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What about pressure from family, friends and society ? And the desire to leave a child behind to look after what you acquired in life ?
Married vs married life- Pros and cons
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The pressure is what puts me off most. My partner goes on about it ALL THE TIME.
And her mates always feel the need to bring it up. But marriage isn’t about anyone but the two people involved imho.
And I already have two children with my partner.
I don’t know. Just feel like society puts too much pressure on people to marry, and what does it really mean anyway? Costs a fortune, everyone extorts you when you mention marriage, and it’s only a construct of our society. An unmarried couple could last much longer than a married couple, or vice versa.
Funny I just read this statistic in one of my textbooks haha
Zbigniew
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In the western world the relationship between man and woman has been damaged greatly. So for most people, I would assume that marriage is not a winning game. There is too much egoism and decadence involved, in general.
Society is fundamentally wrong today and a lot of people are emotionally and mentally confused and ill. Making it almost impossible for them to find a healthy partner and relationship. Speaking in general terms, of course. If they can't find happiness or discipline with themselves, they won't with a partner either.
However, I do believe in marriage between two fairly stable people with some-what common sense. The people who keep on poisoning their mind and bodies with garbage that current norms tell them to, will probably not find happiness in marriage.
Society is fundamentally wrong today and a lot of people are emotionally and mentally confused and ill. Making it almost impossible for them to find a healthy partner and relationship. Speaking in general terms, of course. If they can't find happiness or discipline with themselves, they won't with a partner either.
However, I do believe in marriage between two fairly stable people with some-what common sense. The people who keep on poisoning their mind and bodies with garbage that current norms tell them to, will probably not find happiness in marriage.
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Marriage per se gives stability and a strong foundation to build really meaningful things such as growing a child.
With that being said, a good marriage needs work and maintenance, this is what most peope fail to understand or forget as the time passes.
With that being said, a good marriage needs work and maintenance, this is what most peope fail to understand or forget as the time passes.
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Genuine request - can someone explain this logic to me? I don't understand the marriage means stability idea. The only thing I see more stable about it is there's a financial penalty for getting out of it. If my relationship requires blackmail to survive that doesn't sound like a great relationship.
If I'm not being clear: I'm not saying all marriages work because they can't afford a divorce. I'm saying I don't see why a marriage is any different to a committed relationship. In some ways, it's worse.
In fact fuck. I used to have neighbours who would scream at each other 6 nights a week. Most miserable sounding people I've ever heard in my life and it was obviously fucking with the kid. When asked why they were together they couldn't afford a divorce. If that's stability I'm out.
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I think I speak for a lot of people when I say, "who cares"
SEOMadHatter
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Especially on the 'what I acquired in life' front. Who gives a shit?
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Having a companion helps celebrate when you acquire something good in life.
SEOMadHatter
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I think you missed the context to the post you quoted. But, that aside, sure a companion to celebrate success with is a good thing but I don't personally think marriage adds anything to that.
