Married vs married life- Pros and cons

Lots of wise words in here! Considering the decline of western women and divorce rates, I'm not getting married. Unless my dick tricks me Into it.
 
The legend himself has spoken.

And by north you mean north east England?

East / West take your pick. Nothing quite impresses them more than a chippy dinner. There's an old saying in Blackpool after one has doubled their benefits on the slot machines. Winner winner chippy dinner.
 
Actually, in some countries, the laws are made so biased that people fear of getting married. In Short, the laws instead of trying to stop divorce are indirectly incentivising divorce.
 
I think mindset of people around you is game changer. When I was not married things were 80% fine, even when earning were less. After marriage in two years I had 100 times more earning, but less focus . My mom angry women just fighting , blaming my wife and office is below home in same building so complaining about my wife and this shit become worse, when she started to abuse my wife her parents even when she was pregnant. A baby boy born and died a couple of months back, doctor said fight during pregnancy is the reason.
My two projects worth $5k/month and $2k/month lost due to this bullshit.

My married life is hell for me and my wife.
 
Actually, in some countries, the laws are made so biased that people fear of getting married. In Short, the laws instead of trying to stop divorce are indirectly incentivising divorce.

I think mindset of people around you is game changer. When I was not married things were 80% fine, even when earning were less. After marriage in two years I had 100 times more earning, but less focus . My mom angry women just fighting , blaming my wife and office is below home in same building so complaining about my wife and this shit become worse, when she started to abuse my wife her parents even when she was pregnant. A baby boy born and died a couple of months back, doctor said fight during pregnancy is the reason.
My two projects worth $5k/month and $2k/month lost due to this bullshit.

My married life is hell for me and my wife.

What is the solution guys in your opinion ? If we have to replace marriage structure, we need to have a better structure ready. Am I right ?
 
I will start this with a big benefit for unmarried people that they can do social work taking more risks and thus challenging the bad policies of current government.

Benefit of family is that you have someone to enjoy life with permanently.

What are your views about this ? Please keep the thread clean.

Thanks for cooperating.

Tell that to the 50% of people who divorce.
 
I'm pleasantly surprised by the the replies in this thread. I honestly was expecting every reply to be "marriage is amazing, my wife is different"

If you're on BHW it's safe to assume you want to be successful in life, including financially.

Here is your contract offer:

Upfront costs - 10-100k
Ongoing costs - Expect to spend significantly more on outings, constant changing of furniture. You will always spend more unless you partner earns significantly more than you.
Gaslighting and Hen pecking - Remember living with your mum? Even the nicest mums will moan and complain all of the time over silly things, imagine that amplified by 100x

Contact ending clause - loss of 50%+ of total assets, including pensions, investments, business, cars etc
Potential Spousal support alimony
If you have children, expect to be kicked out of your house and expect legal fees to mount up to crippling levels.
Valid reasons for her to end marriage: "feelings"

You will never come off better than your ex spouse in the courts, it is a totally gynocentric establishment.

Not to mention the emotional damage the heart break, stress and not seeing your children was cause. Divorce is a huge factor in suicide in middle aged men.

This is all things I've witnessed from people I know, countless experiences I've read and directly from a close friend who works predominantly with martial law and sees complete horror shows.
 
What is the solution guys in your opinion ? If we have to replace marriage structure, we need to have a better structure ready. Am I right ?

My solution will be called patriarchal and misogynist by feminists and will spark another controversy. So, for the time being, I will refrain from posting it on BHW.
 
East / West take your pick. Nothing quite impresses them more than a chippy dinner. There's an old saying in Blackpool after one has doubled their benefits on the slot machines. Winner winner chippy dinner.

Fancy some cod bites Micky, or a kebab with some G sauce and C sauce? Take your pick
 
I think mindset of people around you is game changer. When I was not married things were 80% fine, even when earning were less. After marriage in two years I had 100 times more earning, but less focus . My mom angry women just fighting , blaming my wife and office is below home in same building so complaining about my wife and this shit become worse, when she started to abuse my wife her parents even when she was pregnant. A baby boy born and died a couple of months back, doctor said fight during pregnancy is the reason.
My two projects worth $5k/month and $2k/month lost due to this bullshit.

My married life is hell for me and my wife.

My heart goes out to you.Coming from a broken family myself i know shit happens.
The pain must is/be terrible,been very lucky that my eldest only just survived.

Being married doesn`t change a thing end of the day it`s only a piece of paper.
It`s whats in the heart that counts.
 
Even before taking into account preventable things, divorce rates aren't even that bad.
Of college-educated people who married in the early 2000s, only about 11 percent divorced by their seventh anniversary, the last year for which data is available. Among people without college degrees, 17 percent were divorced, according to Mr. Wolfers.
https://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/02/upshot/the-divorce-surge-is-over-but-the-myth-lives-on.html

Cheating
Poor Diet - Low Libido
Financial issues
Abusive Partner
Addictions
No Marriage preparation.

Example: If there are 1,000 couples with a divorce rate of 11% by 7th anniversary. If 5% of those relationships involved a man cheating on his wife and of those 50 marriages 80%(40) of them ended in a divorce. The divorce rates for non cheaters would be 7.4% (70/950).
 
What is the solution guys in your opinion ? If we have to replace marriage structure, we need to have a better structure ready. Am I right ?
Marriage is something that will be called marriage even if you will have a better structure, improvement can be done by cutting useless expenses during the occasion.

People need a proper financial management, shouldn't go into this and that expenses without earning enough. Because this is something that will give birth more reasons to get separated.

Everyone who is a part of marriage including in laws must need to learn emotion and depression management.
 
If she is also gluten free why not, we will eat our gluten free cookies and enjoy our gluten free sex together
 
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