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Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by korfx04, Sep 11, 2011.

  1. korfx04

    korfx04 Junior Member

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    I Got to get this off my chest. My Mom and step dad lives with me. He gets paid 750 a week and she gets around $500. Before she got with this dude about 10yrs ago (that is about to wind up in a whole lot of asswhooping) she was the nicest person, the go to church every sunday type of person, helping others, but now shes just a bitch.

    She fucking don't pay any bills and only buys $100 worth of groceries a week for 6 people!!! and bitches if the total is $110-$120, then they eat out day of the week. She don't clean, she doesn't lift a finger to help us, she stays in their room 24/7 leaving me and my 80 grandma to clean and wash their clothes.

    I Never ask for anything, i take care of my grandparents and the elders that lives around here, and i think i'm a nice person that gets threat.

    So Last night i was wanting to cook some hot boiled peanuts, so this morning she went to the gym and i gave her the money to get the stuff i need to start cooking them today. But she bitched and moaned about getting the stuff i was paying for and the gym is right across the street for a walmart, korger and a publix.

    Well, when she got back at 11am, i asked where is my stuff, guess what? she didn't even get them. She said that she thought she would have tim get them when he went to do his little job, but he didn't have to go until 3 and he wont be back until 6 and it takes 4-7 hours to boil the peanuts depending if they are green or not so it may be 12am before they get done..

    She know we don't have a car now and can't get it fixed because i don't have the money and she does shit this, she thinks just because she got a car and thinks that she's are only way to go that she's safe and can do what she wants.

    Somedays, my grandparents haven't ate (her mom or dad) and they will bring in food and they will go in their room and eat it and not get nothing for their parents.

    She is a bitch and i've had it with her, i don't want to be associated with her and when they get back they are gone, because i'm kicking them out because i'm at the end of my rope and the mr nice guy era is over.
     
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  2. t0mmy

    t0mmy Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    sorry man!
     
  4. wowhaxor

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    A little off topic but where you from? Boiled peanuts and publix makes me miss Jax FL!!
     
  5. carrepairs12

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    maybe she should of left you as a stain on the sheets, its called respect learn it:rolleyes:
     
  6. antsaoo

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    So you or the grandparents own the house ? how old are you.

    Being the nice guy is fucked up. Sadly im one of those guys too. I play it nice with people and hope i don't ever need to see them again. Doesn't work that well though.

    I Wish you strength for what ever you decide to do
     
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    Thumbs up for Boiled Peanuts!!!
     
  8. korfx04

    korfx04 Junior Member

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    The house is mine, it's either them in a "retirement home" or leave with me.
     
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    Retirement home must sound like a good option for you right now?

    :rolleyes:
     
  10. Checkmate

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    This is a vent also:

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  11. korfx04

    korfx04 Junior Member

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    Did you even read? they live with me, they pay no bills accept $100 every 2 weeks for food for 6 people!

    Sometimes i wish that would of happened, i would be better off if it did, but she is a bitch! Would you let you 80 year old parents do without food and eat in front of them? Would you make your 80yo parents cook, clean, wash your clothes, empty you nasty ass catlitter box and clean and make up your bed because their to goddamn lazy to lift a figure to do anything?

    MY GRANNY HAD TO HAVE SURGERY BECAUSE OF CANCER AND HER FACE WAS ALL BRUISED AND SWOLLEN AND THE BITCH OF A DAUGHTER (MY MOTHER) MADE HER COOK AND CLEAN FOR HER WHILE HER LAZY ASS SET ON THE COUCH ON THE LAPTOP!

    Why give respect when they do shit like this?
     
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  12. korfx04

    korfx04 Junior Member

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    i like that vent
     
  13. Gorawdog

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    Man how old are you?

    Who owns the home you are living in?

    Are you the provider of the home?

    There are things I can't tell through your story.

    I hope that you will have all the patience in the world for your mother, and if you absolutely can't live with the situation then maybe consider moving yourself out. And offering to provide help to them but you just need to live on your own.

    If you aren't happy, remove yourself from the situation and appreciate that you have family.

    I realize you are venting and that's cool, but you are probably upset and need some time to relax and cool down.

    U mad bro?
     
  14. Ewokson

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    Wait, you live with your parents AND your grandparents?
     
  15. korfx04

    korfx04 Junior Member

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    i would never put my granny and grandpa in a retirement home. They have done way more for me then any human being on this planet.
     
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  16. korfx04

    korfx04 Junior Member

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    I Own my own home so they live with me.. Mom and her husband got kicked out of her best friends place, it was becoming to much for my grandparents to stay by themselves so i moved them in with me and my mom moved in with me 3 years ago.

    It wouldn't be a problem if they would help out, me and my grandparents have to clean up after them, she takes clean clothes out of the dryer and throws them on the floor just puts one freaking shit in the dryer! Her dog shits in the floor, does she pick it up? nope she steps over it and either i or my 80yo grandma has to pick it up!

    they are like kids, but why would the move out? would you if you had a maid and a butler?
     
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    Do you need your mom and her husband because of your car and money situation? If you do, then you are in a tight spot and they know it and are taking advantage of that.

    Obviously you are a caring person. I cringe at the thought of moving my parents or in-laws in with me, but grandparents wouldn't be so bad. But being a caring person should not destroy your quality of life.

    It is obvious that the negativity that your mom and her husband bring into your home is not worth the financial benefits of a few bucks worth of groceries and access to transportation. Don't feel bad about giving them the boot. Even though it might be tough because of the lack of resources you'll be much happier.
     
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    Your parents i meant.

    Grandparents are great. Without them my mum wouldnt of been to raise me :)
     
  19. Mokodoki

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    I have had a lot of negativity in my life from being a "nice" daughter who has put up with all forms of manipulation from my mother. The situation between us has been, at one point, eerily similar to yours.

    The truth is that it's hard to imagine for people who have grown up with good, loving, supportive parents just how frustrating something like this can be. My mother was also very sweet at one point, but changed her behavior so drastically she's a totally different person now.

    Don't let your quality of life suffer because you feel obligated to take care of your mother who doesn't seem to have any appreciation for your efforts. Sit her down, make her understand where you are coming from (without yelling or getting angry), and implore her to try and make more effort while she is staying with you. If she doesn't, then show her the way out.
     
  20. Randy569

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    If I were in this position, I would:

    1. Put her, and her hubby's ass on the street. Mother or not, respect is a two-way street. Just the way she is treating her own parents is enough to toss her ass, in my humble opinion.

    2. Since you are the primary care-giver to your elderly grandparents, and are supplying them with residence, you should be able to apply for state aid. (Don't know about Georgia, but I know you can in Missouri.) That alone should be more than equal to the piddling amount your dear mom should be chipping in.

    3. If you can't afford to repair the car, junk it out, get what you can out of it, and use that money at a "Buy Here, Pay Here" car lot and get some cheap transportation. You are going to have to have something, as I'm sure your grandmother is going to need to see the doctors on occasion. (You did say she was a cancer patient, right?)

    First things first, though. Get the leeches out of your house. Just the reduction in stress on you and your grandparents is worth a lot.