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In a difficult situation with my life

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by FutureCRNA, Jan 16, 2011.

  1. FutureCRNA

    FutureCRNA Newbie

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    A little about me: I'm currently 4 semesters away from getting my Bachelors in Nursing from a good university (3.96 GPA). My long-term goal was to go on get my BSN and then become a CRNA (Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist.).

    I guess I'm having serious second thoughts about this right now. I have always loved business. I always remember hustling for cash here and there on the side. I was a powerseller on ebay when I was 15. At 17 I use to go junking in peoples trash and sell the stuff for a profit at garage sales. Whether you believe it or not i'm 20 years old, have no debt, and have $40k+ in my bank account (a large portion thanks to bhw :)).

    For those of you who aren't familiar the CRNA program is very competitive to get into and if it never worked out I would be stuck being a regular nurse. The more i'm learning about what a "nurse" entails the more I can't see myself doing this for the rest of my life. I'm a really good people person and love interacting with others, but the "nasty" parts of nursing do not interest me at all. I originally went into nursing because I thought I would like it plus it has good job security. Plus it has room for advancement (CRNA).

    To make matters worse today I told my dad I'm no longer interested in nursing and want to switch to business and get a MBA or maybe law school. He told me if I switch my major i'm being kicked out of the house, and he's cashing in my college state fund for himself and i'll be forced to live on my own and pay for college and everything. He says there are no jobs right now in business and I should just get my undergraduate degree so i can make money. He says with nursing I can make $50k+ out of school and if I go along further can earn $180k plus as a CRNA.

    I guess I don't really know what to do at this point. I know for a fact I want to do something in real-estate or some kind of IM for my main income one day. And you don't need a "business" degree for those although it does help. And like right now, I'm having a hard time going to nursing school when its something i'm not even that crazy about. I definitely would not be content with my life being a regular nurse cleaning bed pans all day.

    I'm thinking maybe I should just get my nursing degree with a possible minor in business and then go on and get my MBA after that. With the nursing career you work 8-12 hour shifts of which I could do some kind of the business on the side with my free time.

    On the other hand, I could switch to business right now and forget the nursing and go on from there.

    I'm sorry if this is more of a rant then anything/ and if my thoughts are all over the place (3 hours sleep :))

    If anyone has any suggestions i'd really appreciate it.
     
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  2. greenleaf4u

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    keep it up and never give up, someday soon it will all be ok
     
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  3. .david.

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    Stick to nursing for the next couple years. He's right and at the same time, he's wrong. There are lots of jobs in the business sector - especially because you sound like an entrepreneur - you can create your own job/business. I wouldn't risk being kicked out and forced to live on my own.. I'd go through your advanced program, and get the good job.. making good money for a couple years. During this time, when you're working, you'll start your side businesses and slowly phase out your Nursing job.

    This will accomplish everything you want:

    1) You're dad will let you live in the house, help with school, won't be mad, etc.
    2) You'll be making good money and you'll be working on your side businesses at the same time.

    Also, you don't need an MBA. But you can always go back and get one later if you want.
     
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  4. BHopkins

    BHopkins Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    Stick to the nursing. I have two nurses in my family. Lots of time off and flexibility will allow you to pursue other interests.
     
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  5. headliner

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    I agree with David... Stay where you are... get the hard part out of the way and make pops happy. You are an entrepreneur. You should know the drill. Keep you life line active until you can stand on your own for what you truly want to do.
     
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  6. goodtimes

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    Go after what you are most passionate about that can provide you a good income.

    I would talk with your dad again too. If he is really serious about forcing you to stay in nursing then do that with a business minor as you said.

    If you really are certain you want IM to be how you make a living long-term, a business minor is plenty. I am almost done with my MBA and it is almost a total waste. I will be doing IM full-time after graduation. An MBA is all about making you a better employee. In fact, almost everything I have learned is all about being an employee.

    With IM you are a business owner, an entrepreneur, and an innovator. Skip all the university employee BS and save yourself $60k.

    Educate yourself instead. Teach yourself to think like am entrepreneur. Read books like think and grow rich, how to win friends and influence people, rich dad poor dad, the magic of thinking big, etc.
     
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  7. aarontorng

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    you might not agree, but I feel like parents are usually always right. I think your dad just feels that you're young and you're unsure about what you want to do. To him saying that you don't want this anymore and that you're interested in business may mean nothing, but if you go into detail saying WHY you aren't interested, and WHY you want to do business I think he'll give it another thought.

    At the same time, you're only two years away from getting that degree at a 3.96 is impressive so why not just survive for awhile longer? Like you said, you could always chase your 'passion' or 'dream' on the side until you're 100% certain you know what you want to do. You're still young and as long as you keep working hard, you'll find what makes you happy! :)
     
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  8. mattbowden

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    I did a similar thing years ago I finished a course I was doing to me it was just a piece of paper I ended up with a BA HOns. When you are 16 plus and have to make a lot of decesions you make the best choice at the time. Things change people change. I would finish the course at least that something to full back on. Then go and do what you really want to do I did. I always wanted to work in sales dont ask me why I did and thats what I did.
     
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    I am 30 years old and still have plans to work abroad so I guess the plan is to never give up.
     
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  10. gbmack

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    Stick to the nursing thing for a couple years. Get your degree and earn some money, while having IM as a side hobby.

    Even though you have $40k in the bank, that's only $40k, and you can make more $$ from the CRNA degree.

    Here's the thing. Getting a business degree won't help you at all with IM, and it seems like you're more interested in making money doing IM.

    So just work the 9-5 job and do IM when you come home. Once you make some steady and real profits, decide if you really want to do IM full time. I know that I love IM and I love my internet monies, but I could never handle doing IM at home all the time. That'd just drive me to suicide because I'm not socializing with anyone.
     
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  11. FutureCRNA

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    Thanks for the suggestions guys.

    After thinking about it more I think the best thing to do at this point is finish the nursing. Like someone said that is the lifeline 9-5 that is a guaranteed job to pay the bills. And then on the side, work my IM/offline business until that gets big enough to drop the nursing. I talked it over with my dad and he agreed pay for the minor in business along with the nursing which I think is the best of both worlds.
     
  12. gbmack

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    Smart move.

    And if I were you, i'd focus more on IM rather than an offline business. IM = more flexible, higher profits (this plateaus at $xx,xxx a day), fewer headaches, easier learning curve. In all honesty, IM requires nothing more than a pair of brass balls. No need to get a minor in business.
     
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    Plus, you can always look into Home Care Nursing. Its not nearly as hectic as hospitals or nursing homes and their pay is about the same. You dont have so many patients, its one on one which makes it more enjoyable with much less stress.
     
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    my sister graduated last year with a bsn. she has a good job now. she just signed up with the state to do private duty for medicaid. that's big money. she is going to bank for a couple years and then try something else. forget about CRNA for now and just focus on getting the bsn.
     
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    Get the nursing degrees, work for at least two years, then go get your law or mba degree. A nursing degree with either of those other two degrees will be a powerful combo! Dont give up bro!
     
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    LMAO thats the stupidest thing ive ever heard! if you are good at business you dont have to apply for jobs, you can MAKE your own jobs. thats what being an entrepeneur is all about. while everybody else is worrying about finding someone to hire them, an expert in business can start his own business and be the one hiring others. in fact being good at business is probably the one skill that will always guarantee job opportunities 100% of the time. if your dad thinks theres no potential for those who are good at business, he is NOT someone i would take advice from
     
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  17. taze13

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    Just switch and go to school while having a job on the side, Save as much as you can but with $40 k in the bank you don't have to put up with shiet.
     
  18. mattbowden

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    Use your experience of the carehome industry to make money life is all about the experience you have and how you use it every company i have worked for I have kept the contacts from no matter how crap the company you never know how useful they will come in the future how big is the care home market over there
     
  19. Mises

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    Always remember that keeping your eggs in different baskets is extremely important and it looks like you have a shot to do well in two areas. I'd say stick with nursing and do IM on the side- eventually when you make a good amount, you will probably know what you want to focus on. Until then, 2 unrelated sources of income/skills will help you spread out your risk.
     
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    The nasty side of nursing makes me want to tell you to do what you want and be a businessmen.

    But you´ve gone so far already man...