"Don Vito" Genovese
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- May 15, 2013
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I worded the title carefully, since I want to know how do you "get", as opposed to "stay", motivated.
Long story short (that's just bullsh*t, I just finished writing and this ain't no short story, so you may not have time for rants like this, in that case, I'm sorry for the long post), I live in France, have a rather ok and stable income from a 9-5 that I neither love nor hate, I have what you would call an "average" life. My passion being computer games and other computer-related stuff, I bought myself a gaming rig, then I wanted a good set of headphones to better listen to music whilst I work and I simply went ahead and got some expensive headphones, and a good amp like it was nothing (all this is to say that I can support myself and my hobbies, I can fuel my few passions, all of which were inimaginable before I started working and living on my own), have some free time for friends a few times a week, a car, and live in a rented appartment. I consider my situation to be ok for a 22 years-old.
I want more, at times, when I wish I had that cool car, or I would have a nice body like that dude, and pick up that cool girl, or have enough money to stop waking up in the morning etc. But I never want it so bad I lose sleep over it. I never skip lunches to work on IM, I never go a week without playing pc games or go out with friends, without "rewarding" myself for the "hard work".
This is the problem.
I have humble beginnings, I was born in eastern Europe, in a then-fresh-out-of-communism regime, my parents barely had anything to offer me, except for my education, but they inspired so much motivation in me, that I learned to fight for what I want, I started learning computer science since highschool, I went to contests in programming and maths and design, I always came out first nationally and even high up on the european level once. I felt like I was unstoppable.
Since I got the taste of money, and particularly of the western europe salary level, since I started going out and making friends (never really done this back home), sleeping with girls, drinking, chilling, relaxing, going out on weekdays and sometimes getting away for the weekend, living an easy life, I started noticing I got slow, I got mediocre, average, I lost myself in the crowd. I feel like I've lost my old-self, and I'm ashamed of what I've become, compared of what I dreamed about becoming, when I escaped my old life and came here.
In terms of IM, I had a few tries and failed, mainly because of lack of motivation and not sticking with the plan; I once had an adult tube site, and there were no results at first, then came my new job, and forgot about it, since being active at my job yeilded better results. Then came email marketing, but sadly, I didn't even got around doing that, if I search well, I may still have lists of a few thousand emails of local businesses on my pc somewhere. Now, around a few weeks back, I wanted to try amazon and ebay dropshipping (saw a method by one of you guys, awesome thread, not sure how that would work in france, but that's not the point anyway), but I just got a promotion and after a few days of pseudo-vacation, going out and such, I started concentrating on my dayjob again, forgetting my shop. Now I started reading about traffic arbitrage, and when I said to myself I might want to try that, then it hit me: I am inconsistent, I didn't finish my last project, abandoned another, stuck to my job, I don't push myself anymore, I'm lazy and too ... "easy". I became average, and this not only scares me or annoys me, but infuriates me, because I know I can do more, I can be better, I want to push myself again.
I know that seeing results from any one method, seeing the cash roll in would be eye-candy, and it would motivate me, as in, "keep" me motivated. But in order to get there, I need patience, discipline, and a big dose of initial motivation.
And all this, just to get to my final question, How do you get that motivation ??
How did you guys get to start, or better yet, what would you do, in my situation?
I highly appreciate any advice I'd get.
PS: thank you. for being here, each and every day when I visit BHW.
Long story short (that's just bullsh*t, I just finished writing and this ain't no short story, so you may not have time for rants like this, in that case, I'm sorry for the long post), I live in France, have a rather ok and stable income from a 9-5 that I neither love nor hate, I have what you would call an "average" life. My passion being computer games and other computer-related stuff, I bought myself a gaming rig, then I wanted a good set of headphones to better listen to music whilst I work and I simply went ahead and got some expensive headphones, and a good amp like it was nothing (all this is to say that I can support myself and my hobbies, I can fuel my few passions, all of which were inimaginable before I started working and living on my own), have some free time for friends a few times a week, a car, and live in a rented appartment. I consider my situation to be ok for a 22 years-old.
I want more, at times, when I wish I had that cool car, or I would have a nice body like that dude, and pick up that cool girl, or have enough money to stop waking up in the morning etc. But I never want it so bad I lose sleep over it. I never skip lunches to work on IM, I never go a week without playing pc games or go out with friends, without "rewarding" myself for the "hard work".
This is the problem.
I have humble beginnings, I was born in eastern Europe, in a then-fresh-out-of-communism regime, my parents barely had anything to offer me, except for my education, but they inspired so much motivation in me, that I learned to fight for what I want, I started learning computer science since highschool, I went to contests in programming and maths and design, I always came out first nationally and even high up on the european level once. I felt like I was unstoppable.
Since I got the taste of money, and particularly of the western europe salary level, since I started going out and making friends (never really done this back home), sleeping with girls, drinking, chilling, relaxing, going out on weekdays and sometimes getting away for the weekend, living an easy life, I started noticing I got slow, I got mediocre, average, I lost myself in the crowd. I feel like I've lost my old-self, and I'm ashamed of what I've become, compared of what I dreamed about becoming, when I escaped my old life and came here.
In terms of IM, I had a few tries and failed, mainly because of lack of motivation and not sticking with the plan; I once had an adult tube site, and there were no results at first, then came my new job, and forgot about it, since being active at my job yeilded better results. Then came email marketing, but sadly, I didn't even got around doing that, if I search well, I may still have lists of a few thousand emails of local businesses on my pc somewhere. Now, around a few weeks back, I wanted to try amazon and ebay dropshipping (saw a method by one of you guys, awesome thread, not sure how that would work in france, but that's not the point anyway), but I just got a promotion and after a few days of pseudo-vacation, going out and such, I started concentrating on my dayjob again, forgetting my shop. Now I started reading about traffic arbitrage, and when I said to myself I might want to try that, then it hit me: I am inconsistent, I didn't finish my last project, abandoned another, stuck to my job, I don't push myself anymore, I'm lazy and too ... "easy". I became average, and this not only scares me or annoys me, but infuriates me, because I know I can do more, I can be better, I want to push myself again.
I know that seeing results from any one method, seeing the cash roll in would be eye-candy, and it would motivate me, as in, "keep" me motivated. But in order to get there, I need patience, discipline, and a big dose of initial motivation.
And all this, just to get to my final question, How do you get that motivation ??
How did you guys get to start, or better yet, what would you do, in my situation?
I highly appreciate any advice I'd get.
PS: thank you. for being here, each and every day when I visit BHW.
