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how do you keep from feeling guilty?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by theseodude, Aug 4, 2013.

  1. theseodude

    theseodude Regular Member

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    couple of days ago I was hired to transcribe a couple of audio tapes. So I did it and gave it to them.

    today I started looking at it and to be honest with you, I don't know what the hell I was thinking. It's a piece of shit and doesn't make sense. no, I wasn't high while writing it, I think lack of sleep and the rushed nature of the job contributed to the poor quality.
    And to make matters worse, this transcript is being used for legal reasons, so I could also get in trouble for it.

    so I have been feeling guilty/worried over this.

    I am a perfectionist so my judgement is messed up...I dont know if this is a big deal or if I am just obsessing over nothing.

    so I need to know, how should I "feel" right now? should I feel guilty? or should I be a little "cruel" and say "fuck them" and move onto the next job?
     
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  2. Sombrero

    Sombrero Senior Member

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    Have they said someting about it? If they don't complain then why to worry?
     
  3. ytr191

    ytr191 Regular Member

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    Don't ignore your feelings. They are real things! If you feel guilty its because of something that happened in your life that created a belief system that makes you feel guilty.

    Also, I am going to tell you the real truth. You are already perfect just as you are. There is no one just like you, and someone exactly like you will never appear again.

    Thus that makes you perfect just as you are, now and forever.
     
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  4. b1step-ahead

    b1step-ahead Power Member

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    If you have a chance to fix it before it becomes a problem, - take this option. If what you did will become a problem and you wait and wait, then guilt may creep in for a few days and go away.
     
  5. SEO20

    SEO20 Elite Member

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    Gave op +19 rep. You are fine. Move on - things you can't change - forget them.
     
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  6. Maggeren

    Maggeren Regular Member

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    Lol, I gave him +1 too at the same time, and didn't see your post.

    Then when I looked at his post and rep count I thought: "WTF, last time I checked my rep power was 1!?"
     
  7. john1444

    john1444 Elite Member

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    If it's not too late try to see if you can withdraw it.

    Place a phone call NOW.

    And a very bad attitude from you,
    if you know you are not in the right frame
    of mind, never undertake such delicate task
    especially one that is need deep thought.

    This doesn't make you a perfectionist anymore.
    Perfectionist would rather not take the job or
    make them understand. From my years of
    experience, i have got to learn that even
    Hitler could have been persuaded to stop the
    war and persecution earlier.

    You are probably gonna learn the hard way,
    sorry..
     
  8. Invoker

    Invoker Regular Member

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    You wanna spy on people who visit your web, you wanna steal peoples credit cards.. and THIS is what you feel guilty about? You don't feel guilty but rather fear for the legality of the shit.
    Srsly, if you are into doing shady shit, stop asking pats on the back on a fucking online forum you whiner
     
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  9. Duffers5000

    Duffers5000 Elite Member

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    I think when you see this superstars post history you might have a bit of buyers remorse with that !
     
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  10. SEO20

    SEO20 Elite Member

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    Ha ha - can see that now. Again we are all JUST humans on a freaking forum :)

     
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  11. theseodude

    theseodude Regular Member

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    yeah, I wanna spy on my visitors, it's called gathering information. nothing wrong with that.
    and where did you get the idea I wanted to steal credit cards?
     
  12. ShadeDream

    ShadeDream Elite Member

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    You sure we're not just in your imagination? lol
     
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    ahiddenman Elite Member

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    I looked at the title and thought you might have murdered someone or put a cat in a grinder or some shit haha!

    Don't feel guilty just move on keep your head clear.
     
  14. ceosam

    ceosam BANNED BANNED

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    Dude. One thing I've learned about business, is 99.9% of your clients will benefit from you if your offering a solid service and/or deal. Don't worry about the tiny 0.1% who don't. That's life dude. Move ON.
     
  15. Nigel Farage

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    You aren't a perfectionist. A perfectionist could never allow half-assed work to go out under any circumstances. High, sleep deprived, whatever. Being a perfectionist means being fully aware of what you are doing, as you are doing it, and the willingness to spend as much time as possible in order to make the job as perfect as possible.

    You, on the other hand, (no offense, but) sound more like a delusional bullshitter that isn't smart enough to disbelieve your own bullshit. There's no other explanation for it. You either saw the flaws in your work as they were being created, which makes you dishonest and lazy, or you didn't see them, which makes you delusional and stupid.

    And it's possible you are a bit of both. The self-serving label of "perfectionist" is just a dishonest piece of marketing, and serves as a distraction from what the truth really is.

    I'd also be inclined to reinterpret your self-serving perception of "guilt" into something more like "awareness". I think it's more likely that, after you've gone back and looked at the obvious flaws in the work that you've done, you have managed to become at least slightly aware of how completely sub-standard you are. This awareness is unacceptable to you, and you've reinterpreted and redefined most of it into the most palatable form possible, and now you come here to this social environment looking for validation for you delusions.

    As far as the "text" of your post (vs. the pretext), it's all bullshit and window dressing. You don't want to know if you should be (lol) "cruel" or whatever, and "move on to the next job", you want to redirect attention away from the truth (everything I've just laid out, for you and everyone else to see and consider), and instead focus attention on "something else", which, from your perspective can be "anything else" as long as it serves your purpose of keeping your true nature a secret from yourself (and everyone else).
     
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  16. ShadeDream

    ShadeDream Elite Member

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    Walls of text should come with warnings...
     
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  17. Nigel Farage

    Nigel Farage BANNED BANNED

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    Where all the above came from:

    Just last night, I had occasion to have to refuse final payment of $170 for AC repair on my vehicle. Over the last week I've paid this guy $440 for parts and labor, and last night he wanted to return the vehicle and recieve final payment.

    Drove to the bank to get his cash, and en route the AC blew cold and so I called him to let him know I was satisfied and would be bringing him his cash within the hour. However, after a brief stop at the grocery, the AC stopped blowing cold air, and only blew room temperature air.

    Drove the vehicle straight to his house (at midnight), showed him how the AC was no longer blowing cold air, and told him I wouldn't be paying him his final $170 until the AC blew cold air consistently. He wanted his money anyways, to "pay him for the work he's done this far", and I refused. To his face, on the street, in front of his house, I looked him in the eye and said no. I said some other things too. Just finished watching Season 1 of "Breaking Bad" last night, and am mid-way through Season 2, and I will say I am quite inspired now to assert myself in any situation no matter what. One of the few times where sitting on my ass and being entertained by a TV show has resulted in a substantive and constructive change in my character.

    I've learned how to look people in the eye and say "Fuck no." with a level of courage and commitment I've never had before. No apologies, and I really don't give a fuck about a long list of things that he said, to include how much time he spent "working" on the problem, his family, his bills to pay, and the fact that he's a christian.

    "Working on the problem" was redefined as "failing to find and fix the problem" and I don't give a fuck how long it took. The longer it takes, the more it indicates he doesn't know what he is doing, and that doesn't earn him MORE money, it earns him less. I told him this.

    Also, the fact that he has mentioned on several occasions that he is a Christian, to the extent that he stated explicitly that since he is a Christian, I should trust that he would find and fix the problem the next day, after I paid him in full, was not a "plus" in my estimation; instead it was a minus. The reason is because he was violating the Commandment against "taking the Lord's name in vain" which many so-called Christians do not even know means using God, the idea of God, or association themselves with God, in order to acquire and unearned and undeserved trust, usually from the person that they are about to scam or defraud.

    That's a "pro-tip", btw. Someone points to and underlines their affiliation with God, church, religion or some kind of moral spirituality in the middle of a business deal; it's usually a really good indicator of their dishonest intent and malevolent character.

    When you do business with me, you should trust me because I speak the truth openly, and I'm not afraid to call things as they are. Self-professed "christians" use the trappings of religion and morality as ornaments, to fill the void where a normal conscience is supposed to be.

    So today, I have a very low tolerance level for bullshit, and this "seo guy" (whatever) is completely full of it. I'm dealing with him like I did with this cheating, lying and manipulating AC repair guy last night, and am posting both anecdotes in order to possibly help someone else identify these people and avoid getting involved with them, because they are dishonest, lying slime that are capable of anything, to include believing in their own lies.
     
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    Cool Story there bro :)
     
  19. Nigel Farage

    Nigel Farage BANNED BANNED

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    Maybe something like this?


    ***WARNING***

    Dumbasses, idiots, retards, people with ADD, ADHD, reading comprehension problems, people that are easily bored, expect too much from the written word, and people with general, non-specific intellectual deficiencies may find themselves irresistibly drawn into reading the text below, which may have negative consequences which include irritation, anxiety, a sense of confusion, and many other disorders. Some cases of an involuntary expansion of awareness have been reported. Read at your own risk. The author denies any liability for any harm, tangible or intangible, that may result from reading the text below.
     
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  20. PandaDomo

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    If it bothers you, just redo it and then call them saying you gave them the wrong transcriptions and give them the new ones you just redid.

    They'll probably be happier that you corrected yourself than having to use a shitty transcription anyway :p