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So, you got a warning... hardly a big deal as 1 warning is nothing more than a "Yo, {Dude|Dudette} that is not allowed here on BHW and here is why" and not a, "You suck because you broke a rule".
Everyone makes mistakes (yeah that is an absolute and I despise absolutes but this one is legit).
Everyone.
Or, maybe you didn't make a mistake and the staff member read your post wrong.
Again, everyone makes mistakes (that includes staff).
So how do you handle that if a staff member makes a mistake in your opinion?
Respond to the PM and explain things. If what you did was not a violation of the ToS and merely a mistake on the part of the staff member who may have misconstrued your post/thread/PM we are open to listening to your thoughts.
Even if we are not wrong we are almost always willing to listen and offer some thoughts as to how you can go about things differently to stay inside the sidelines and not go out of bounds.
Case in point:
I issued a warning to someone today who is typically not a violator (we see history as staff) and he responded that he did not think I was correct and explained why. After a couple of messages back and forth I agreed that he did not deserve the warning and killed it.
Had he come to me with, "BTB, you are a total monkey fetish loving jackwagon" I'd not entertain his rebuttal. But he did not, he came as a guy talking to a guy and explaining his deal.
Now, if you truly violated there is a process in place to help you eliminate your warning expiration points but you won't get that option if you come off like Mike Tyson biting the ear off of Evander Holyfield (Holyfield is actually a good guy according to an attorney friend of mine who represented him in a few things) as we will probably tell you to kick rocks.
Come off with a genuine conversation and without an emotional response as to you being all kinds of bent out of shape and we will usually chat with you.
tl;dr - get a warning, respond to the PM with some reasonable conversation (respect is not even required) and see if the warning was an error and if not ask how you can get it cleaned up.
Most of us Mods are people too and treating us with a lack of human decency is really not nice nor is it nice to do that with anyone in real life.
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