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8 years married 2nd day single?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by noob411, Jul 25, 2010.

  1. softwareking

    softwareking Newbie

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    I'm going through the same thing right now. My Wife of 9 years left me two weeks ago. This is the most horrible feeling ever.
     
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  2. devilsreject

    devilsreject Registered Member

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    So i guess now he's an Xrumer :p. Don't worry we've all been through this, just make the most of your new found single life and you may just find you like the extra freedom it provides, if not see comments above.....
     
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  3. MoneyMakerMatt

    MoneyMakerMatt Junior Member

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    Thank god im married to tha money :) JK
     
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  4. taberdude2

    taberdude2 Junior Member

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    Hi,

    Not sure who left who, but I do sympathize. I've been married 12, together for 13 and I am about to go crazy. I want out so bad. Just waiting to become financially stable so I can support my 3 kids.

    If it helps any-and this is how I look at. Seems I have lost myself and I am some kind of a Stepford wife. When I get out, I will be able to do what I want, when I want.

    And counseling does not always help-especially if the other person is not willing to change. They have to want to change. :)
     
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  5. whiteninja

    whiteninja Regular Member

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    For anyone wanting to get married just watch the movie American Beauty. That will motivate anybody to get married. (Sarcasm) :) I wish you all the best though.
     
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  6. tyler8541

    tyler8541 Regular Member

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    This is the problem with counseling, couples go into it wanting to change each other when in reality you can only change yourself. All we can control in our lives is the way we think, the way we react, and what we say.

    I've been divorced once and have been married again now for 4 years, it has not been any easier but I will say that when I learned that I can only change myself do I really understand. I always spent all my time focused on what the other person needs to change for me to be happy. If you can't be happy with yourself first, you will never be happy.

    Time does heal all wounds, just enjoy your new found freedom and learn from your mistakes. It's only a mistake when you don't learn from it right?:)

    knowledge+understanding=wisdom
     
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  7. Lenny57

    Lenny57 Newbie

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    Compatibility, friendship, and respect for each other are important. But that's not enough. Those are just a few of the requirements some of us look for, but those things don't even begin to describe Love. If the relationship has no integrity and there's too much missing, it's time for you to move on. I'm so sorry for the loss you're feeling. Someday, you might find someone who can be more fulfilling to you. Don't be sad because it's over. Be happy that it happened. Love can be so many things, but it should never be miserable. Love to me is waking up next to the same wonderful person I've been married to for the last 40 years. We've gone through some very tough times, and some very good times, but we always do thoughtful things for each other every day. I hope you find that kind of relationship someday...
     
  8. hardinflash

    hardinflash Regular Member

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    Man, I think relationships are the absolute hardest part of life. No matter if it's simply friends or as intense as marriage. People are constantly changing throughout the course of life, it's impossible to keep up. I have even seen myself change drastically from being crazy and willing to do anything into the guy that makes sure everyone puts on their seat belt when they get into the car.

    I've never been married, been with my girlfriend for about 3 years but I guess all I would say is put one foot in front of the other and see where life takes you. If you're having a lot of trouble coping then do a bit of traveling and see for yourself that there's a lot more out there than what most people really think.
     
  9. xboxps3wow

    xboxps3wow Power Member

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    nope... never had a gf, life is sad
     
  10. alexaassassin

    alexaassassin Registered Member

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    I'd say the OP was a Pisces who was with a Libra whom she loved but he
    stuck tiny daggers in her heart over and over (unknowingly - the worst way)

    ...but since she loves money...hmm ... Taurus or Capricorn?

    OP - PM me with your signs - I JUST GOTTA know.
    (I'm a Scorpio - the other "learn-ed" Scorpio males want to know the same thing. lol)
     
  11. noob411

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    Hey thanks you guys I had to take a couple of days to get some shit together. He took all the $$$ out of the bank l. So i had to get creative as I have BILLS to pay and a 4 year old baby to feed. All is well now on that aspect. I am actually no longer nuts as I am a wee bit angry. But that will pass........ until it does and if he reads this.......cause he does troll......
    Hey ASSHOLE YOU Took all the MONEY BUT It only took Me 2 DAYS and My rents paid 2 months in advance My Bills Paid Tons of FOOD and cash in my pocket So get your Fucking ass back to portland ..........
     
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  12. darkface

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    Punsh that douche in the face for me if you see him again. Leaving a wife and a child without money on their own ... it really does not get much lower.

    What's his username on this forum? Just to know who to never do business with..
     
  13. betster77

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    Bitches are like kleenex... blow on em once then throw that shit away.
     
  14. mudbutt

    mudbutt Executive VIP Jr. VIP Premium Member

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    on a serious note, im sorry for your situation. however, all these people giving advice (myself included) should know that there are always 3 sides to a story. Her Side, His Side, and The Truth. For all we know, she cheated on him (im not saying you did), but the point is, we dont know anything about this situation apart from what Shes told us. Either way though, I hope you feel better!
     
  15. troybh

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    Post some naked pictures of yourself on BHW and that will really piss him off.
     
  16. spollacs

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    Thats why I wanna live my life until im 30 and find the girl of my dreams. I want someone to grow old with until the day i die.
     
  17. xXSebaSXx

    xXSebaSXx Registered Member

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    Been there done that ~twice actually~
    I could tell you it will be quick and painless, but we all know that's not true. Just live your life day to day and eventually the pain will go away.