kvvni
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Lol about 365: it’s shit for sad teens. Something like 50 shades, but worse.
Thank you buddy!
I am lost
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Thank you buddy!
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Your way to attached to this girl. I'd advise you take step back in the relationship or this will blow up in your face if she will ever break up.
You don't look at what a girl says, you look at her actions and then you can really see if someone wants to rekindle a relationship or not. Words are just words.
Again, you are way to attached to this girl. She probably lost all the attraction to you because you became a needy boyfriend. She knows that she could probably walk over all your and you'd be right back on her doorstep.. Not good dude.
The best thing you can do is to stop texting her and give her the gift of missing you. She probably wants the guy back that she originally fell in love with. Not someone she can walk all over. Think about it.
And another thing: You both are still young. Especially in the early adult age it can happen that perspectives and lifestyle just changes. Chances are, that you are not 100% aligned with what she is wanting. And bending yourself like a Pretzel just to fit her needs won't help either. Sometimes you just gotta accept that life goes on and that relationships won't last forever. Yeah, 5 Years is a long time indeed, but don't stress it. You've still got so much life left, and if someone or something leaves your life, then that's okay. Because that's life. It's about going through the struggle and learning to accept certain things.
So if it doesn't work out, then be grateful for the times you've had with her and wish her well. Because that is what life should be about... making great memories... with or without someone.
IG Growth
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My advice really is to tell you the same as the members above, before it is another nonsensical message that says the same as the others I want you to understand that a relationship should not be the center of your life. A relationship should be considered as a complement that helps you to continue in this life, a person who supports you, and you support, and that both of you should be happy, if she is not, it is best for her to leave. If she really loves you she will come back for you, but don't get your hopes up.
I know I sound like sh*t, I am only 16 years old, and I am not yet the age that you are, I have only had one girlfriend so far haha many will say that it is a love of children or adolescents the fact is that she and I lasted 3 years together and one day she broke up with me. For me, it was the worst sh*t that could happen to me, since she was the center of my life for me, I spent a while overcoming her, but now that I have been separated from her for a while I know that it was the best.
You have a great advantage, you are young and if you have good intentions with the world you will possibly get a good girl who shares her happiness with you. So don't worry brother, everything will be fine.
You have to focus on learning, improving your skills, improving yourself in all your aspects and being a great person, sooner or later a girl will come who is willing to love you in the same way that you want.
I know I sound like sh*t, I am only 16 years old, and I am not yet the age that you are, I have only had one girlfriend so far haha many will say that it is a love of children or adolescents the fact is that she and I lasted 3 years together and one day she broke up with me. For me, it was the worst sh*t that could happen to me, since she was the center of my life for me, I spent a while overcoming her, but now that I have been separated from her for a while I know that it was the best.
You have a great advantage, you are young and if you have good intentions with the world you will possibly get a good girl who shares her happiness with you. So don't worry brother, everything will be fine.
You have to focus on learning, improving your skills, improving yourself in all your aspects and being a great person, sooner or later a girl will come who is willing to love you in the same way that you want.
b1step-ahead
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I'm lost
I know this is not a forum about relationships and consolation, but about blackhat. I identify with myself because I have been active on the Internet for as long as I can remember. I learned a lot from here, and I also try to pass it on. I love you guys and I need your word, advice, I don't know how to call it.
I'm 21. I have been working on the internet since I was 14. First pennies, now large amounts. I'm not going to sell anything - so I'll say - indeed, in 2020 I made ~ $ 300,000. Generally, no one except my family knows how much I have on my account, even the girl knew that I earn a lot, but no specific amounts. I even kept a work journal in a local forum in my country, but I was done because writing about such amounts equals writing from your friends "and how do you do it" "will you teach me?" etc etc. Sick shit.
I am with my girlfriend for 5 years. As you can see my age, you probably think: HOW THE FUCK. That's what everyone thought, "perfect relationship", "no quarrels" etc. etc.
She's been very strange for a month now. He has a high school diploma this year, she studies very often. We always slept together, almost every day (we don't live together). Now? No, because she is studying, but I am OK with that.
A week ago we had an honest conversation. She said it was bothering her; that I doesn't respect her; that there were many times when she was silent when I did something. And ok. I'm not a saint, there were some stupid things on my part (for example, during a party I took a picture with another girl, etc.) I won't go into details, because it's not worth it. But she stated that there were a lot of such situations in 5 years, and she was silent. However, she did not provide specific examples, only that there were a lot of them.
I apologized, even a tear flew because there were some sick actions, but I never cheated on her, never flirted with another, nothing like that. I have always been 100% faithful to her, ALWAYS.
Yesterday I came to her and noticed that she is so quiet that she wants to go to sleep right away, and I asked what the fuck is going on.
She said she felt it was more of a habit than a feeling. That we just do something every day, see each other and that's it. I replied that there is a pandemic and everything is closed, what should we do? I always try to take care of her to make her happy. And suddenly she said, "We'll either try to rebuild it or leave it as it is." Shock. Heart to throat.
It is not the end.
"I just don't want to lose you and hurt you." So? What do you think about it? What does it mean?
Then on a walk, continuing the conversation, she said she felt a little restricted. That he has a problem meeting new people. That, for example, while she is in a relationship with me, she would not come to the table and meet some men. Get it? Here I already got a headshot. She said "maybe she must fly out of the nest." That she lacks the same passion as at the beginning. That it hasn't been working out for a month (worst of all, I haven't noticed anything changed in the course of this month).
She has started smoking quite a lot recently. E-cigarette, but she always despised.
A million thoughts. Is it that she is bored of this relationship? Is she fed up with me? Or maybe he has someone?
I'm fucked up. I am lost. I had a great life, I started planning my engagement, buying an apartment. 5 years. 5 years from my teen life.
I couldn't sleep today. I woke up sweating after 2 hours with a headache. I have not eaten for long time. What should I do? Fuck, I'm silly asking here on the forum, but I feel that there are good people here.
Edit: huge thanks if you read it, it means for me a lot
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kvvni
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So she called me in the morning for meet up Today:
‚we have to talk about everything’
in general as I answered her, we will just Break up today because ‚love is not always everything’.
Ugh I have to swallow it then Thanks guys.
‚we have to talk about everything’
in general as I answered her, we will just Break up today because ‚love is not always everything’.
Ugh I have to swallow it then
Thanks guys.
kvvni
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Yup,
We broke up. I am good. I am shocked to be honest that I am not nervous.
she just told: ‚i can’t feel it’. And you know what? It’s OK for me. Really, I mean i am anyway 100% sure that she didn’t wanted it.
Little bit sad for memories, but AS YOU GUYS WROTE:
I am fucking young. Let’s make fucking millions
We broke up. I am good. I am shocked to be honest that I am not nervous.
she just told: ‚i can’t feel it’. And you know what? It’s OK for me. Really, I mean i am anyway 100% sure that she didn’t wanted it.
Little bit sad for memories, but AS YOU GUYS WROTE:
I am fucking young. Let’s make fucking millions
Halch
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- Feb 14, 2016
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Yup,
We broke up. I am good. I am shocked to be honest that I am not nervous.
she just told: ‚i can’t feel it’. And you know what? It’s OK for me. Really, I mean i am anyway 100% sure that she didn’t wanted it.
Little bit sad for memories, but AS YOU GUYS WROTE:
I am fucking young. Let’s make fucking millions
Like said before, someday someone will earn your affection.
If you concentrate on doing what you like, sooner or later you might be bothered by someone showing affection.
Anyway, make some millions first.
Yasith
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You just lived 21 years dude. There will 3x time to be live. And you decide that around 60 how you gonna be live.
Plenty of money can get comfortable life, but can't get happiness.
"Love will make people weaker" love just like a business, if you don't get any profit from it, just stop invest.
I was wasted nearly 3-5 years with same pain you got now. What a stupid, right
If you have enough money just do some social service and post on social media feedbacks and comments will make you happy.
It's much better than spending money for girls
Plenty of money can get comfortable life, but can't get happiness.
"Love will make people weaker" love just like a business, if you don't get any profit from it, just stop invest.
I was wasted nearly 3-5 years with same pain you got now. What a stupid, right
If you have enough money just do some social service and post on social media
feedbacks and comments will make you happy.It's much better than spending money for girls
GGAds
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IT is what it is, just leave and go on with fucking milionsYup,
We broke up. I am good. I am shocked to be honest that I am not nervous.
she just told: ‚i can’t feel it’. And you know what? It’s OK for me. Really, I mean i am anyway 100% sure that she didn’t wanted it.
Little bit sad for memories, but AS YOU GUYS WROTE:
I am fucking young. Let’s make fucking millions
Caius Julius Caesar
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The same thing happened to me OP.
Same situation, same words, etc.
I went through exactly the same experience.
It seems it happens only to guys who really care and love their gfs... I see everywhere jerks who treat girls badly and with indifference and those girls are obsessed with them. But when you are always there for her, treat her well and really care for her with all your heart she gets bored with you and leaves you, deleting all the memories and pushing you outside without remorse. I am passionate about human nature but I can't understand things like this man.
Anyway, be strong. I think that kind of experience and love will always remain in your heart, and you will remember her for the rest of your life. But you just need to go on.
In this time and age, you either become an immature "bad boy" if u want a relationship or just don't have one and I think it's better that way. Make lots of money, try to become a better responsible man, live life, and feel good. And that's it.
Same situation, same words, etc.
I went through exactly the same experience.
It seems it happens only to guys who really care and love their gfs... I see everywhere jerks who treat girls badly and with indifference and those girls are obsessed with them. But when you are always there for her, treat her well and really care for her with all your heart she gets bored with you and leaves you, deleting all the memories and pushing you outside without remorse. I am passionate about human nature but I can't understand things like this man.
Anyway, be strong. I think that kind of experience and love will always remain in your heart, and you will remember her for the rest of your life. But you just need to go on.
In this time and age, you either become an immature "bad boy" if u want a relationship or just don't have one and I think it's better that way. Make lots of money, try to become a better responsible man, live life, and feel good. And that's it.
kvvni
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Noted!
Goon Zoon Fraz
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I think the time for you to learn communication and relationship is coming.
I'm 44, and I've spent 23 years learning about it with my wife, and now with my kids.
I believe you are a great guy in relationship. Five years in relationship with only one girlfriend is something.
Relationship is similar with building a bridge between 2 hills. I build from hill number 1, and my wife build from the other hill. Without communication, it's hard to make a great bridge, since each of us can only build half of the bridge.
I believe your life is now calling you. What would you choose: feeling comfort with your current decision, or entering a new adventure of relationship.
In 2001, I chose to go on a new adventure, just as Bilbo did in Hobbit movie, without any money in my pocket. And still, my life (and also my family's) is an adventure.
The decision is in your hand, and I believe your pocket is not empty.
I'm 44, and I've spent 23 years learning about it with my wife, and now with my kids.
I believe you are a great guy in relationship. Five years in relationship with only one girlfriend is something.
Relationship is similar with building a bridge between 2 hills. I build from hill number 1, and my wife build from the other hill. Without communication, it's hard to make a great bridge, since each of us can only build half of the bridge.
I believe your life is now calling you. What would you choose: feeling comfort with your current decision, or entering a new adventure of relationship.
In 2001, I chose to go on a new adventure, just as Bilbo did in Hobbit movie, without any money in my pocket. And still, my life (and also my family's) is an adventure.
The decision is in your hand, and I believe your pocket is not empty.
jazzc
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It is not the end indeed.
You have tunnel vision, due to lack of experience in life. This is normal, we all get it. We elevate the importance of our experiences to mean the world. But the world is vast and has so many good and bad things. In comparison, who has known life?
So, it is simple. Open the door of your current box and step with excitement into a bigger box. You will do this so many times until its time to pass away. And those small boxes back when you were young will be oh so laughable.
kvvni
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hmmmm
I didn't speak to her with a single message. We've been messaging every day and we saw each other almost every day. Despite the fact that I regretted it (breakup, memories with her, etc...) at the beginning, I decided that I had to move forward. Yesterday I went to see a new car at a car dealership. (I saying right away: no, I didn't brag about it anywhere, it was just a coincidence that she called then. She is not about the money, because we were in poverty together, and we broke up when I was earning mega money for my country).
She wrote, "Hey, you want to talk? I don't want to impose myself, if you don't want to, I understand." I wrote "I think we can if I have free time". Well, yeah, I was clearly bursting with energy, compared to her - she was, I have the impression - as sad and tired as during the last month of the "circus" in our relationship. She even said that she wanted to send me a picture of the cat we adopted, but she refrained because she didn't know if she should.
I got a call from her today that she wanted to call me yesterday but she was scared or something like that.
I got invite on her birthday party and... She said there would be alcohol so I could stay for the night.
what the hell is going on
I have to create journey thread with this
I didn't speak to her with a single message. We've been messaging every day and we saw each other almost every day. Despite the fact that I regretted it (breakup, memories with her, etc...) at the beginning, I decided that I had to move forward. Yesterday I went to see a new car at a car dealership. (I saying right away: no, I didn't brag about it anywhere, it was just a coincidence that she called then. She is not about the money, because we were in poverty together, and we broke up when I was earning mega money for my country).
She wrote, "Hey, you want to talk? I don't want to impose myself, if you don't want to, I understand." I wrote "I think we can if I have free time". Well, yeah, I was clearly bursting with energy, compared to her - she was, I have the impression - as sad and tired as during the last month of the "circus" in our relationship. She even said that she wanted to send me a picture of the cat we adopted, but she refrained because she didn't know if she should.
I got a call from her today that she wanted to call me yesterday but she was scared or something like that.
I got invite on her birthday party and... She said there would be alcohol so I could stay for the night.
what the hell is going on
I have to create journey thread with this
Goon Zoon Fraz
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- Mar 23, 2021
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hmmmm
I didn't speak to her with a single message. We've been messaging every day and we saw each other almost every day. Despite the fact that I regretted it (breakup, memories with her, etc...) at the beginning, I decided that I had to move forward. Yesterday I went to see a new car at a car dealership. (I saying right away: no, I didn't brag about it anywhere, it was just a coincidence that she called then. She is not about the money, because we were in poverty together, and we broke up when I was earning mega money for my country).
She wrote, "Hey, you want to talk? I don't want to impose myself, if you don't want to, I understand." I wrote "I think we can if I have free time". Well, yeah, I was clearly bursting with energy, compared to her - she was, I have the impression - as sad and tired as during the last month of the "circus" in our relationship. She even said that she wanted to send me a picture of the cat we adopted, but she refrained because she didn't know if she should.
I got a call from her today that she wanted to call me yesterday but she was scared or something like that.
I got invite on her birthday party and... She said there would be alcohol so I could stay for the night.
what the hell is going on
I have to create journey thread with this
Five years relationship is something.
Welcome to "school of relationship". I believe a journey thread is good for taking notes and understanding the journey.
So, go along with new journey, or stop the journey and go back to your current life, the choice is still yours.
ranaldjanssen
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It is really very difficult to get back to normal. But , I suggest you to leave her for sometime to look after herself may be she need some space. On the other hand you keep building yourself and don't think much about these stuffs. If she belongs to you she will come by her own.