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How do you get motivated?

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  1. "Don Vito" Genovese

    "Don Vito" Genovese Junior Member

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    I worded the title carefully, since I want to know how do you "get", as opposed to "stay", motivated.

    Long story short (that's just bullsh*t, I just finished writing and this ain't no short story, so you may not have time for rants like this, in that case, I'm sorry for the long post), I live in France, have a rather ok and stable income from a 9-5 that I neither love nor hate, I have what you would call an "average" life. My passion being computer games and other computer-related stuff, I bought myself a gaming rig, then I wanted a good set of headphones to better listen to music whilst I work and I simply went ahead and got some expensive headphones, and a good amp like it was nothing (all this is to say that I can support myself and my hobbies, I can fuel my few passions, all of which were inimaginable before I started working and living on my own), have some free time for friends a few times a week, a car, and live in a rented appartment. I consider my situation to be ok for a 22 years-old.
    I want more, at times, when I wish I had that cool car, or I would have a nice body like that dude, and pick up that cool girl, or have enough money to stop waking up in the morning etc. But I never want it so bad I lose sleep over it. I never skip lunches to work on IM, I never go a week without playing pc games or go out with friends, without "rewarding" myself for the "hard work".
    This is the problem.

    I have humble beginnings, I was born in eastern Europe, in a then-fresh-out-of-communism regime, my parents barely had anything to offer me, except for my education, but they inspired so much motivation in me, that I learned to fight for what I want, I started learning computer science since highschool, I went to contests in programming and maths and design, I always came out first nationally and even high up on the european level once. I felt like I was unstoppable.

    Since I got the taste of money, and particularly of the western europe salary level, since I started going out and making friends (never really done this back home), sleeping with girls, drinking, chilling, relaxing, going out on weekdays and sometimes getting away for the weekend, living an easy life, I started noticing I got slow, I got mediocre, average, I lost myself in the crowd. I feel like I've lost my old-self, and I'm ashamed of what I've become, compared of what I dreamed about becoming, when I escaped my old life and came here.

    In terms of IM, I had a few tries and failed, mainly because of lack of motivation and not sticking with the plan; I once had an adult tube site, and there were no results at first, then came my new job, and forgot about it, since being active at my job yeilded better results. Then came email marketing, but sadly, I didn't even got around doing that, if I search well, I may still have lists of a few thousand emails of local businesses on my pc somewhere. Now, around a few weeks back, I wanted to try amazon and ebay dropshipping (saw a method by one of you guys, awesome thread, not sure how that would work in france, but that's not the point anyway), but I just got a promotion and after a few days of pseudo-vacation, going out and such, I started concentrating on my dayjob again, forgetting my shop. Now I started reading about traffic arbitrage, and when I said to myself I might want to try that, then it hit me: I am inconsistent, I didn't finish my last project, abandoned another, stuck to my job, I don't push myself anymore, I'm lazy and too ... "easy". I became average, and this not only scares me or annoys me, but infuriates me, because I know I can do more, I can be better, I want to push myself again.

    I know that seeing results from any one method, seeing the cash roll in would be eye-candy, and it would motivate me, as in, "keep" me motivated. But in order to get there, I need patience, discipline, and a big dose of initial motivation.
    And all this, just to get to my final question, How do you get that motivation ??
    How did you guys get to start, or better yet, what would you do, in my situation?
    I highly appreciate any advice I'd get.

    PS: thank you. for being here, each and every day when I visit BHW.
     
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  2. Adrian112

    Adrian112 Supreme Member Premium Member

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    I don't even need motivation anymore, I just belive.

    After so many years in IM I have dreams about refreshing Adsense statistics and I wake up with one thing on my mind: Archive more before you die.

    There is one great blog If you have lack of motivation, visit addicted2success.com

     
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    [QUOTE="Don Vito" Genovese;8006752]
    And all this, just to get to my final question, How do you get that motivation ??
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    If you have a purpose, you get the motivation as a bonus. So, you need to work on finding your purpose, not motivation.
     
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    [QUOTE="Don Vito" Genovese;8006752]
    And all this, just to get to my final question, How do you get that motivation ??
    How did you guys get to start, or better yet, what would you do, in my situation?
    [/QUOTE]

    Just meditate. I'm serious.
     
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    I've said that before: my motivation is my daughter. The most powerful one for me.
     
  6. "Don Vito" Genovese

    "Don Vito" Genovese Junior Member

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    Doesn't apply to me. You've been in this game for so long, I can't even imagine how it must feel. I can only dream of the day I wake up in the morning and check my adsense page with my morning coffee, just to put a smile on my face. The problem is I have to start, I'm absolutely sure money will keep me motivated as f*ck, once I get the ball rollin'. I'll visit your blog though. Thanks anyway.
     
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    Right now my motivation is to get enough money to pay for my master degree, so I work every day towards my goal , every penny saved gets me motivated
     
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  8. "Don Vito" Genovese

    "Don Vito" Genovese Junior Member

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    Thanks for the great replies, guys. I honestly thank you.
    I never tried meditation. I don't know where to start, but googling it would be a good way, I guess.
    And what you said, jazzc, it makes it simpler. thank you. If I think about it, I haven't had a clear purpose for a while now, since I actually already achieved a hell of a lot, from everything I wished for in the pas, and it's really something I haven't taken into consideration.
     
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    "Don Vito" Genovese Junior Member

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    I'm going to enroll in a master's degree, too, but only next year. what field are you in? I don't know if that would apply to me. I am going to study in Italy next year, and here in Europe, studies at public Universities are basically free (except some small taxes at the beginning of school years), and I don't really worry right now, financially. where are you from?
     
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    "Don Vito" Genovese Junior Member

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    That's awesome, mate, I'm really happy for you. I don't have any kids, yet, though. And I don't see myself having any, any time soon. I'm 22, single and nowhere near financially stable (from an adult point of view). So that's that.
     
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    The last thing I do before I go to sleep is IM and the first thing I do when I wake up is IM.

    My motivation is me, I want more I am hungry for more. I just imagane what a waist of time will be if I do nothing and get to work.

    In the end the true motivation for most of all is poverty.
    Having nothing and no bright future ahead is the strongest motivation.
     
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    "Don Vito" Genovese Junior Member

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    You're perfectly right. And I've been there, and I can say, it's incredibly motivating. But now that I'm out of poverty, what do I do? How do I get the motivation needed to become better, to push myself and learn, work, advance? I'm not poor anymore, I'm not hungry. I'm normal now, just an average Joe, so to speek. What do I do now?
     
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    I look at a picture of kim kardashian and think of how they just hand her money. I then proceed to choke my chicken, wash my hands after so I can write down some ideas to look over that day. I still work a job even though I freelance, sell products and services. I invest for cash flow, not net worth or portfolio.
     
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    [QUOTE="Don Vito" Genovese;8007026]You're perfectly right. And I've been there, and I can say, it's incredibly motivating. But now that I'm out of poverty, what do I do? How do I get the motivation needed to become better, to push myself and learn, work, advance? I'm not poor anymore, I'm not hungry. I'm normal now, just an average Joe, so to speek. What do I do now?[/QUOTE]

    If you are not hungry for more, then there is no point for all of this.
    If you are satisfied with the things you have and achieve then just be there and enjoy the fruits of your labor.

    I know for me personally I am never satisfied and I am always hungry for knowledge and everything rest. But if the time comes that I don't want nothing more I will just sit back an enjoy the time I have left to pissoff everyone around me.
     
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    "Don Vito" Genovese Junior Member

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    I giggled at the beginning of your reply, and then got interested by the end. Could you detail a bit? How do you invest, in your freelancing business, since you said it's in cash flow? Also, when you said you don't invest in portfolio, that meant what? 'Cause I guess investing in net worth means buying a car, house etc?
    Thanks for the giggle, anyway :)
     
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    I recommend you listening to music which is related to money. Than connect money with business, hard work, dedication and make sure that you realise that you can all this on the internet, with internet marketing. Good luck. May I asked from where you are? I've been to Paris (great city) and Nice. Nice is damn amazing.
    Regards,
    Coingrabber
     
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    "Don Vito" Genovese Junior Member

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    It's ... different. I feel I want more.
    Let me give you a more concrete example: I wake up in the morning, feeling like sh*t, that's just how I am, I never liked mornings. Then I grab my coffee, sit down at my desk and do my morning routine (email check, facebook, bhw, all that) and I feel extra motivated, I even jot down a few ideas from time to time. I feel like I can move mountains, and a few days, weeks, or months from now, I won't have to wake up and go to work. And a half an' hour or an hour later, I slow down, I get to work, sit down, work, I'm rather good at what I do, but I do it with the sole motivation of being praised by my boss and get home at the end of the day, play a game or head out with my friends, and that's it. Then I get motivated again at night usually, before the weekend when I stay up late, but other than that, nothing.
    I get "hungry", but only for small chunks of time, then I get distracted, think about other stuff, related to my daily life, and abandon any "grand idea" I might have had. But on the other hand, I'm not content with what I have, with what I am, I've yet to achieve my perfect life, I'm SO far from that, and I find myself stuck in normal, in the "average", and I find it hard to progress.
     
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    Hey mate, you seem friendly. :)
    I live in Grenoble, it's a rather big city, too. Sadly, I've never been to neither Paris, nor Nice. I heard they're great, but since I arrived here (approx 4 years ago), I have mainly been working, getting my a$$ off the ground, since when I got here I had nothing, basically. I haven't had a vacantion in 5 years. On the other hand, I constantly try and make my life easier, each and every day, and more enjoyable, and I have, to an extent, managed to do so, and such, I'm not dead-tired when I get home every evening. I'm a few hours on vacation each day :)
     
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    You are in the comfort zone. Sors de là !

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    I think about how most people slave at their jobs for what seems like an eternity. That's my motivation.

    If I can slave away for only a LITTLE bit, I'll be cool with that.

    Gotta keep the 9-5 mentality in check, but you've got to be realistic too.