Different things motivate different people at different times. But we all have a common motivator that's commonly overlooked.
Early on, money, just proving to myself I could make money online was all the motivation I needed. Money was the fire. The timbers were feeling like a financial failure for most my life. Knowing I'm smart, knowing how hard I'll work, knowing what I "got".... but knowing I wasn't making what I thought I "deserved".
Even after college I had this attitude of entitlement. Like "I got my degree now bitches, feed me money".
Then I had the harsh realization that's not how life works lol.
I got this fancy degree, all this new knowledge & confidence... yet I couldn't find a good job. Cause I didn't really specialize at anything (legal I should say lol). So I worked some min wage shit job while focusing on the "bigger" things in life. I couldn't help notice how certain dudes were moving up to high positions & making shitloads of money. People who were all form and no content. This told me that good form can take you real far in life. Even if you suck at most things. I also learned this in the PUA community. It doesn't matter what you say to a girl but how you say it. Form. Content is important in the long run. But I was amazed how quick and far people were getting on mere form.
So naturally, I focused more on my form. Around this time I found marketing forums. And I put on my Patrick Bateman mask.
I stopped asking for situations & started creating situations. Like with women at bars in college. Early on always played polite and asked for the #. Then this intuitive switch went off. I became a psychopath of the sorts. Cold, calculated, confident... I became the guy with form to demand numbers. I stopped focusing on the target and focused on who was making her decisions (usually friends). So I'd attack those networks. Seduce with evil, divide and conquer.
With marketing I noticed similar forces worked really well. I targeted vulnerable business owners, attacked their networks, friends, salesman.... got lucky and made lots of money.
But then I became really unhappy. And I lost tons of motivation. Wasn't sure why (you'll realize at the end).
Once I got money I realized that desire for money only begets more desire.... for more money. You realize either consciously or intuitively that capitalism is a game best played by psychopaths. This is why CEOs consistently test higher on the psychopathy scale than any other career. Even judges, lawyers, police and politicians.
Anyway, you have this money. Then you realize your main motivation and desire (money) is just an endless loop. Which can kill your motivation. The "answer" for me was to learn and grow through self discovery. To find people, things, books.... whatever resonated with me that I thought was important. Asking questions like "is it really that important to be happy in life?" "How often should I be happy?" Is happiness a form of selfishness? A false dream that institutional psychopathic capitalism has force fed to consumeristic society? That you shouldn't be as happy as me cause I have more toys? This may read like a black comedy. But these are natural laws governing the emotions of so many people that surround us.
To me, happiness is a ruse. It's not the primary drive of motivation. It's not something you chase. If you're on the persuit of happiness you'll either wind up on prozac or a mansion with a noose around your neck.
For animals, food, sex and not being eaten are the basic 3 motivators. So if you have food, sex, security.... if you're a lion.... you'll spend most your time playing in grass.
Where humans are REALLY TRULY unique, motivation wise, is our >>>morals.
Look at politics these days. Look how far all this politically correct shit has gone. It can seem annoying but you gotta wonder WHY it drives people so much? Look at daily life. Look at this forum. Look how motivated people get anytime a scammer is exposed. Look at what parents try so hard to instill in their children.
I'm going with my gut on this. But if you really wanna stay motivated in life.... focus on being a moral person. Discover your moral landscape. Make that landscape something you're willing to stand on. You'll notice the more you do this, the more you'll wanna stand for something. The more you'll wanna share your morals with others. The more those morals ripple out and bounceback on you. Which will in turn drive you more and more.
Morals are the fabric that shape nearly every decision you'll ever make. Whether you realize it or not. Morals are why we remember historical figures. Morals are more contagious than happiness, depression... any single human emotion I can think of. Cause morality isn't an emotion. It's the mold we pour our emotions into. It's what people will remember you for more than anything after you die. So what, if anything, can motivate you more than your own morals?
-BB
