun

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    the lowest common denominator of happiness is "something to look forward to" whether it is a place to go or a person to love. it sounds like you don't have that, but you do; you get to choose what it is - isnt that beautiful?

    anyway, if you cant figure it out go do some volunteer work abroad and make money im'ing to support yourself - no one can deny the joy that comes from giving. when i was making money i was miserable, sitting there, typing, getting fat, consuming 8hit. i made 10k a month and couldnt afford to fill up my gas tank because of my spending.

    now i barely get by, i am coutry-less, i travel, freelance and volunteer in 8hitholes. its fucking great. money was a lie - its just a tool. none of this would be possible without IM - the world is yours!
     
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  7. hardybents

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    Have kids. They will give you danger excitement chaos love affection hate anger and all other emotions before 8 am every single morning. If kids can't whip you out of your self centered depression, get off the computer and get outside.
     
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    Life - play ground. Suggestion: Make a goal, an unrealistic one, and do it. Prove to yourself that you're alive.


    Always works for me.
     
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  9. facebookdude

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    Dude I have felt the same. The rat race is a fucking shit race to be in. I got out and started banking online. Then I went through the same shit you describe.

    Just honestly. Get a hobbie and get fuckin good at it. Do something everyday that excites the hell out of you. Make memories because on your deathbed that's all you'll have.

    Get a girl that you really fuckin love and everyday you wake up you can't wait to see her. Go to Italy and stay in a backpackers and get fucked up every night for exactly one month. Then go to a beach just off Spain and chill.

    Hopefully this has given you a few ideas but it's a the truth. I know where you're coming from.

    I know space would be sick but the earth is pretty cool too. Take some time to check it out and you'll get what I mean ;)
     
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    The whole point of life is to discover the point of life. The great thing is that everyone has a different answer--some find it in religion, some find it in the things they love, and others find it in the people they love. It's something that should always be just beyond the edge of your grasp because life isn't something that any of us can really explain. But it should be there, tangible, comforting, and shaping you on your journey.

    There's so many amazing things to see in this world, so maybe it's time to take a break and look around! Space is vast and intriguing, but I think you'll find Earth to be a pretty beautiful place if you bother to look.

    If you don't have a lot of friends (and I mean real friends), it's time to find some. My dad took a roadtrip in his 50s with some old running buddies and it was one of the most memorable times in his life. You're never to old or young to start off driving with your buddies and hope you wind up somewhere interesting!

    Find yourself someone that you can respect, love, and laugh with and you'll find someone you can spend your life with. If you ever decide to have children, you will find that you have given yourself a whole new universe to explore--one a lot bigger and more rewarding than the "Final Frontier" :eek:

    If you you're bored with life how it is now... change it! Go to another country and explore another culture or go out for lunch and take a skydiving trip instead. Surprise yourself, challenge yourself... and find yourself.
     
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    Go {swimming|running|cycling|gym|walking} three times a week for a month and then see if you notice a difference and a bit happier
     
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    Awesome thread. The varied ways we go about dealing with.enjoying, doing, talking or not talking- in a word, BEING- is a good reminder that we have many choices no matter where we are. Good, bad, or indifferent, make a choice and hang on for the ride.
     
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    There is no point to life - life is what you make it so live each day as it were your last.

    If you want to drip around all day thinking everything is against you and you have no luck, then so be it.

    If, like the majority of people here, you want to make something of yourself, earn money, be happy, enjoy things then thats what you do.

    Nobody can preach to you the rights and wrongs of life, they are your choices and your choices only. If you fuck up then you are the only one to blame, if you get results and everything is well, then that is your success.

    I don't believe there is a god or a devil, they cannot lead or deceive, your choices are yours and yours alone.

    Depression is, mainly, a state of mind - there are some people who suffer what I call true depression but on the whole they have mental problems.

    Do I sound harsh, probably, but its how I live my life - I am not young (and not old!) and I have royally fucked up certain parts of my life but I always come back, and normally twice as strong.

    I don't want to 'be' people, I like the way certain people have climbed to the top of their game without buckets of money to start with. Life is a challenge, what a shit thing it would be if everything was handed to you on a plate.

    Anyway, end of the Sunday morning rant - enjoy life mate, grasp every day as its your last, make sure those you love know how much and have fun every frikkin day.

    Life is too short as it is!

    FB
     
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  15. zai21

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    I some what felt like you went I got successful. I started working on I guess online business when I was 12 (23 now). Once I reached my goal (19ish) I realized I got what I wanted and now... I didn't know what the fuck is the meaning of life. You save money and do nothing. But then I found my soon to be wife. She makes life enjoyable and makes me fear death just because of the fact I might loose her. Also I know if I have kids I would live for them, to make sure to help them grow and let them reach their goals.

    Also my friends. You tend to do a lot of fucking fun stuff when you're making good money. Long nights of doing dumb stuff just makes like go by fast. Trust me I say this bro, no time to be feeling down or sad. Before you know it you become old and life has already passed you.

    Fuck sleep & enjoy life.
     
  16. blackma

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    No philisophical nonsense here:

    I used to get depressed. A few months ago I drew up a plan based on research I had done on the internet. Here is what I came up with...

    Step 1: Cut out all added sugar, nicotine and caffeine. This will promote deep, restful sleep and make you more mentally prepared for coping with stress and overcoming depressing thoughts.

    Step 2: Stock up on vitamins esp. Vitamin D [sunshine vitamin :)] and B's. Omega 3, 6 and 9 are very important also. St John's wort is good as a tea also green tea seriously boosts metabolism and energy. Getting right balance of carbs and proteins and fibre.

    Step 3: Aerobic exercise. Running is probably the best option, a mile run or jog or walk, depending on your health condition, and some weight training every other day.

    Step 4: Some light therapeutic work everyday such as cleaning, painting or volunteer work.



    I used to smoke 20 marlboros daily and I even though I was working hard I was always just 40 mins away from a cigarette break and it was seriously affecting my concentration. My energy levels were shot too from smoking and eating refined junk food.


    I have implemented this for the past few months and honestly I am a new man. I now can do better work for longer.

    I occasionally think back to when I was thinking like you are. And to be honest I get embarrassed and I cringe.


    Life really is what you make it. :)
     
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    Some people just need medication. I'm in my late 20s and have been trying different ones since I was 15 or so and finally for the past 7 months or so I haven't had any depression. To be honest professional help can be a blow to the ego, but it's stupid not to get it. If you have cancer, you get whatever medical help you can, so why shouldn't you do the same if you've got something wrong with your head?

    One thing I can tell you is that personal anecdotes don't really help. You've got friends who have been through their depressions and found ways out, but different people come out of it in very different ways. Only a professional can figure out what might help you.
     
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  18. hardybents

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    It was said above and I will second it as it really makes a huge difference. Work out, run lift weights, Hit a bag, take your rage out until you have nothing left. Works for me. Stress is a very big part of depression and it comes in alot of forms. If you don't have the flight or fight situations then it get bottled up. You need the seratonean? Spelling. And endorphins poppin. Fresh air, cardio weights and the octagon. Well at least a heavy bag. Your cured
     
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    Search Google for a book called the Alchemist by Paulo Coelho.

    Certainly lifts the spirits and changes your outlook.

    Cheer up mate, your breathing after all.

    J
     
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