softwareking
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- Jul 6, 2010
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I'm going through the same thing right now. My Wife of 9 years left me two weeks ago. This is the most horrible feeling ever.
8 years married 2nd day single?
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I'm going through the same thing right now. My Wife of 9 years left me two weeks ago. This is the most horrible feeling ever.
devilsreject
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- Nov 16, 2008
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So i guess now he's an Xrumer 
. Don't worry we've all been through this, just make the most of your new found single life and you may just find you like the extra freedom it provides, if not see comments above.....
. Don't worry we've all been through this, just make the most of your new found single life and you may just find you like the extra freedom it provides, if not see comments above.....
MoneyMakerMatt
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- Dec 4, 2009
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Thank god im married to tha money JK
JK
taberdude2
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- Feb 15, 2009
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Hi,
Not sure who left who, but I do sympathize. I've been married 12, together for 13 and I am about to go crazy. I want out so bad. Just waiting to become financially stable so I can support my 3 kids.
If it helps any-and this is how I look at. Seems I have lost myself and I am some kind of a Stepford wife. When I get out, I will be able to do what I want, when I want.
And counseling does not always help-especially if the other person is not willing to change. They have to want to change.
Not sure who left who, but I do sympathize. I've been married 12, together for 13 and I am about to go crazy. I want out so bad. Just waiting to become financially stable so I can support my 3 kids.
If it helps any-and this is how I look at. Seems I have lost myself and I am some kind of a Stepford wife. When I get out, I will be able to do what I want, when I want.
And counseling does not always help-especially if the other person is not willing to change. They have to want to change.
whiteninja
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- Aug 25, 2009
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For anyone wanting to get married just watch the movie American Beauty. That will motivate anybody to get married. (Sarcasm) I wish you all the best though.
I wish you all the best though.
tyler8541
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- Nov 15, 2008
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Hi,
Not sure who left who, but I do sympathize. I've been married 12, together for 13 and I am about to go crazy. I want out so bad. Just waiting to become financially stable so I can support my 3 kids.
If it helps any-and this is how I look at. Seems I have lost myself and I am some kind of a Stepford wife. When I get out, I will be able to do what I want, when I want.
And counseling does not always help-especially if the other person is not willing to change. They have to want to change.
This is the problem with counseling, couples go into it wanting to change each other when in reality you can only change yourself. All we can control in our lives is the way we think, the way we react, and what we say.
I've been divorced once and have been married again now for 4 years, it has not been any easier but I will say that when I learned that I can only change myself do I really understand. I always spent all my time focused on what the other person needs to change for me to be happy. If you can't be happy with yourself first, you will never be happy.
Time does heal all wounds, just enjoy your new found freedom and learn from your mistakes. It's only a mistake when you don't learn from it right?
knowledge+understanding=wisdom
Compatibility, friendship, and respect for each other are important. But that's not enough. Those are just a few of the requirements some of us look for, but those things don't even begin to describe Love. If the relationship has no integrity and there's too much missing, it's time for you to move on. I'm so sorry for the loss you're feeling. Someday, you might find someone who can be more fulfilling to you. Don't be sad because it's over. Be happy that it happened. Love can be so many things, but it should never be miserable. Love to me is waking up next to the same wonderful person I've been married to for the last 40 years. We've gone through some very tough times, and some very good times, but we always do thoughtful things for each other every day. I hope you find that kind of relationship someday...
hardinflash
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- Jan 15, 2010
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Man, I think relationships are the absolute hardest part of life. No matter if it's simply friends or as intense as marriage. People are constantly changing throughout the course of life, it's impossible to keep up. I have even seen myself change drastically from being crazy and willing to do anything into the guy that makes sure everyone puts on their seat belt when they get into the car.
I've never been married, been with my girlfriend for about 3 years but I guess all I would say is put one foot in front of the other and see where life takes you. If you're having a lot of trouble coping then do a bit of traveling and see for yourself that there's a lot more out there than what most people really think.
I've never been married, been with my girlfriend for about 3 years but I guess all I would say is put one foot in front of the other and see where life takes you. If you're having a lot of trouble coping then do a bit of traveling and see for yourself that there's a lot more out there than what most people really think.
xboxps3wow
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- Jan 15, 2010
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nope... never had a gf, life is sad
alexaassassin
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- Feb 9, 2009
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I'd say the OP was a Pisces who was with a Libra whom she loved but he
stuck tiny daggers in her heart over and over (unknowingly - the worst way)
...but since she loves money...hmm ... Taurus or Capricorn?
OP - PM me with your signs - I JUST GOTTA know.
(I'm a Scorpio - the other "learn-ed" Scorpio males want to know the same thing. lol)
stuck tiny daggers in her heart over and over (unknowingly - the worst way)
...but since she loves money...hmm ... Taurus or Capricorn?
OP - PM me with your signs - I JUST GOTTA know.
(I'm a Scorpio - the other "learn-ed" Scorpio males want to know the same thing. lol)
noob411
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- Feb 22, 2009
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Hey thanks you guys I had to take a couple of days to get some shit together. He took all the $$$ out of the bank l. So i had to get creative as I have BILLS to pay and a 4 year old baby to feed. All is well now on that aspect. I am actually no longer nuts as I am a wee bit angry. But that will pass........ until it does and if he reads this.......cause he does troll......
Hey ASSHOLE YOU Took all the MONEY BUT It only took Me 2 DAYS and My rents paid 2 months in advance My Bills Paid Tons of FOOD and cash in my pocket So get your Fucking ass back to portland ..........
Hey ASSHOLE YOU Took all the MONEY BUT It only took Me 2 DAYS and My rents paid 2 months in advance My Bills Paid Tons of FOOD and cash in my pocket So get your Fucking ass back to portland ..........
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Punsh that douche in the face for me if you see him again. Leaving a wife and a child without money on their own ... it really does not get much lower.
What's his username on this forum? Just to know who to never do business with..
- Jun 23, 2010
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on a serious note, im sorry for your situation. however, all these people giving advice (myself included) should know that there are always 3 sides to a story. Her Side, His Side, and The Truth. For all we know, she cheated on him (im not saying you did), but the point is, we dont know anything about this situation apart from what Shes told us. Either way though, I hope you feel better!
