I don't enjoy anything

Finding validation through others rarely end well. And happiness, along with other emotions like sadness, motivation, depression, excitement. They're all fleeting. It's unnatural to be happy all the time. Lower your expectations and find things that interest you instead. Sometimes interesting things leads to happiness. And you should be grateful enough for that.

If everything seems boring for you, try something extraordinary, like bungee jumping or swimming with sharks or something. That should knock the boredom right out of you. I'm not kidding btw, this is something I do as well.

The thing is with life, there’s value in pondering it's meaning, but sometimes too much pondering leads to overthinking. The world is too noisy as it is, and being lonely just means you're occupied in your own thoughts, instead of being overloaded with others'.

That's my two cents.

This thread really underlined a lot of things from my own life. I feel wayy less alone now in the views I hold. Hope it's the same for you OP.

I think you gotta locate something in your life that attracts good, smart, kind, successful people.

You'll rarely find such people when you are going out or hooking up on social media.
While such people absolutely exist in those areas, I think those places are primarily dominated by people who have wayy smaller expectations in life. How can you, as a normal dude, befriend a girl/guy that devotes their life to turning their brain off and just letting things go their way, be it drugs/sex/career.
It's completely wrong.
A lot of people have been taught that it's right though. Unlearning the stupid ways of social interaction that have been shoved into our heads is a major pain in the ass.

Go to places that attract quality people, it's literally the only way out of this shit. I'm of course not talking exclusively about theatres and museums and galleries yada yada. Those have been infested by pseudointellectual spoilt kids too.
Social gatherings with a cause work best, be it charity, educating people, helping people get their career going, planting trees, etc.
People here are on average of way higher quality. Yea, they aren't as freaky in their fun, but many are so good that they'll pretend they are just for you. Seen it happen.

adalbertmgrm said:

I'm alone, gentlemen. Yeah, I got some friends. I see them whenever I want. But that's not the problem. It all sounds like an idiot to me. I'm sick of all the meaningless talk! Everybody has a phone in their hands and they are always after a woman to fuck.

Even women seem meaningless to me. You ask why? Because I know this game, man! Always the same scene! Go and make love to her. But that doesn't make me happy. Man-woman relationships are no different than bargaining, it's ridiculous. Everything comes to me routine. And very pointless.


People are so simple now. Eat, play sports and go to the party. Go and have sex. Okay, but how happy would that make you? Look around, how many people are really talking to you? All memorized things and memorized plans.


There are people around me, but I feel lonely.

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It's so weird , I felt the same thing in the last 2 years but I couldn't explain it in words as good as you did

PaintedBlack said:

This thread really underlined a lot of things from my own life. I feel wayy less alone now in the views I hold. Hope it's the same for you OP.

I think you gotta locate something in your life that attracts good, smart, kind, successful people.

You'll rarely find such people when you are going out or hooking up on social media.
While such people absolutely exist in those areas, I think those places are primarily dominated by people who have wayy smaller expectations in life. How can you, as a normal dude, befriend a girl/guy that devotes their life to turning their brain off and just letting things go their way, be it drugs/sex/career.
It's completely wrong.
A lot of people have been taught that it's right though. Unlearning the stupid ways of social interaction that have been shoved into our heads is a major pain in the ass.

Go to places that attract quality people, it's literally the only way out of this shit. I'm of course not talking exclusively about theatres and museums and galleries yada yada. Those have been infested by pseudointellectual spoilt kids too.
Social gatherings with a cause work best, be it charity, educating people, helping people get their career going, planting trees, etc.
People here are on average of way higher quality. Yea, they aren't as freaky in their fun, but many are so good that they'll pretend they are just for you. Seen it happen.

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Thank you! This is a great speech. I agree with you.

PaintedBlack said:

This thread really underlined a lot of things from my own life. I feel wayy less alone now in the views I hold. Hope it's the same for you OP.

I think you gotta locate something in your life that attracts good, smart, kind, successful people.

You'll rarely find such people when you are going out or hooking up on social media.
While such people absolutely exist in those areas, I think those places are primarily dominated by people who have wayy smaller expectations in life. How can you, as a normal dude, befriend a girl/guy that devotes their life to turning their brain off and just letting things go their way, be it drugs/sex/career.
It's completely wrong.
A lot of people have been taught that it's right though. Unlearning the stupid ways of social interaction that have been shoved into our heads is a major pain in the ass.

Go to places that attract quality people, it's literally the only way out of this shit. I'm of course not talking exclusively about theatres and museums and galleries yada yada. Those have been infested by pseudointellectual spoilt kids too.
Social gatherings with a cause work best, be it charity, educating people, helping people get their career going, planting trees, etc.
People here are on average of way higher quality. Yea, they aren't as freaky in their fun, but many are so good that they'll pretend they are just for you. Seen it happen.

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Perfectly put.

Hit the gym.

Been there ..
Get into reading books .. lose yourself in good books .. i suggest Greek Mythology , Evolutionary Biology and general history .
nothing beats the blues like losing yourself for a few hours in a good book.

Good luck.

pofigy said:

visit a psychotherapist ASAP

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This should be done asap. If me or OP. There should be no problem to talk about it.

disadvantages of being woke.... you no longer have time for chit chat or small talk you seek a deep understanding of your purpose in life and you see everyone walking in a straight line, its a shift of consciousness the universe is trying to tell you something.... meditate, do breathing exercises, drink a lot of water and listen...

good luck

I constantly search the Internet. I'm trying to find something I can read about it. I started reading this book, striking. https://www.scribd.com/book/171103006/To-Have-or-To-Be Erich fromm To have or to be

Do some activities of being human. Doing something for people that in need. Something for other not for you. People go gym do work have sex to please themselves. When you start doing something for others you will enjoy that and will not feel lonely. I am sure. Go and try.

There are literally thousands or millions of people right now that are really sick, maybe they are stuck in a hospital bed hoping that one day they can finally get out and go for a walk or something.

My friends gf just died in the hospital last month... she was just 30...

If you dont appreciate what you already have it will be hard to progress in life and achieve anything meaningful...

Best of luck to you.... just my 2 cents.

This is life bro ! Having people you love around you may help .Also trying new experiences and traveling !

nakamura said:

You think too much.

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Also this, don't overthink too much, this is a problem that I've experienced also and it's a bad habit.

I think it happens to us sometimes in our life we feel like that, maybe buy some good book on life perspectives and read them, that should really help.