Went to a bar alone tonight.

[Conjecting]

At the risk of my own dignity, I’ll transparently say I don’t have many friends these days.

I probably have 2-3 genuine friends - the rest have gone onto college or married. Most of my social circle has sort or deteriorated after high school. And I don’t think that’s abnormal - I’m not some sort of freak recluse, it’s just that most of my friends have done their own thing.

My girlfriend went on a family vacation this week, and I realized something… Most of my current friends are directly from her social circle. Makes me feel like a bit of a mooch.

Since she wasn’t around, I decided to go to a bar completely alone.

Might not sound like much, but I read in a book before that the best skill a man can master is the ability to be content alone. This was probably 2-3 years ago - I’ve never mustered the courage to actually do it. It just petrified me for some reason.

Tonight I did it.

It was a fucking blast. Didn’t go in with any expectations - just wanted to prove to myself I could do it. I had a few shots beforehand, and ended up shooting the shit with some random dude about stocks, marketing, and the politics. Had a girl hit on me, but I quickly shut her down and kept conversating with a newly made friend.

I was worried I’d look like some kind of weirdo - but it was quite the opposite. I don’t even know why I’m posting this, but I highly recommend trying it.

It’s very fulfilling.

 

[Sett_Main]

Red flag your girl went on a "family trip" without you. Should have talked to the girl at the bar more.

 

[Razentyler]

Absolutely agree, Being happy alone is the best skill you could ever have these days..

 

[Heiko]

Red flag your girl went on a "family trip" without you. Should have talked to the girl at the bar more.

LOL.. what?

 

[Sett_Main]

LOL.. what?

? Sounds like they are adults no? All the successful relationships I know of do family things - like go on trips with the in-laws, together.

She went on a "family trip" during spring break? Ya, its a red flag.

 

[NirvanaWolf]

Red flag your girl went on a "family trip" without you. Should have talked to the girl at the bar more.

A girl is allowed to have her personal space and time. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you have to spend 24/7/365 together.

 

[Sett_Main]

A girl is allowed to have her personal space and time. Bring in a relationship doesn't mean you have to spend 24/7/365 together.

A woman that truly loves her man doesnt want to do things without him.

You sound like a feminist talking point.

 

[NirvanaWolf]

A woman that truly loves her man doesnt want to do things without him.

That's narcissistic.

 

[Heiko]

A woman that truly loves her man doesnt want to do things without him.

You sound like a feminist talking point.

Bullshit.

 

[Sett_Main]

That's narcissistic.

lmfao. typical response

NOthing ive said involves "someone who is overly self-involved, and often vain and selfish"

Learn the definition before throwing words around.

 

[Sett_Main]

Bullshit.

k

 

[Conjecting]

Red flag your girl went on a "family trip" without you. Should have talked to the girl at the bar more.

Lol, your full of shit bro. Not sure if you’ve never been in a relationship yourself or you’re just ignorant, but being able to grow independently is a key to making a relationship work. Try being a controlling prick and see how it works out for you.

I was invited on this trip, and have met her family but turned it down because most of my free time as it is is spent with my girlfriend, and I wanted to prove to myself I could make friends on my own.

 

[NirvanaWolf]

lmfao. typical response

NOthing ive said involves "someone who is overly self-involved, and often vain and selfish"

Learn the definition before throwing words around.

You dimwit. Sometimes I really have to control myself from abusing someone on here because I don't want to get banned for personal attacks.
The fact that you want a girl to spend her entire time, ignoring her needs and personal space is the biggest red flag. I feel sorry for your girlfriend already, if you have one that is which is highly unlikely. Gtfo.

Narcissism is extreme self-involvement to the degree that it makes a person ignore the needs of those around them.

 

[BassTrackerBoats]

A woman that truly loves her man doesnt want to do things without him.

You sound like a feminist talking point.

You are so off base the content is an embarrassment.

 

[Sett_Main]

Lol, your full of shit bro. Not sure if you’ve never been in a relationship yourself or you’re just ignorant, but being able to grow independently is a key to making a relationship work. Try being a controlling prick and see how it works out for you.

I was invited on this trip, and have met her family but turned it down because most of my free time as it is is spent with my girlfriend, and I wanted to prove to myself I could make friends on my own.

who said anything about being controlling?

lmfao. get out yo feelings.

 

[BassTrackerBoats]

who said anything about being controlling?

lmfao. get out yo feelings.

Go away.

 

[NirvanaWolf]

Go away.

Thank you. Love it when the ban hammer drops in at the right time.

 

[BassTrackerBoats]

Thank you. Love it when the ban hammer drops in at the right time.

My tolerance for abusing others is quite low and especially when they target a fellow staff member.

That person can feel free to to to Redddit and clown about but their presence is not something that BHW thinks is best for the community.

 

[drdcash]

At the risk of my own dignity, I’ll transparently say I don’t have many friends these days.

I probably have 2-3 genuine friends - the rest have gone onto college or married. Most of my social circle has sort or deteriorated after high school. And I don’t think that’s abnormal - I’m not some sort of freak recluse, it’s just that most of my friends have done their own thing.

My girlfriend went on a family vacation this week, and I realized something… Most of my current friends are directly from her social circle. Makes me feel like a bit of a mooch.

Since she wasn’t around, I decided to go to a bar completely alone.

Might not sound like much, but I read in a book before that the best skill a man can master is the ability to be content alone. This was probably 2-3 years ago - I’ve never mustered the courage to actually do it. It just petrified me for some reason.

Tonight I did it.

It was a fucking blast. Didn’t go in with any expectations - just wanted to prove to myself I could do it. I had a few shots beforehand, and ended up shooting the shit with some random dude about stocks, marketing, and the politics. Had a girl hit on me, but I quickly shut her down and kept conversating with a newly made friend.

I was worried I’d look like some kind of weirdo - but it was quite the opposite. I don’t even know why I’m posting this, but I highly recommend trying it.

It’s very fulfilling.

That's a great step you took OP. I would also like to try what you did. As in my case, I would always try to get the things done/ done what I came for when I go a to a place rather than waiting around chilling, but the thing is I also like to casually wait and pass some time.

While Bar is a great place to make new friends, in my culture not that much of a great place I think (or since I haven't tried I might have never known). But really enjoyed your story, please continue with your expedition.

 

[Thunder Digitals]

At the risk of my own dignity, I’ll transparently say I don’t have many friends these days.

I probably have 2-3 genuine friends - the rest have gone onto college or married. Most of my social circle has sort or deteriorated after high school. And I don’t think that’s abnormal - I’m not some sort of freak recluse, it’s just that most of my friends have done their own thing.

My girlfriend went on a family vacation this week, and I realized something… Most of my current friends are directly from her social circle. Makes me feel like a bit of a mooch.

Since she wasn’t around, I decided to go to a bar completely alone.

Might not sound like much, but I read in a book before that the best skill a man can master is the ability to be content alone. This was probably 2-3 years ago - I’ve never mustered the courage to actually do it. It just petrified me for some reason.

Tonight I did it.

It was a fucking blast. Didn’t go in with any expectations - just wanted to prove to myself I could do it. I had a few shots beforehand, and ended up shooting the shit with some random dude about stocks, marketing, and the politics. Had a girl hit on me, but I quickly shut her down and kept conversating with a newly made friend.

I was worried I’d look like some kind of weirdo - but it was quite the opposite. I don’t even know why I’m posting this, but I highly recommend trying it.

It’s very fulfilling.

Remember if you can't enjoy while you are alone. Then you can't enjoy it at all.