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I am obsessed. Are you?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Moneymaka, May 9, 2009.

  1. Moneymaka

    Moneymaka Junior Member

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    Recently, i haven't been outside except for school. It feels like i'm losing contact with everyone. I remember the days when i came home drunk, brought girls to my place and when i went out my mom had to beg me to come home, but now she's begging me to leave home.

    She's telling me i will get mentally ill from staying home so much.
    The reason for all this is because i want to earn money.
    I don't care if i lose all my friends, if that's what it takes to make money, then that's what i will do.
    If i need to stay home and work in my free time, then that's what im going to do.
    I even quit drinking and smoking just because i thought it might help me to clear up my mind and stop being so lazy.

    It's like, the only way to get happy is to earn money.
    This can be a great motivator, but at the same time it's a thing to get depressed about.
    I've just discovered this great place, but there is so much information here i don't even know where to start. I've started doing e-whoring, but there's so much information there too, it all gets so confusing.
    Right now i'm really really confused about what to do next.
    I don't like wasting my time , but it's driving me crazy since i have no other choice.
    I'm depressed, confused and have no idea what to do next.


    Anyone else been in this kind of situation, being so obsessed by money?

    And if not, then what is your current situation? Or what has been the toughest part of your life?
     
  2. menaice

    menaice Regular Member

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    I kinda know what your talking about but not going out and having some fun every now and then isn't good for you i make it a point to go out to the club 2 times a month (at the least) on saturday nights. That way i still get laid (key part in Internet money making or atleast it should be) and i always keep in touch with the females i make saturday nights my time to just get away from everything.
     
  3. coreygeer

    coreygeer BANNED BANNED

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    I'm obsessed with money.

    This is how almost every one feels.. almost every new marketer feels just like you but at least you can say it.. most of the other people are in other threads telling the world they make $1k-$10k+ monthly, when really they don't..

    If every one was making it then Gurus wouldn't be gurus and we'd have no one to market to in the internet marketing niche. Laziness is the number one reason people fail.. just like procrastination.. people don't have time to fail and they don't have time to waste time on methods that don't work so they'll ultimately end up doing nothing at all.

    I know that's what I did in 2007. I lost every thing and then lost some more. The point is.. no matter what you do and no matter how hopeless it seems.. at least do something.
     
  4. gun-shy315

    gun-shy315 Regular Member Premium Member

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    Welcome to internet marketing. I'm at a point that I'm running out of excuses why I can't spend time with my friends or family. I do try and go out once a week though (even if I don't feel like it).
     
  5. hinkz

    hinkz Newbie

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    I've like this for the last month or so, I read all over this forum try things out... make great money in my first day (50 average) then earnings seem to halve each next day until I can think of some new twist for a different offer.
    Go from being really excited (jackpot!) on first day, to low and worrying about what I'll need to come up to get people to take my offers.
     
  6. Grandslam

    Grandslam Senior Member

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    How old are you? (you mentioned school so I'm curious)

    I totally understand what you mean. My mom is always concerned that I need to get out of the house more - 2 summers ago she got pissed off at me because she said that I was constantly on the internet researching and researching some more, claiming that I needed to do something with my life....there is just SO MUCH to learn out there about IM and the art of making money. A lot of people cannot even relate to us... it's like going to school all over again - except you're learning something that's far more useful than spherical trigometry.

    I think the key is to FOCUS. Focus stands for:

    Follow
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    Develop a plan. Set a small goal at first. This way your subconcious mind will allow to reach that goal because it is a simple goal to reach. Once you acheive that first goal, set another slightly higher goal. Just keep repeating this process and you'll be very surprised at how well you do. The reason most people fail is because they set a huge goal that they are too lazy to acheive. By setting small goals, you will have no excuse about the journey being too difficult.

    And don't get OBSESSED with making money - this will lead you down a bad road. There's absolutely nothing wrong with making money, but don't let it take over your life.

    Start studying the art of passive income. This is the income of the rich. It's not derived from a job. It comes from creating or buying an asset that produces positive cashflow. If you understand passive income, you will never have to slave away at a job ever again. EVER. If you need more clarification on what passive income is just google rich dad and go to the official website. Don't listen to john t reed's shit. The guy isn't even rich. He's an imposter that is an embarassment to all of humankind.

    As far as losing all your friends - I've experienced that the same way you have - I was relatively "cool" a year ago - but once I started focusing on how to make money (other than by the drudgery of earning a living) I started losing touch with a lot of my friends. It wasn't that we didn't enjoy each other's company - it was that we just lost touch because I was constantly studying. There's nothing right or wrong with this, just make sure that the decision you make has the outcome you want.

    Personally, the friends I had before were just holding me back. Hearing "You can't do that" or "You have no idea what you're talking about" whenever I brought up the subject of money was frustrating. But I knew my end goal. I knew I wouldn't be friends with those kids past the end of high school anyway. I came to the conclusion that learning something that could benefit me financially was far more valuable then temporary "drunk buddies" to screw around with on the weekends. I know that I will find friends with the same interests. I mean, just take a look around this forum - there are tons of guys who are successful in the IM field and are great people as well. Go to seminars on this stuff. Find clubs in your area. You will find like-minded people. Just finding like-minded people, even if they live across the country, makes a HUGE difference. NEVER settle for mediocre friends - there are extraordinary people out there. Trust me, I know from experience, and this one step has made a huge positive difference in my quality of life.

    I'm a big believer in delayed gratification. You know, working now so that I can enjoy tomorrow. I know the days of awesome times with friends and gorgeous women are not far away. I'm just the type of guy who will not enjoy a good time unless I have acheived one of my goals. That's just me though (although if you've actually experienced it, I think you can agree that a celebration is much more enjoyable when you actually have something to celebrate). It gives you WAY more confidence - and more confidence = much more fun.

    As far as you not knowing what to do - I highly reccomend setting some short term goals (to reach in the next year) and a long term goal (where you want to be in 5 years). Follow One Course Until Successful. Don't try to accomplish 5 things at once. It will only lower your IQ and drive you to the point of insanity. Just trust me on that one. This will help you immensely.

    Hope this helps

    GS
     
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  7. davejug1

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    I'm obsessed simply with challenging myself, money is not much of an issue other than an accurate yardstick with which to gauge success
     
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  8. shapeshift3r

    shapeshift3r Junior Member

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    It sounds like you should get out and spend some time doing things with your friends. When your raking it in you'll want to spend time enjoying your money but how will you do that if you have no friends or a lover in your life? For most its not money that makes them happy, its the people in their lives.
     
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  9. Moneymaka

    Moneymaka Junior Member

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    Grandslam, you have no idea on how many things you just wrote resembles my life and my own thoughts.

    It feels great to actualy know that there are people out there like you who've gone through a similar stage in their life or atleast know what i'm talking about.

    And what you have said might be the answer to my frustrations. Maybe i am setting my goals too high and i'm actualy doing several things at one time which is hard to keep it organized.

    I have read rich dad,poor dad and i do know about passive income.
    I'll probably read the book again since it's been a long time.

    Thanks a lot for your help!!

    I wish you all the best and i hope you'll achieve your goals!

    I'm 16 by the way.
     
  10. chickuzt

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    I do the least I can so I can still fuck around as much as I want, only so I can support the lifestyle I desire.
     
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    Pofecker Senior Member Premium Member

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    I still remember the days back when I used to tell the wife "I earned $2.00 today off adsense!!!". Earning money online was a dream years ago. As I studied and built up enough revenue to reinvest in advertising and outsourcing, I began making a few hundred a month. The people in my life still rolled their eyes and said "but it takes you so much time to make so little". I paid no attention. I've been in fights with family/friends over time spent online. I told them that it would pay off and paid no mind to their bitching.

    Now IM pays my mortgage, utilities, car payment, EVERYTHING. Some of the same people that slammed me for spending so much time online are now asking me for help. They lost their job during these tough economic times and NOW want to learn how I make my money.

    If money is your goal, celebrate every penny you earn. :)
     
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  12. crunch

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    I never thought i was absessed untill last nite. Gods honest truth, i dreamt of cakeslice. WTF!!
     
  13. TheLoser

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    Don't feel alone dude. I'm in the same boat with you.
     
  14. dbomez

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    LOL, exactly the same situation except the income part, for now I'm at few hundreds level but that is also changing slowly. People can't understand that to accomplish something you need to put a lot of effort in your education. I don't see any managers or doctors working without spending few years learning stuff but if you do it on computer you are "playing games" for the rest of the world. I honestly don't care anymore because I know where I'm headed and nobody can stop me. Also I like to tell as a joke that I am working so hard because I am lazy and I want in 2-3 years retire or work just a hour a day or something like that :)


     
  15. skeLzo

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    I feel you moneymaka.

    When I was making 60k/year in the golden era of myspace, I was spending 90% of my time alone. Eventually I got my own place, started going to college, making friends, etc. Then the time devoted to work dwindled down eventually I was making nothing.

    Now I'm in debt and trying to get my head back into the game. But it's hard and I find myself getting discouraged and obsessing about making money because the cash just ain't coming in. Nevertheless, I'm trying to take it in stride and complete small goals, like Grandslam was talking about.

    I wouldn't let other hassle you about the time you spend alone, that's the only way you're going to make it in this game imo.
     
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  16. xbox360gurl70s

    xbox360gurl70s Elite Member

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    The only good thing that IM has done to me is provide jobs to people that are seeking help or in need of extra cash.

    And what Pofecker said I can relate 100% since it happened to me too! O___O

     
  17. entreprenuer

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    I am definitely obsessed with money.

    I have the same problem. Im not getting out as much, but I learned how to divide my time. And ewhoring can be annoying and it takes alot of work. My suggestion is to rank high in Google. It will take lots of effort; but eventually it will pay off in the long run because once youre on the front page you can just let the doe roll in and automate the procces.


    p.s. And "pofecker" my family went as far as ripping my computer out of my room and giving me time limits. My family bitches and whines right now, especially my parents. hopefully this time and effort will pay off. I cant wait to slap my soom to come clickbank check of a few hundred in my dads face. ahhh... I cant wait.
     
  18. DrJekyll

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    If they were your friends, what you are doing online would not bother them.

    I have found in life there are few people you can call friends, you will have many friendly aquantances in your lifetime, but few that you know will drop everything and come to your aid whenever you call or need it.

    Point to make, dont sacrifice your family, but to unsupporting "friends" Fuck em, you have a couple thousand friends here at BHW

    you do need to get some balance, set small task goals, and take time off when hitting them.


    edit: I have chosen this as my Career, Time I spend is equal to school, whithout all the costs. In the end my earning potential will be way more than with a degree [If you are in school, stay there dont use this as a advise to quit]
     
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  19. hwolfpack6

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    Bleh, I was addicted but I'm falling out of addiction because I'm not making any money right now. I need a method that will work for a 15 year old student. I was into tv streaming, but that got really saturated. I want to make money with Craigslist or with Clickbank, but I'm sort of stuck with that right now.
     
  20. solarfl4re

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    Eh, I never went out side before IM, so it's nothing new. I often get obsessed with certain things and never go out. It's just my personality.

    Another personality trait of mine is I never give up till I succeed, which apparently seems like a good trait to have in IM.

    Then again, I also have PDD-NOS :)
     
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