Attn Indians: Stop Calling People "Dear"

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nhgjob said:
For some reason Indians think that calling people "Dear" is okay.

It's not correct English.

1. The term "Dear" is what a wife calls her husband or a husband calls his wife. We Americans NEVER call each other "Dear" in the same way British people say "Mate".

2. When you use this term, you come off as a scammer because this is what online catfish scammers use.

So please stop calling people "Dear".
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Your way of starting thread totally looks like a way to make joke of Indians.

I agree calling Dear, may be is not okay.
But, I never seen this forum focusing on 100% correct English , especially American English or some other forms.

I always called, all word you used here from many of my US, UK, CAD clients.

A word used for showing respect should be respected.

Though repeatedly using or trying to get over friendly from start may create an impression of scammer.

Rest someone can identify scammers after a few minute of chat, unless he isn't willing to be a prey.
 
BassTrackerBoats said:
You can do better.
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Unless there's some sort of mutual benefit going on between myself and the person I'm dealing with.... I don't care... And YES!! The overwhelming number of Internet scams star with "Hello Dear."

Monzani said:
Unnecessary post, I don't understand the point.languages
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The OP's point is that he's received far too many scam messages and /or paid good money for poor quality work.
 
nhgjob said:
For some reason Indians think that calling people "Dear" is okay.

It's not correct English.

1. The term "Dear" is what a wife calls her husband or a husband calls his wife. We Americans NEVER call each other "Dear" in the same way British people say "Mate".

2. When you use this term, you come off as a scammer because this is what online catfish scammers use.

So please stop calling people "Dear".
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That's not true dear.

I use dear all the time.

I think its fine. No problem sir.
 
LemonAcid said:
Whenever someone calls me "Dear" i continue convo like all is ok and I respond with calling the person with "DEER" instead
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there is whole dear vs beer movie in regional india and you will ban me just for showing some action scenes
 
nhgjob said:
For some reason Indians think that calling people "Dear" is okay.

It's not correct English.

1. The term "Dear" is what a wife calls her husband or a husband calls his wife. We Americans NEVER call each other "Dear" in the same way British people say "Mate".

2. When you use this term, you come off as a scammer because this is what online catfish scammers use.

So please stop calling people "Dear".
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Sorry bro Is worst
 
This is very simple…

My intention with this thread is good as I was trying to be helpful.

I was in NO WAY trying to belittle anyone.

I was assuming that many of those who use Dear do not realize that catfish scammers use “dear” in their scams.

As someone who has used online dating, I have seen thousands of fake profiles with “Hi Dear” or been hit up with messages “What are you seeking dear”?

No real American woman would start off with that because Dear is a term of endearment.

en.dear.meant - a word or phrase expressing love or affection.

Only couples call each other dear and it is NEVER used in any other way. (Maybe a mom with her child)

It is used by people "in love with each other".

And for clarity sakes…

“Dear John” (used in a letter) is NOT the same as “Hello Dear”

I sincerely apologize to anyone who feels offended by this.

But once again, I was trying to be helpful because many of you who use Dear do not realize that you are actually doing yourself a disservice by using it with (some) Westerners as its not correct usage of the word.

It’s that simple.

If you disagree then fine but no need to take it personally.

Thank you and have a beautiful day/night : )

p.s.

I have worked with Indians for over 15 years now.

Oddly enough, the usage of "Dear" popped up 3 years ago.

Not once did I ever hear it before that from those whom I worked with.
 
nhgjob said:
This is very simple…

My intention with this thread is good as I was trying to be helpful.

I was in NO WAY trying to belittle anyone.

I was assuming that many of those who use Dear do not realize that catfish scammers use “dear” in their scams.

As someone who has used online dating, I have seen thousands of fake profiles with “Hi Dear” or been hit up with messages “What are you seeking dear”?

No real American woman would start off with that because Dear is a term of endearment.

en.dear.meant - a word or phrase expressing love or affection.

Only couples call each other dear and it is NEVER used in any other way. (Maybe a mom with her child)

It is used by people "in love with each other".

And for clarity sakes…

“Dear John” (used in a letter) is NOT the same as “Hello Dear”

I sincerely apologize to anyone who feels offended by this.

But once again, I was trying to be helpful because many of you who use Dear do not realize that you are actually doing yourself a disservice by using it with (some) Westerners as its not correct usage of the word.

It’s that simple.

If you disagree then fine but no need to take it personally.

Thank you and have a beautiful day/night : )

p.s.

I have worked with Indians for over 15 years now.

Oddly enough, the usage of "Dear" popped up 3 years ago.

Not once did I ever hear it before that from those whom I worked with.
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if you use Attn: Stop Calling People "Dear" than no-one will get offend​

 
Final thoughts…

I have learned to speak Spanish and French and from everyone I have learned from, they have always taken the time to correct me when I used the incorrect forms of their language.

I don’t take it personally because they correct me.

In fact, I am glad they are correcting me because if I am going to take the time to learn someone else's language, I want to learn the correct usage of it.

If you are going to learn to speak English, don’t you want to learn the correct usage?

And here is a tidbit for you...

The usage of "Dear" by couples was mostly in the 50's and 60's. It started to phase out after the 80's.

Now hardly any couple uses it anymore as it's a bit outdated.
 
In various geos in the world, there are various ways of addressing people and as long as no hurt is intended or expressed, it is fine.
I've travelled to the UK a few times and almost heard everyone addressing eachother as "dear" quite often.
In my particular case, I would have missed some business opportunities that were quite rewarding if I was sensitive about "dear" or "sir" or "madam".
In this modern connected world, we need to understand that not the whole world follows or can ever follow one standard protocol for general life situations.
As long as the other person intends no hurt or expresses no intention to hurt, "dear", "sir", "madam", etc are all fine. Wonderful opportunities may get missed if one is so sensitive to such general things.
 
"Dear" is usual in Globish, used widely in international companies.

I know Americans just start their email by the first name, like "John,". We do that also in French for instance in companies, but it sounds directive. So when we want to soften an email or appear friendly, we say: "dear John", or "Good morning John,", or "Bonjour John,".
 
ju112 said:
"Dear" is usual in Globish, used widely in international companies.

I know Americans just start their email by the first name, like "John,". We do that also in French for instance in companies, but it sounds directive. So when we want to soften an email or appear friendly, we say: "dear John", or "Good morning John,", or "Bonjour John,".
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Are you French? (From France or???)
 
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