whiz
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- Dec 22, 2017
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I'm posting this as someone who LOVED to play the victim for the majority of his life.
I made up every single excuse in the book for why things were the way they were, often without taking any action to change my own circumstances. Everything was the fault of something external.
I recently posted my thread on how I used a snail mail campaign to send out letters to local dentists. I got 67 bites and 1 call, and closed the 1 call for $1000/mo for 3 months + $500 cleanup/startup fee.
There was a time when I legitimately believed something like this was not possible - or more specifically - that I was not capable of it.
So I'm here to open up a serious discussion about self-victimization. Are you trying to improve your circumstances or do you, for some weird reason, enjoy a state of victimhood?
There are many people on this forum. Some are good at certain things while being horrible at other things. The beautiful part about sharing information is that people can balance each other out.
Before you give up hope, remember that someone probably had the same problem you have now - and they managed to solve it and continue moving.
I would appreciate it if people talked more about their problems - what the problem is, how they feel about it, what they're doing about it, etc.
I would love to help and offer solutions and other ways that you could begin to think about your problems.
I would also love others to chime in and help if they think they have any information that could help another.
I'm telling you, I wanted to die at the beginning of this year. I was either drinking like a fish, doing drugs, or doing nothing. I had no direction or plan and spent my days feeling like I had a huge amount of potential but the world failed in "giving me opportunity" or whatever. I felt like the Internet was a lie (a lot of it is, but that's besides the point) and that there was no way I was going to make money doing anything.
*Side note: Holy shit, a giant wasp just fell into my belly button hair (I'm outside and shirtless). I never jumped out of a chair so quickly. I was praying it didn't sting me because I moved so quickly and aggressively. Thankfully, it was paralyzed or something. It just fell down to the ground. So I ran inside and got a flyswatter and came outside and executed it. I don't give a shit about "animal rights" or whatever when it comes to things that directly threaten me. Fuck wasps.*
Anyways, something that made a big change for me was running everyday. Just to get outside of your normal surroundings and to be active and make a change in your body and your mind helped me out so much to start respecting myself more and being more positive. It also helped me learn what patience and sticking with shit does. I could only run maybe 1/2 mile before being completely out of breath. I could now run probably 5 or so and be able to handle it fine. That was only like 3 months ago. This, combined with a good diet and hitting the gym (lifting) cut down my cigarette smoking by like 90%. Same with my anxiety, irritability, etc. Almost all gone.
I started spending less time on bullshit people and bullshit things and started focusing more on things that provided emotional, physical, or mental benefit. Combined with a good diet and hitting the gym, I started reading the shit out of BHW, ad/marketing books, talking with people on here, posting threads, and most importantly, taking action and trying shit out.
I feel like a lot of people are waiting for some magic bullet that has a 100% success rate. It does not exist.
You have to be okay with failure (loss of time, loss of money, embarrassment, etc). Failure is beneficial to your growth and will only get you closer to your goals (assuming you manage failure correctly - it is NOT smart to fail purposely. You should always try your best, but if you fail then you must recognize it as a lesson.)
BHW has given me hope for the first time in a while, and I want other people to feel how I do.
So, what's your excuse?
Make sure to mention:
1. What your problem is.
2. How you feel about it.
3. What you're doing about it.
I ask for these pieces of information because they force you to sit down and look within yourself before resorting to your default state of "someone help me!". If you show people that you're trying, at least, they will be more inclined to help you.
It's also okay if you don't know what's wrong or you aren't doing anything to change your circumstances. A lot of people have been there, myself included.
Just try to look within yourself. Maybe there are critical things you've been avoiding.
I made up every single excuse in the book for why things were the way they were, often without taking any action to change my own circumstances. Everything was the fault of something external.
I recently posted my thread on how I used a snail mail campaign to send out letters to local dentists. I got 67 bites and 1 call, and closed the 1 call for $1000/mo for 3 months + $500 cleanup/startup fee.
There was a time when I legitimately believed something like this was not possible - or more specifically - that I was not capable of it.
So I'm here to open up a serious discussion about self-victimization. Are you trying to improve your circumstances or do you, for some weird reason, enjoy a state of victimhood?
There are many people on this forum. Some are good at certain things while being horrible at other things. The beautiful part about sharing information is that people can balance each other out.
Before you give up hope, remember that someone probably had the same problem you have now - and they managed to solve it and continue moving.
I would appreciate it if people talked more about their problems - what the problem is, how they feel about it, what they're doing about it, etc.
I would love to help and offer solutions and other ways that you could begin to think about your problems.
I would also love others to chime in and help if they think they have any information that could help another.
I'm telling you, I wanted to die at the beginning of this year. I was either drinking like a fish, doing drugs, or doing nothing. I had no direction or plan and spent my days feeling like I had a huge amount of potential but the world failed in "giving me opportunity" or whatever. I felt like the Internet was a lie (a lot of it is, but that's besides the point) and that there was no way I was going to make money doing anything.
*Side note: Holy shit, a giant wasp just fell into my belly button hair (I'm outside and shirtless). I never jumped out of a chair so quickly. I was praying it didn't sting me because I moved so quickly and aggressively. Thankfully, it was paralyzed or something. It just fell down to the ground. So I ran inside and got a flyswatter and came outside and executed it. I don't give a shit about "animal rights" or whatever when it comes to things that directly threaten me. Fuck wasps.*
Anyways, something that made a big change for me was running everyday. Just to get outside of your normal surroundings and to be active and make a change in your body and your mind helped me out so much to start respecting myself more and being more positive. It also helped me learn what patience and sticking with shit does. I could only run maybe 1/2 mile before being completely out of breath. I could now run probably 5 or so and be able to handle it fine. That was only like 3 months ago. This, combined with a good diet and hitting the gym (lifting) cut down my cigarette smoking by like 90%. Same with my anxiety, irritability, etc. Almost all gone.
I started spending less time on bullshit people and bullshit things and started focusing more on things that provided emotional, physical, or mental benefit. Combined with a good diet and hitting the gym, I started reading the shit out of BHW, ad/marketing books, talking with people on here, posting threads, and most importantly, taking action and trying shit out.
I feel like a lot of people are waiting for some magic bullet that has a 100% success rate. It does not exist.
You have to be okay with failure (loss of time, loss of money, embarrassment, etc). Failure is beneficial to your growth and will only get you closer to your goals (assuming you manage failure correctly - it is NOT smart to fail purposely. You should always try your best, but if you fail then you must recognize it as a lesson.)
BHW has given me hope for the first time in a while, and I want other people to feel how I do.
So, what's your excuse?
Make sure to mention:
1. What your problem is.
2. How you feel about it.
3. What you're doing about it.
I ask for these pieces of information because they force you to sit down and look within yourself before resorting to your default state of "someone help me!". If you show people that you're trying, at least, they will be more inclined to help you.
It's also okay if you don't know what's wrong or you aren't doing anything to change your circumstances. A lot of people have been there, myself included.
Just try to look within yourself. Maybe there are critical things you've been avoiding.
