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The Difference Between Constructive & Destructive Comments On BHW

Discussion in 'Forum Suggestions & Feedback' started by WizGizmo, Sep 28, 2009.

  1. WizGizmo

    WizGizmo Super Moderator Staff Member Premium Member

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    Hey B-Hatters:

    I don't really know if this will help or not, but I think that,
    for the benefit of BHW, I need to mention something which
    I have noticed time-and-time again.

    If someone starts a thread in any given section of the forum
    and you have a criticism to make in regards to it, there are
    two ways you can go about doing it:

    1) THE RIGHT WAY, in which you offer a "Constructive Criticism",
    by saying something along the lines of "I tend to disagree with
    your statement because I believe that . . ." (and then you offer
    an intelligent and hopefully helpful suggestion or state your
    opinion in a rational and polite way).

    This identifies you as a respectable member and people on the
    forum will tend to take your comments more seriously because,
    even though you are offering a criticism, you are doing it in a
    helpful way.

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    2) THE WRONG WAY, in which you offer "Destructive Criticism"
    by saying such things as "You are full of shit man!", or "That
    product is a piece of crap!", or "You don't know what the f*ck
    you are talking about, dude!", etc., etc.

    By saying such things as that, you are contributing no help or
    value to the thread or this forum for that matter. And you are
    coming across to the other members as an irrational, immature
    individual, and as a result, you will get little or no respect from
    the members.

    Well, that's the end of my rant. Like I said, I don't know if
    this will help at all, but hopefully it might make some of the
    newer members think (and some older members too).

    Cheers! - "Wiz"
     
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  2. alwayscashinin

    alwayscashinin Registered Member

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    I agree with you WizGizmo and there should be a few more replies from others who agree on how to treat your fellow peers, do I get a woot woot! ( i was playing LOL). Yeah I agree, not only here but I have got a few RUDE comments from complete strangers on other forums that had me flaming mad. There is no reason to crucify another persons opinion or character unless they reply to you very rudely for no reason... that's prob my weakness.
     
  3. dizz

    dizz Elite Member

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    Hey Wiz, its Dizz, LOL... I totally agree with you, as we have had some threads just take a life of their own whenever we ask a question some deem to basic or they sit there and say, look you say all these things why are you asking a question. Well..... We participate in the rudeness if it is on our thread, but generally it just keeps going on and going on and we just have to abandon that thread bc nothing constructive was going on. It doesn't progress our threads it digresses (or whatever the opposite of progress is... No, its not congress... LMAO) our threads...
     
  4. ~@-kanye-west-@~

    ~@-kanye-west-@~ Power Member

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    iv'e seen alot of members doing #2 ;)
     
  5. Sanitarium

    Sanitarium Regular Member

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    Nice reminder :)

    I tend to ignore these ambiguous comments but sometimes I cannot resist. Are you saying you watched a couple members take a dump? If yes, why?
     
  6. IcedCube

    IcedCube Junior Member

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    You might want to make an additional paragraphs referring to the many self-centered, elitist snobs around here, who couldn't give a newbie a decent response if their life depended on it.