She cheated.

Conjecting · May 18, 2022

I'm absolutely gutted.

My first long-term GF slept with another man. I had this eerie feeling in the back of my mind, but always assumed it was my own paranoia.

Me and my GF track each other. It's mostly for logistical purposes - I come up to her college campus once a week roughly and it helps for her to know exactly where I am. Eventually we decided that leaving "Find my iPhone" on was a good choice.

I noticed she was out during ungodly hours (sometimes until 3AM). She doesn't have a car, so this adds insult to injury. This is percisely what made me call her out first, and when she tried to lie to me (saying she was only smoking with a friend), after pressure she came clean.

She came clean about "cuddling" with another guy. Eventually she admitted to preforming sexual acts on him. Right away, I knew it was done. But it makes no fucking sense because she frequently talked about marriage. Was ALWAYS wrapped around my finger, eager to please, etc.

I don't even know why I'm posting this - it probably poses no relevance to your personal situation right now but this is the worst I've felt in years. Obviously she's gone - I can't forgive her for that, but my future has been changed in a way I cannot articulate. I thought this woman was going to have my kids. I have absolutely no motivation to do anything.

SteinsDG · May 18, 2022

Sorry for your loss

xReminisce · May 18, 2022

You still have your bhw fam
we are here to listen

NirvanaWolf · May 18, 2022

It's better this way. Let the trash take itself out. I know it will hurt for a while but you're going to be okay. There's nothing wrong with you, some people just can't stay loyal.

xJacob · May 18, 2022

I feel your pain, all I can say is I promise everything will be fine! Time will heal all pain and your s/o is still out there just waiting to meet you! Don’t let it eat you alive<3

klesl · May 18, 2022

sorry dude. I hope you find a good girl. Just think of the bright side, you dodged a bullet by not marrying her.

Heiko · May 18, 2022

Just imagine what kind of a mess it would've been if you were already married to her with kids. You should be glad that she did it right now instead of years later down the line. It really sucks to be in that situation but try to look at it from the positive side. You now have a clean slate and you can look for someone that is loyal to you and actually deserves your time.

xShot said:
I can't forgive her for that, but my future has been changed in a way I cannot articulate. I thought this woman was going to have my kids. I have absolutely no motivation to do anything.

Yes, your future is gonna be better. Trust me on that.

Chris Newman · May 18, 2022

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Captaintj · May 18, 2022

You got lucky bro! Like Heiko said, what if you had kids with her. Consider this god telling you, you got better chance at love than this hoe.

Dopious · May 18, 2022

You´ll be fine, it`s hard now. But whatever you do, make sure you move on as fast as possible, don`t drag it out. Get a playdate this weekend with some cute girl, it helps to move on faster.

Conjecting · May 18, 2022

xReminisce said:
You still have your bhw fam
we are here to listen

I fucking love you guys

Heiko said:
Just imagine what kind of a mess it would've been if you were already married to her with kids. You should be glad that she did it right now instead of years later down the line. It really sucks to be in that situation but try to look at it from the positive side. You now have a clean slate and you can look for someone that is loyal to you and actually deserves your time.

Yes, your future is gonna be better. Trust me on that.

True. That being said, for some reason, I can't see myself finding someone like her again. All I can think of is going "monk-mode" as I've read (focusing on yourself 1000%). Because quite transparently, I don't think I could trust another woman if she was pushing for commitment.

Every. Single. Green. Flag. Was. There.

I used to bring my laptop over and work from within her dorm. She was always understanding of my passion and let me get shit done without throwing fits or reaching for attention every second. There was just a mutual understanding, and that made me think she was genuinely special.

I don't even know if I was naive or manipulated, and it's been fucking with my head. Maybe me distancing myself from here in pursuit of IM led to her seeking the attention of another male. There were a few inconsistencies I noticed, but never anything that would have led to me suspect flat-out cheating. I'm not even aware of how long this has been going on, because when I initially pressed her, she denied everything. She was caught in a red-handed lie which could mean this was an ordinary thing for her.

Regardless, I appreciate yall's support. I fucking love you guys.

randomstrings · May 18, 2022

Ok, try next

M0GUL · May 18, 2022

Bitches aint shit.

Dopious · May 18, 2022

xShot said:
All I can think of is going "monk-mode" as I've read (focusing on yourself 1000%).

Don`t do this mistake, you`ll end up as a bitter old fart (trust me, I know what I am talking about.). Move on as fast as possible with another cute girl.

Heiko · May 18, 2022

xShot said:
True. That being said, for some reason, I can't see myself finding someone like her again. All I can think of is going "monk-mode" as I've read (focusing on yourself 1000%). Because quite transparently, I don't think I could trust another woman if she was pushing for commitment.

That's a false believe. Something like "The One" doesn't exist. There are woman out there that are way better than her. Also read your sentence again.. "finding someone like her again"?... seriously? - You should keep in mind that she is the cause of all this mess, right? She put 0 value on you and decided to cheat on you... and you really think there are no better people out there? There are millions of better woman out there.. 100%.

xShot said:
Every. Single. Green. Flag. Was. There.

She cheated, bro. Come on.

xShot said:
I used to bring my laptop over and work from within her dorm. She was always understanding of my passion and let me get shit done without throwing fits or reaching for attention every second. There was just a mutual understanding, and that made me think she was genuinely special.

She isn't special. Again, she cheated on you. Loyalty means shit to her. She treated you like garbage in that sense.

xShot said:
I don't even know if I was naive or manipulated, and it's been fucking with my head. Maybe me distancing myself from here in pursuit of IM led to her seeking the attention of another male. There were a few inconsistencies I noticed, but never anything that would have led to me suspect flat-out cheating. I'm not even aware of how long this has been going on, because when I initially pressed her, she denied everything. She was caught in a red-handed lie which could mean this was an ordinary thing for her.

It doesn't matter. You don't just go out and fuck someone else because your man is focussing on building business and wealth. Like WTF was she thinking.

Monzani · May 18, 2022

today is tuesday, set a goal to get someone for saturday...it can be any woman on tinder
don't waste your time mulling it over, the best remedy is a pussy-tea to cure it and realize that there are millions of other women available

OccultKingdoms · May 18, 2022

I just had a dream about assembly lines being stopped in my factory. This is what emotional relationships can cause - they will stop the work when it could go.

LuckyGamble · May 18, 2022

xShot said:
I'm absolutely gutted.

My first long-term GF slept with another man. I had this eerie feeling in the back of my mind, but always assumed it was my own paranoia.

Me and my GF track each other. It's mostly for logistical purposes - I come up to her college campus once a week roughly and it helps for her to know exactly where I am. Eventually we decided that leaving "Find my iPhone" on was a good choice.

I noticed she was out during ungodly hours (sometimes until 3AM). She doesn't have a car, so this adds insult to injury. This is percisely what made me call her out first, and when she tried to lie to me (saying she was only smoking with a friend), after pressure she came clean.

She came clean about "cuddling" with another guy. Eventually she admitted to preforming sexual acts on him. Right away, I knew it was done. But it makes no fucking sense because she frequently talked about marriage. Was ALWAYS wrapped around my finger, eager to please, etc.

I don't even know why I'm posting this - it probably poses no relevance to your personal situation right now but this is the worst I've felt in years. Obviously she's gone - I can't forgive her for that, but my future has been changed in a way I cannot articulate. I thought this woman was going to have my kids. I have absolutely no motivation to do anything.

We need relationship advice subforum!

Drake89 · May 18, 2022

This is sad to hear but better for her to do it now then later when you were married to her. I know it will be hard but move on and find you a girl that can be trusted, there is millions of other females in this world that will treat u 10x better.

4440 · May 18, 2022

Takes time dude.
All in all it's good that you don't have no kids with her till you find out what she is.

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