erickishere
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- Nov 27, 2012
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sloots gonn' sloot
I need help. Possible cheating wife I have no proof only speculation.
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MP123
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Just hire a private detective!
Play a good front with ur wife, pretend theres nothing wrong, stop been over paranoid. Let her think all is good, hire a private detective and then when you find out she is or she isn't then proceed to protect your own interest, along with your child and make sure you hussle her so she get's nothing.
First person who gets angry, is the first person who loses the fight.
Play a good front with ur wife, pretend theres nothing wrong, stop been over paranoid. Let her think all is good, hire a private detective and then when you find out she is or she isn't then proceed to protect your own interest, along with your child and make sure you hussle her so she get's nothing.
First person who gets angry, is the first person who loses the fight.
MP123
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unfortunately you should never let anyone knew what you where thinking, as now you will be labelled as paranoid.. you should of just smiled and went about finding out stealthly.
You will get your answer soon enough buddy.
Don't get to angry, otherwise it's gonna haze your judgement and then you will loose the game!
Start sending her flowers, etc as a suprise.. so she thinks all is good.. and she will think ur cool.. if you do this, she will get more complacent and more likely to get caught out if shes cheating, as she will slip up thinking ur 1000s of miles away, whilst ur private detective will catch everything..
once you do know and IF she is cheating, start making moves again stealthly to protect your own interest and leave her with nothing
You will get your answer soon enough buddy.
Don't get to angry, otherwise it's gonna haze your judgement and then you will loose the game!
Start sending her flowers, etc as a suprise.. so she thinks all is good.. and she will think ur cool.. if you do this, she will get more complacent and more likely to get caught out if shes cheating, as she will slip up thinking ur 1000s of miles away, whilst ur private detective will catch everything..
once you do know and IF she is cheating, start making moves again stealthly to protect your own interest and leave her with nothing
FIRST, THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE.
it must be hard to work in a stressful place and be far away from family at the same time.
sounds like you dont have any proof,, not saying your wrong,, but you got no proof. when you start throwing acusations around without proof it does you no good, 1. she can deny it, 2. if she is innocent then it will actually push her into cheating. like my mom once told me,, you either trust them or you dont. it dont matter if shes innocent or guilty,,your fault or not,, if you dont trust her you shouldnt be with her (i understand the time and family makes this a little more complicated but the ground rule still applies) ... for example if i trust my girlfriend and she went out to the club with her friends and came home 2 hours late, i would worry that she is ok and not that she is cheating on me. but if i didn't trust her then it would be the opposite.
if your gut is really telling you not to trust her, then hire joey greco! (cheaters) Like mp123 said,, you need to worry about lawyers, and child custody, and your assets, spouse support etc. get a PI and build a case,, if he sees her smoking weed around your kid then you need that for court and custody ,child support etc. EVEN IF SHE IS GUILTY DONT LET HER KNOW!! JUST LET THE PI BUILD EVIDENCE AGAINST HER,, AND JUST ACT LIKE EVERYTHING IS COOL AND THEN SERVE HER DIVORCE PAPERS WHEN YOU GETS HOME! (you dont have to be hostile about it,, long distance relationships are hard no matter what the circumstances,, it may be best for your kid to be civil and not fight,, but make sure you get a lawyer thats a f-cking heartless killer!)
and worse case if she is cheating, then on the bright side you got a free pass to drink beers with your buddies and party with strippers when you get home.
it must be hard to work in a stressful place and be far away from family at the same time.
sounds like you dont have any proof,, not saying your wrong,, but you got no proof. when you start throwing acusations around without proof it does you no good, 1. she can deny it, 2. if she is innocent then it will actually push her into cheating. like my mom once told me,, you either trust them or you dont. it dont matter if shes innocent or guilty,,your fault or not,, if you dont trust her you shouldnt be with her (i understand the time and family makes this a little more complicated but the ground rule still applies) ... for example if i trust my girlfriend and she went out to the club with her friends and came home 2 hours late, i would worry that she is ok and not that she is cheating on me. but if i didn't trust her then it would be the opposite.
if your gut is really telling you not to trust her, then hire joey greco! (cheaters) Like mp123 said,, you need to worry about lawyers, and child custody, and your assets, spouse support etc. get a PI and build a case,, if he sees her smoking weed around your kid then you need that for court and custody ,child support etc. EVEN IF SHE IS GUILTY DONT LET HER KNOW!! JUST LET THE PI BUILD EVIDENCE AGAINST HER,, AND JUST ACT LIKE EVERYTHING IS COOL AND THEN SERVE HER DIVORCE PAPERS WHEN YOU GETS HOME! (you dont have to be hostile about it,, long distance relationships are hard no matter what the circumstances,, it may be best for your kid to be civil and not fight,, but make sure you get a lawyer thats a f-cking heartless killer!)
and worse case if she is cheating, then on the bright side you got a free pass to drink beers with your buddies and party with strippers when you get home.
you need to learn what respect is,, pro tip: you can't "google it"
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cashcowone
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Hello! Finally the Right Answer! Spend some money on a Professional. The question is: if it is true, then what? Forgive & work it out? Divorce after 19 years? Its her fault for cheating but can it be your fault for neglecting her? Do you make your time at home with her & your family count or do you take that time for granted? The cheating is not the problem...its the result of the problem. Marriage is WORK! (On both parties) If you can salvage your marriage DO IT. Marriage counselor are great for a conventional approach. But this is a HEART ISSUE - not a cheating issue. Your marriage will then need a restoration of the HEART that only 1 Counselor can fix. If she is cheating & you really want to restore your marriage completely......Only Jesus Christ can restore a marriage & a Heart. You both need to be Born Again! You need to ask Jesus Christ to come into your heart & save you. What does all this have to do with your issue? Look up this church in your hometown City or State - The Door Christian Fellowship Church also Know as the Potters House. Look them up & give them a call. Their slogan is: "Where Jesus is Changing Lives"
kveldulv
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Hire a private investigator. Let them figure it out.
However I personally think that after 19 years together, you've earned the right to simply demand some explanations.
If it smells like shit, it probably is.
The important thing is to not tolerate shit, lies, deceit and disrespect.
Every time you let something slip through the cracks, the crack gets bigger.
Some good advice.... always play dumb, never ever let on that you know or suspect anything.
The less you say the more you'll hear.
However I personally think that after 19 years together, you've earned the right to simply demand some explanations.
If it smells like shit, it probably is.
The important thing is to not tolerate shit, lies, deceit and disrespect.
Every time you let something slip through the cracks, the crack gets bigger.
Some good advice.... always play dumb, never ever let on that you know or suspect anything.
The less you say the more you'll hear.