Video games useless. Better get some nice relationships. It's more useful and pleasant too.
If you want to improve yourself, it's best to consult a professional. Someone else will have much bigger impact if you trust them. They will answer your very personal questions. That's much better experience than a random book.
It sucks that every book contradicts what other books say. Think psychology (important in improvement). There are many approaches to this. Yet one approach contradicts another. Without someone's help it gets confusing and it feels kinda pointless...
Well, I have been a competetive gamer for a long time. But when I get into it, I don't care about work etc. The only gaming I accept now is some Nintendo Switch with my fiance.
Books do contradict each other thats true. Im trying to just get bits and pieces from various books and create my own path and strategies.
That being said, I think basic human psychology books can teach out everything. Once you know human pyschology, you can create your own "strategies", cause this is one thing that all other books are based on.
You mean more dopamine gets released during work and you have a steady flow of it.
If you get a huge release of dopamine (eg. Amphetamine), you can work with flow for 20 hours.
It means that more dopamine is beneficial for productivity.
Remove all pleasure from your life, you're gonna get hollow and depressed.
Good luck and before you do something like restrictions, consider if you're just idealizing removing something from your life.
Adding some cold showers is basically boring and sounds try hard. It. Just go out in t-shirt and do some gardening and stuff like that. Help someone just for fhe sake of it...
It's easy to tell yourself lies but it's like prayers. Fake shit.
People really go crazy with it. Then they suffer and blame it on the world. The problem is they tried to apply some hyped up gimmicks. You can do it but more randomly when you feel like it. Forcing yourself to do something like that is just gonna make you used to it and it should be fun... Just doing it everyday is really shallow experience that brings in more annoyance than benefit.
Think going in winter with someone to open pool. That sounds much better.
A real specialist can give you 390 techniques to make yourself feel good. People assume YouTube and podcasts are a good source of knowledge. No...
Personalization is key. Just applying random shit from random sources (doesn't matter if it's authority book or channel) ain't gonna change crap.
Its more like. Remove exesive dopmaine that doesn't matter in the end. Now I get dopamine from work, making money, closing deals, spending time with my fiance and working out in the gym.
The thing is, when I go to bed, I feel satisfied and happy. When I got my dopamine from gaming or tiktok, I did not have that feeling of satisfaction.
Don't remove pleasures, just spend time on things that give you pleasure and satisfaction.
About cold showers and ice baths:
you do not get used to that. It is always a mental challenge to get in that water. But once you overcome it, everything else feels easier during the day. If I can get into that cold as fck water, I can call that client, close that deal etc.
I don't spend 3 hours on my morning routine, but that one thing makes me feel energized, awake and there is plenty of health benefits as far as I know, but its not why Im doing this.
Call it a gimmick or whatever, but it works for me. It puts me outside my comfort zone, and this is the place I want to spend time to grow stronger mindset.
Open pool in winter or sea is something I also do!
Would love to hear more about the real estate project.
Cold showers are amazing but I couldn‘t keep myself to do it.
Somehow it felt like it took all my will power for the day away but I want to get into it again soon.
I think with real estate a lot can be scraped and automated too.
I need one hour of competitive games per day to have some peace from work.
Glad to hear! Might make a new journey once I get more experience.
I also took long breaks from cold showers, it's hard to keep it up. But currently, this is one of my goals, to do it everyday this year. I hope I can keep it up. Should get easier once its not cold outside.
About the will power, it usually works for me in other direction. Wakes me up and gives motivation. But sometimes I do it before bed and no trouble falling asleep!
Some gaming is nice, I just get easily addicted. Like I have a need to become the best and grind... thats why detox was needed in my case.
Who or what would you ask in the desert. There's a lot of stuff going on like circumstances, your current knowledge and intelligence you're born with.
This is wishful thinking. Sounds a lot like that stuff I see on YouTube...
Nothing happens to anyone because they want it. Bad or zero people around.
Go to a ghetto or some shitty place. Those people ask hundreds times a day for something. Nothing happens...
I'm trying to read through this journey but unfortunately I find you're trying to make your already good life better with some badly matched advice.
You became an engineer at the age of 21 at top tech company. There's no other way to explain that than exceptional talent.
Saying it's been hard work is pointless. An average person works really hard yet they usually get low results.
Exactly. Never trust gurus and random books.
What I was trying to say here, is not some random quote, but what I found worked in my experience.
I literally decided to call some random agent I found on tiktok (on the toilet of course), cause why not and try to buy his services. Become business buddies and try to convince him to work "for me". Just from that one call, Im closing now two real estate purchases on nice prices.
If you don't ask because you are afraid, you might miss on something. Networking and relations is the power in my opinion.
That being said, I am not saying that my findings apply to every situation in life. There are places, that are so shitty, it can be extremly hard to achieve something.
But you can take that logic to anything. There are always exceptions to the rule.
I still stand by a fact that even in shitty place, if you have internet, you might miss on opportunity if you don't ask someone about something.
Also I am not a genius nor do I have exceptional talents. I think I have strong traits in some ways, but wouldn't go too far.
Well, it's been quite a lot of message to responds to here. Glad some of you enjoyed this post. The things Im saying are working for me.
I like to challenge myself with cold shower.
I got results by asking for something, that I never thought were possible.
It might work for some of you, and for some it might be stupid advice depending on situation.
Wish everyone all the best in their journies. Whatevery they are.