Money but poor relationships

I'm at a point in my life where my IM journey has become profitable, at least enough to the point where I'm making about as much as I would with a 9-5. I know that if I keep working at it, I'll be able to profit even more.

But there's something else that's been hindering my happiness. A lack of fulfilling relationships, love and higher social confidence in my life.

I live in a large city, and in my perspective it seems like mostly everything revolves around social status here. Even moderately attractive women will rarely be interested unless you have a good social circle, high paying job, etc. Cool people won't really care to associate with you unless you are somebody.

I'll be honest, I'm kind of late to the social game. I was pretty reserved in my early years and didn't socialize as much. Dealt with social anxiety a bit. I don't really open up to people much, am non-confrontational and can be a bit awkward sometimes.

What do you guys think? Is this just something that will resolve itself over time?

How old are you?

limez said:

How old are you?

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21

(how old are you) never mind i see some one asked that already

draining12 said:

21

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too late, bro
21 is the end.

In that case, just goto Pattaya, and you can get a girlfriend like experience for like $150 for a whole day.. it's cheaper than having a girlfriend.. make more money and help other people, don't be selfish, do yoga.. make a lot of cool friends and TRAVEL AS MUCH AS YOU CAN..
You don't need a girlfriend or wife trust me it will only make you poor, don't have kids until you make 6 figures . Which country you from?
It will be not good for your kids and neither your girlfriend/wife, money is god and we all are it's Prophets..

Hit the gym and get big. Just like you like good looking women, women like good looking men.

limez said:

How old are you?

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Seems that u just Hooked OP.
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710fla said:

Hit the gym and get big. Just like you like good looking women, women like good looking men.

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I have the gym membership too.. I just don't get the time and I am pretty sure it's the case with most of people..

One my friend, when he moved to Canada alone, just started visiting a bar near his flat and getting drunk and talking with various people. Eventually his bar friends became real friends.

Similar situation here.

My social circle is countable on one hand. But those ppl are ones i can relay on. I used to have big one, but then i decided fuck it, i dont need that.

Anyway, dont be sad abt that, rather hame few diamonds in your palms, than bag full of rocks.

Leme tell u a secret from life experience, ugly woman usually has high standards, like super hot girls in 6 of 10 cases are cool and down to earth. I m not david backam type of looking dude, but I've been on dates on girls like 10 levels above me. It comes down to manners and whats in head of other person.

Oh avoid chicks with children (no offense),

misterbarth said:

Seems that u just Hooked OP.
<lmao>

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was thinking the same, on a serious note op Tinder, online dating sites exist, you don't need to be like everyone else or people with status to fit into your society, a fat bank account will do the job. its never too late. when there is life there is always hope, and try allocating some time to get laid more often you might see things differently,

draining12 said:

I'm at a point in my life where my IM journey has become profitable, at least enough to the point where I'm making about as much as I would with a 9-5. I know that if I keep working at it, I'll be able to profit even more.

But there's something else that's been hindering my happiness. A lack of fulfilling relationships, love and higher social confidence in my life.

I live in a large city, and in my perspective it seems like mostly everything revolves around social status here. Even moderately attractive women will rarely be interested unless you have a good social circle, high paying job, etc. Cool people won't really care to associate with you unless you are somebody.

I'll be honest, I'm kind of late to the social game. I was pretty reserved in my early years and didn't socialize as much. Dealt with social anxiety a bit. I don't really open up to people much, am non-confrontational and can be a bit awkward sometimes.

What do you guys think? Is this just something that will resolve itself over time?

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I'm in a very similar situation as you. Young, also profitable online, and living in a big city, late to social scene. I have a theory on why things are the way they are.

When you live in these major cities with millions of people, everyone is highly competitive. Everyone works out multiple times a week, spends hours on perfecting their social media, has highly respected jobs, has tons of friends, and many are rich either through inheritance or their own hard work. What's the result? People like you and I have lowered value. Girls with 2K+ followers on instagram think they're models and starting linking to skinny tea in their bio. The dudes flex super hard with whatever they've got, be it money or their 'gains'. It's funny - I think the average person would have more success socially if they're broke with 100K followers than if they have 1 million in the bank but 0 followers in the US/Canada.

From what I have seen, things are pretty different in other parts of the world like Eastern Europe, South America or SE Asia. They're more "normal" out there, and lots of people who earn online go live in these places because they have an increased social value there (being a westerner, earning lots of money in their world, etc). I'm sure many people even on BHW are doing this, It's something i'm certainly considering doing.

As far as fixing the situation in your city? I'm not sure man, lots of people are in this position and can't find the solution - it's tough, I guess you have to start playing the game and work out, get a good job, and build your social circle. Easier said than done.

Join social clubs and clubs of things you are interested in, best way to meet people.

21 is so not late lol. Bro go out and talk to people about anything. Most people dpnt releaze this but like you most people want to connect with other people and dont how. You would be surpised what happens from just a normal conversation!

OP, I have some courses in the subject. PM me if you need it, I am more than happy help you with the mindset etc.

Move to Vancouver, there’s more single women there that you can bat a stick at man

First off 21 ain't too late mate your life's just beginning.
Secondly fuck the cool kids people who worry about how others perceive them and try to be cool ain't that interesting, aim to meet people with simlars interests as you? What do you enjoy? Find clubs places what you enjoy takes place ect and your meet people who like you for being you.
Look online for a girl but don't rush to meet them too soon take time messaging getting to know each other then start talking on the phone ext so that you know for sure you get in and enjoy each others company before meeting f2f plus takes a lot of the nerves out of the first date when you really know each other before the date. Me and my Mrs messaged and chatted on the phone for 4 months before meeting but when we did there was no alkward moments ect as we really knew each other that was just over 15 years ago and we are still together now .

draining12 said:

Even moderately attractive women will rarely be interested unless you have a good social circle, high paying job, etc. Cool people won't really care to associate with you unless you are somebody.

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Now you know what people you should avoid.

B90210 said:

Move to Vancouver

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Definitely don't move to Vancouver, or Toronto- they're both cesspools.