Is this classed as cheating?

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Sorry about the weekendish post but it’s been on my mind since Sunday…

The story is quite surreal. I watched a show on NF a few years ago and thought of a character 'wow, she's hot'. Incidently, I watched another show more recently and again thought 'wow, she's hot' without realising it was the same woman. Only when I rewatched the first show more recently did I realise that's it's the same woman.

I started researching her online. She's not a massive star or anything like that. Those two shows were her only two notable appearences in anything international and she spends most of her time travelling / nomading actually.

To cut a long story short, I contacted her about a year ago on one of her SM which she posts on from time to time. And to my surprise she's been engaing with me and my content ever since.

Despite being on the other side of the world from me she frequents my City due to friends and family and said she'd love to meet up for a coffee when she's next over in a few weeks. I honestly wasn't expecting to ever actually meet in person.

I think in part it's my fault. Im somewhat invovled in the fashion industry, and said I could see her as the face for one of the product lines. I think she took that quite seriously and was very flattered too. Which was admittedly my intention.

Whenever I have a row with my wife, browsing her SM and listening to her sing or watching her smile was one of the few things that cheered me up a bit. That being said, couldn't dream of cheating on my wife despute her constant nagging about trivial stuff… however it would be extremely cool I feel to be sitting having a coffee with a chick I thought was way out of my league and someone I could only admire from afar as some kind of celebrity on Netflix. She doesn't know i'm married as I don't post family stuff on my SM but then i'm not entirely sure what her intentions are here.

Tl:dr is going for a coffee with another woman if you’re married / in a relationship classed as cheating?
 
I'd say it's not however would you be able to tell your wife about this coffee date and she'd understand?
 
Unless you are sleeping with here, no, not atall.
 
It's clearly not cheating, you are just socializing
I just hope you think the same if your wife wants to go for a coffee with a guy
Totally agree. How would you feel if she done the same?

Also if it goes any further than coffee then it’s cheating.
Don’t do to other which you would not like done to yourself.
 
Easy, man. Cheating is being married and having sex with someone other than your wife/husband. Having friends is not infidelity.
 
If you hid it from your partner, it's cheating because you felt that it was wrong to do it. Cheating is beyond having sex with other people in my opinion, it's cheating your partner's trust.
 
you are going to drink a coffe and talk that is a normal conversation, now if you start hiding were a re you going and with who you will meet is because you might be expecting something else to happen on that meeting, two adults talking nothing else.
 
If anything that you can tell about to your partner is not cheating.. but if you have an over obessive partner, better you hide this from them. They cant accept such things.
 
If anything that you can tell about to your partner is not cheating.. but if you have an over obessive partner, better you hide this from them. They cant accept such things.
does it even make sense to stay with an obsessive partner at this point? some chick from the other side of the world could be interested in him, but this chick could also be obsessive and later he might meet even hotter one, the never ending loop :D
 
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