Help me BHW to get over my depression

[Dresden]

Morning: Glass of milk with chips.
Afternoon: Only snacks
Evening: Rice and curd.

How do you expect to gain weight eating 1 meal throughout the day? You should be eating that much in one sitting(even more) 3-4 times a day then hit the gym or get a bench and some weights if you have the space.

 

[Terax]

I guess somewhere you have to strike a balance or make a compromise if you really want to take care of your health. 17 to 18 hours of work is lot of hours, try to save some time for relaxation and follow a healthy diet. And cheer up never let inferiority complex eat you up, its like a parasite which sucks you dry of all happiness and good health.

I come from a poor family and my dad and mom pay was 300$ a month and had to take care of 5 family members, me and my 2 sisters and fast-forward it took me 3 years to reach at this point so messing my work schedule is never an option for me.

You need revital - Jioh, jee varke (translation: Live your life to your heart's content).

Just kidding!

Go talk to a therapist to begin with. Your weight/looks has nothing to do with you being taken seriously. Speak to a dietitian if you really want to increase your weight. Also, weed isn't really a bad thing if you want to increase your weight. You just need to follow that up with some heavy, but healthy meal. My suggestion, eat 6 times a day. Don't eat too much, but eat frequently. It works!

Sure mate, will try to do this.

forget about your problems with weight etc..
focus only on success in your work.

I have to focus on both now its not like i want to become body builder just want be fit.

Meditation, affirmations, visualization. You have to gain control of your mind to be able to obtain self discipline. Youtube has a lot of videos that'll help you do this. If you want to meditate to music, get to know the significance of hz. Work with the laws of the universe, not against them. I know this may not seem like the answer, but if you truly dedicate yourself you will see results, these simple practices can help more than you imagine. In order to obtain external results, you must start internally. We are all one, I wish you great success and happiness.

Youtube is full of information but finding the valuable one is like finding the needle in sand, can you share some to start

First of all, you need to like yourself (I know it's not easy, but you really need to at least work on this, no matter what), stop comparing yourself to others, absolutely you should not hate other people because in your opinion they look better than you (I know people like this, they will literally HATE you and blame you that you look "better" in their eyes, very annoying) and also you should stop looking for validation from others. Internal work is the best cure for low self-esteem.

I try to work on myself every single day. I am making mistakes, I am not perfect but at least I am trying to be better, overall as person, but not for others, only for myself.

And of course, it's good to go to the gym and keep diet, but do this more for yourself and your mental health, rather than for other people. And remember (I know, it's cliche) the most beautiful people are those you have good hearts and beautiful souls.

Reading your comment made my day, I really need people like you in my real life

 

[karol_ina]

I think its time for you to make some changes.

• Go out and make friends
• Water Treatment
• eat green foods
• Drink Wine

I hope this one helps

 

[Aleksandr2992]

I have to focus on both now its not like i want to become body builder just want be fit.

to be attractive for girls? They don't care how you looks like if you have alot of money and don't care how you looks like if you don't have money... goal should be 1. Need sucrafice everything to it. Of course a little gym necessary to stay healthy but not too much.

 

[Ghost Guy]

Drink milk 3-4 times a day

 

[Adekale]

One of the best ways to solve depression is by loving others and they will reciprocate your love by loving you in return and companionship will be established which is antidote to depression. Aboveall surrender to Jesus, the one that can turn around all things and fill your heart with overwhelming love and joy.

God bless you

 

[ShashiKumaar]

DEPRESSION IS A CANCER. BE A SUCCESSFUL MAN! FOCUS ON WHAT YOU DO or YOU ARE GOOD AT IT(MONEY). END OF THE DAY EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE. YOU WILL HAVE EVERYTHING WHICH HAD DESIRED SINCE YOUR OLD DAYS.

 

[t2van]

Drink lemon juice every morning to kickstart your motabalism.

WTF does that have to do with gaining weight... that's for weight loss but id hardly recommend lemon juice...

OP - your on a poor mans rice diet no wonder you can't put the weight on you need to start to packing some meat /fish & veg into your diet. Introduce a little slowly other wise you will have some issues with your gut coming to digest it as it will be a shock to your body (i.e will cause the shits)

If you want to keep what your eating that's fine I got a rice diet plan you can follow I used to use to cut weight but you can add to it to give you a fuller meal.

As for your attitude / mood etc what you eat DOES have some controlling factors on that so putting on some weight and eating a bit more may help with that.

Lastly at your weight if you go to the gym you just need to hit free weights ITS going to take you at least 12 weeks before you see some gains BUT unless you sort out your meal plans or start taking loads of protein shakes progress is going to be slow. You want to set 3 month targets to start bulking up but It's going to take 12-18 months the problem with the gym is you have to be a realist and the problem is most are not.

If you are super busy the answer is simple.

Start earlier!

 

[wroundingcorner369]

The channels on YouTube (IMO) I thought gave me the most useful information are YouAreCreators; Youruniverse; temple sounds has some good options if it helps to listen to music while meditating and working with your 7 chakras. Law of attraction and affirmations you’ll just have to find something that clicks with you

 

[msyaz]

Do you believe in God?

 

[2richtospeak]

I grew up skinny and I know how hard it is to eat a lot of food to gain weight.

But there’s easy ways to do it, even around a busy schedule.

My biggest advice is to start your day off RIGHT with a big breakfast. I know I know, you don’t have an appetite in the morning. Mix up a shake with a cup of oatmeal, cup of milk, scoop of protein, and 2 tbsp of peanutbutter and down it as quick as possible. That’s already 800 calories! This will also get your metabolism going and make you hungrier throughout the day.

Also, don’t snack on junk food throughout the day, that’s a really good way to ruin your appetite. Wait for your meals and eat big!

i hope this helps, good luck!

Disclaimer: I’m not a nutritionist so don’t take this as professional advice.

This a very valuable advise that you should consider and run with, plus take some hours break during the day to lay down face up and have an intentional or non intentional nap, also consider seeing a doctor (possibly getting an appetite(apetamine in my own case) syrup with good amino acid combo, that as well can make you relax)
Disclaimer: I'm not a practicing nutritionist/biochemist or a doctor so consider getting a more professional advice.

 

[wroundingcorner369]

Do you believe in God?

I don’t believe that’s an appropriate conversation for here, but continue to work on yourself and positive things will happen!

 

[AlphaMind]

Get to the gym and pump some iron and do this a lot. Replace the weed with protein shakes and there's nothing wrong with rice/curd just eat more of it.

You sound like the type of guy that doesn't have to worry about getting fat so it's better to eat more, than eat less.

Ditch the weed completely or just keep it strictly as a sleep aid. I find weed augments whatever mood you're in. If you're happy it makes you happier, but if you're sad, it makes you feel worse.

 

[PinguSpy]

Ashwagandha, L-Theanine,
I dont feel depress for over a year because of this

 

[starcity83]

You might try CBD oil instead of weed, you get the calm without the high. Also fish oil, multi-vitamin, keep exercising, try to find a hobby you like. Bookmark and stay on blackhatworld, the people are great on here and will always try and help with whateve.Good luck buddy, hang in there.