My wife just left me...

I'm not sure what the situation is with your wife. Every story has 2 sides.

But I am sure of a couple of things.

1. Internet Marketing Works
2. Love should not be conditional

It reminds me of those woman that leave their men because they don't want to get married. Yes I understand the whole wanting to be married thing on the girls part (why not marry me if you love me....yada yada yada...) But even worse than not wanting to get married is LEAVING the person for not doing so. How much does that say about that girl... I love you so much i want to marry you but i don't love you enought to stay with you if you don't want to marry me? WTF!?

My wife was sooooo SUPER supportive while I was getting started. And we were broke as a joke. I mean BROKE.

I'm not going to tell you to go buy her flowers and try to woo her back, nor am I going to say to hell with that bitch and move on.

What I do suggest is that you really think about what YOU want. If you want to get back together, then make it happen. If you don't, then move on.

If someone wants to leave you, sometimes the best thing you can do is give them what they want. Besides, do you really want to stay with a person that doesn't want to be with you?

There are so many men and women out there, that there is bound to be someone better suited to you and your goals and dreams an desires.

What I would NOT do, is compromise what YOU want. I WOULD NEVER GIVE UP MY DREAMS, unless what I was giving it for was worth far more. So that really becomes the question. What's more important to YOU?

And even if you decide that your wife is the greater of the 2, there is always room for compromise.

You could get a job AND go after your dreams. Life's all about choices, and the choices you make are neither good or bad... they're just yours.

Relationships are based on agreements. You may want to see if you can create some agreements that will work well for both of you, and if you're not able to reach an agreement, then once again, the ultimate decision is up to you.

One last thing, someone leaving you doesn't always mean it's a bad thing... Sometimes it's the best possible thing for you .

EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.... AND IT SERVES US (even if we don't always understand why)....

There's a reason that this happened and it will SERVE YOU....

I know that sounds strange... but think about it... either you'll find a way to make this work with your wife and it will strengthen your relationship...

OR

You will move on and new doors will open for you to start a new adventure...

If you choose to not do internet marketing anymore, that's fine... it's your choice... but please make sure that it is indeed YOUR choice. Don't let yourself be bullied or guilted into not doing it.

As other people have stated on here already, YOU ONLY FAIL WHEN YOU QUIT...

So instead of trying not to fail, DO THE OPPOSITE!

FAIL FORWARD FAST.

The more things that you can fail at as fast as you can will bring you more experience and that much closer to success.

2 suggestions for you my friend...

1. Buy "the secret" and watch it EVERYDAY for at least a good month or 2 (http://www.thesecret.tv)
2. Pick up a copy of this book, you can probably find a cheap used copy at amazon - Passion, Profit & Power by Marshall Sylver

And remember to TAKE ACTION when you now follow my advice.

Well, I hope I didn't talk you're ear off, but I just wanted to give you some heartfelt advice.

Good fortune to you,

DMOC

Dude I guess you remember me, I am on you YM list as well. Listen, your problem was too much of reading and too less actions. You should just have sticked with 2-3 methods and make money from it. But the main reason for failure was pressure and you wasn't ready to have a full time earning on Internet.

My advice for you - Get a real job, work as others are working, get your family back (family is the most important people in your life), then work on your online ventures part-time. This will keep you out of financial pressure and will give you a lot of time (as hobby) to get a few methods going, learn more and eventually make money on Internet. Do not rush, everything takes time and this does too.

Go get your wife and kids back buddy, they are priceless, money can be made anytime and anyhow but family is what you get once and that's it.

Please this time listen to us and get it sorted. God bless you.

If you quit your job before you were even making any money then it looks like you didn't read ENOUGH. Tough love, but this shit is obvious.

Tough love is me not seeing how in the hell you can come here and not make any money. How much were you trying to make, anyway? If nothing else, you could study the Craigslist section, learn how to post ads, and start an ad posting service. At .50 apiece I think I could at least bust minimum wage per hour doing that. If NOTHING else, there are the internet day labor equivalents like chacha, kgb, texting. Don't you realize that there are affiliates here that PAY PER FREE JOIN? rofl. I mean DAMN. How hard is it exactly to open up a chat room, wait for a guy to message you and then say check out my cam/pics/profile here? If you've got that many hours in a day, go to Craigslist and reply to ads all over. See what the other guys are doing. Start doing it. If you don't know how to, ask. Someone here will tell you.

your acts your responsibilities

hope it gets better for you..

GrotesqueGoddess said:

My heart sank when I was reading this. I personally suggest getting a 9-5 job and approaching your wife with that. You can do your internet work in your spare time. Tell her that you only had the best of intentions and that your motivation was to work at home to spend more time with her and your kids. We love being told we are right... so tell her that. Several times. Tell her you need her and the kids and you will do all you can.

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This is sound advice.

Ive been on here since march/april, and although not making money, im making progress. I gave my other half the whole "wait till we're loaded" story, and it felt as appreciated as a fart in an elevator, so ive come to learn that a compromise can be reached. Im studying at college, i finish at 3, then start work at 3:30, when i finish at 8, im straight home to catch the kids before they fall asleep, i get some grub, then im on to the computer.

When im on the computer, i make sure i know exactly what im going on for. Like just now i had to create a new post for my site, write a quick article, add a video, used wp guardian, publish it, ping it, rss submit it,bookmark it, create another video and upload to 10 video sites.

Now that sounds like a lot of work, and it kind of is, but im getting quicker at it, im learning how to do things faster and better. I even allowed myself a treat of 1 hour on here.

Ok im not going to my bed any richer in financial terms, but in regards to improving my knowledge and confidence, coupled with the fact i know that i took 1 step closer to my goal, i know im progressing, and eventually, providing i keep improving, i'll get there.....and when i do, everyone will look at me and say, he's so lucky, or its alright for you im just starting out....or whatever excuse that they tell themselves about why they cant succeed.

Anyway,

I've got kids too mate, and i know how important it is that my missus feels safe knowing that theres some money there for food every week. I dont like working all the hours i do, but noone is going to do it for me.

Try to see it from her point of view for a minute, she's only acting with the best intentions for YOUR kids in mind.

Go speak to her mate, get your kids back, jot down a workable plan and go for it. You've also got the added bonus of a forum full of members who are only happy to help those that help themselves.

GL

John

haha bro is your wife still with u?

i remember you are posting threads before that your making $300 a day and your showing screenshots.

Sounds all too familiar to me, it's a terrible thing, but you can feel comfort in the fact that you are by know means the only one going through this kind of trouble... I've had a similar ordeal happen between my wife, if she loves you are only a little begging away from getting her back, and just realize that you can't forget to spend time with her... She will NEVER understand the potential of IM until you make your first BIG money off of it. At that time everything will shift, instead of yelling at you to get off the computer because you are wasting your time... she will be asking you if you think you can work a little bit more so she can buy something she wants... lol. I havn't made anything yet either... and I have to be very cautious about the amount of time per day I spend on the net. It's all about balance, and if you are like me, you are trying to spend every spare second online "working/learning"... unfortunately, Rome was not built in a day, and expecting to make any real money online within the first 6 months is not realistic. I finally realized that doing anything online is like writing a book... the first time you try it you suck! and you get distracted, and you loose track, and finally you quit before you ever even got to the second chapter. But the second time you do it, you will be better at it. It is my current standing that if you are willing to look at IM for what it is, (a MAJOR undertaking), you won't be so suprized at how long of a time or how much work it takes.

Maybe you spent too much time on the computer and not enough time tending to her needs emotionally and helping with the kids, etc. If she felt like she was doing everything herself, and that you didn't care for her, that you were just sitting on the computer all day & all night trying to make money without a real plan, then I can understand her frustration to take action to make you wake up. Unless you are discussing/showing her what you are doing and the potential income it has, and not neglecting her & the kids, she can't possibly understand what you are doing, and it's likely she saw it the same as what an earlier commenter suggested - no different than sitting on a playstation all day.

Only fellow IM people understand the amount of time we spend on this thing. If you have a family, then you have to have balance, you can't just stop tending to them and spend all your time on the computer, it's not fair to her or the kids, even if you have the best intentions. Imagine the reverse. I would definitely recommend getting a day job, even if it's part time, or if possible, working for a place where you can also work on your online business (harder to get, but we've all heard of people who were working in security, etc who could surf the net while getting paid for another job), or getting a job with an online marketing firm so that you are learning from people actually making money from it.

In her eyes, you are choosing the computer over your family, and that can't be a good feeling for her, she needs you to be there for her and if there is no money coming in, she's probably terrified of what you are doing - unless she is also into internet marketing, she's not going to support it or understand it. Get a job, get a plan, work out a timeline so that you can do both. You don't need to give up on IM, but if you don't have funds to live on while you're learning and trying out what works for you, your "desperate" "NEED" to make this work is going to cloud your judgement - the pressure to make money fast will cause too much stess. And stressed-out, desperate people with no back-up funds will more commonly than not, choose the wrong path to success.

Don't neglect your family - your family is far more important than blackhatworld.

Did you get your wife & kids back yet?

Dillusion said:

Yeah that's it, my wife just went to her mothers house with our two boys because "I'm a illuded prick who believes in something as ridiculous as making a living of the internet, and that if I want to believe in non-existent things I should join a religion", this were her last words before slamming the door on me and saying that I should get treatment.

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You can definitely make money in IM.

It does need treated like a biz.

It can take time.

It's all about application.


Too many folks jerk around while doing it, think they will make millions in minutes, and don't fully apply or develop a system. If you need to, get a job. If your dream is to make money online, then still do it.

On another front, "the presenting issue is RARELY the real issue". A couple who has a healthy relationship can build a biz online, and not use it as an excuse to split up. I obviously don't know you or your situation, keep that in mind with all the above.

Grieve, get up, move on.

dustydharma said:

wow. STOP NECROING OLD THREADS.

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Ive only just read it, and wanted to offers some advice, and its not that old a post. Maybe you should keep your post count for something a little more constructive, rather than slating others.....i didnt see you try to offer the guy some help

John

MsMoneyMagnet said:

Did you get your wife & kids back yet?

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Yea, there all one big happy family now...



hehe..

-Mus

Dillusion said:

Yeah that's it, my wife just went to her mothers house with our two boys because "I'm a illuded prick who believes in something as ridiculous as making a living of the internet, and that if I want to believe in non-existent things I should join a religion", this were her last words before slamming the door on me and saying that I should get treatment.

I should say at this point that BHW destroyed my life, I have been here for 2 months now, I have made no money, I'm a complete failure at all things IM related and I just lost my family.

I believe that's it for me, I believe that at this point I will join, as you people here ofter say, the 99% of people that quit IM after they try it.

Well, it was good while it lasted, when I had the dream of a life making money for me and my family sitting at home with money and time for them and for me.

It was a good dream indeed, but nothing more than that, just another dream.

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I still have my day job, but i work on IM, and my 3 websites, when im not working during the day. i actually make a decent amount on income on this,
i went 4 months without making a dime. and the 5th month, i made well over 600 bucks, well, all i did , was read read read . and learn the in's and outs of one Thing, like my thing was ewhoring, so i learned the ins and outs of CL and BP, and then just started to apply what i knew and tried to keep up with all the CL changes
Just keep trying and if you need help, then just ask.

Dude, get your wife back. IM is only money, I honestly don't think anybody enjoys it. Nobody would be doing any of this if they weren't getting paid.

Fuck her dude. She has to be like anyone else that is ignorant to the
capabilities of cash on the net. Truly, it has the largest capabilities to pull
cash out of anything ever invented. The reason she dosn,t believe? Fear dude.
Thats why people rip on us IM'rs all the time. This shit is simply over their heads.
And we are the ones with the courage to figure it out.

All life is not worth living if you dont do something that scares you.

Everything in life is a risk. But its those of us who take the risks and keep at
it that have them payoff in the long haul.

This website is amazing BTW!
http://nomarriage.com/

Now quite crying and make some money. Go and sell on DP. Those guys are idiots!

Cheers.

Get a job and do your online business as a part time job.