howard_hughes
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Girlfriend Keeps Putting Me Down - Feeling Demoralized
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darkstar69
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is she good looking? Good in bed? If so keep here for a while. If not, get rid.
Seriously, maybe you are spedning just a bit too much time on the Net as well? How would you act if she spent 20 hours day at friends/family house etc..wouldn't you give up?
If so keep here for a while. If not, get rid.Seriously, maybe you are spedning just a bit too much time on the Net as well? How would you act if she spent 20 hours day at friends/family house etc..wouldn't you give up?
KHMNTCPR8
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Just be mature and face the facts as they are. If you are not happy, and she is not happy, and you realize that its due to your different life goals; then just realize that you guys have become incompatible. Put the emotions aside if possible and look at it that way.
She wants one life, you want another life. Plain and simple, sure you might have been compatible in the beginning but not anymore.
She wants one life, you want another life. Plain and simple, sure you might have been compatible in the beginning but not anymore.
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Getwhatchuwant
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Listen sounds like both you and her are selfish. She wants time with you, she doesnt get it she throws a fit and insults you.
You want time for IM, she asks you out, you turn her down.
Maybe the best thing IS to break up, you refuse to spend time with her anyway.
If thats the case let he go find some mandingo that can give her a proper Hammering from time to time and would like to go have drinks with her once in a while.
Meanwhile you can stay in your room playing online all day. If you have a business this would be the time to grow it. BUT you have to set aside time to live your life too.
Go and get your money, but dont make your life all about money.
Money is simply a tool to be able to purchase the things you would like and the things you would need in order to have a nice life. If all you do is chase money, you will never have a full life nor feel happy.
You want time for IM, she asks you out, you turn her down.
Maybe the best thing IS to break up, you refuse to spend time with her anyway.
If thats the case let he go find some mandingo that can give her a proper Hammering from time to time and would like to go have drinks with her once in a while.
Meanwhile you can stay in your room playing online all day. If you have a business this would be the time to grow it. BUT you have to set aside time to live your life too.
Go and get your money, but dont make your life all about money.
Money is simply a tool to be able to purchase the things you would like and the things you would need in order to have a nice life. If all you do is chase money, you will never have a full life nor feel happy.
jonnyquest
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...too the curb...suspect you are under 30 ..if not you are henpecked ...otherwise you need to keeping going and plan for YOUR future until you find someone that appreciates what you are doing.
Brainstorming
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Well, why carry on then? It's never going to get better than it is right now, it'll only get worse with marriage.
LBrown
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Why are you in a relationship with her if you have no desire to spend time with her? Her perspective is pretty obvious: she is in love with you and you don't want to spend time with her. Of course she is hurt and is lashing out. You find the computer a better companion than her. Talk about disrespectful. Why are you even with her? You love her, but you are addicted to your work so you sleep in the office? Maybe you should take a week off of work instead of taking more time away from her.
darcmatter
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What dheer said dude lol
If she is not on the same wave length as you and is filling your life with negative energy then it is time to get rid, simples!
If she is not on the same wave length as you and is filling your life with negative energy then it is time to get rid, simples!
G-S-T
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Man I feel your pain. I was in this situation about 5 years ago, I had total faith in IM and my girl at the time was all about getting high and partying all weekend.
We were together for 6 years before buying our house together, after a year of living together, she was pissed off with me being online all the time and not blowing tons of cash on stupid things.
Needless to say, things cant go on like that. I drew a line in the sand and said "support me or fuck off" basically.
We broke up and went our different ways. I seen her for the first time in years in march last year, we ended up hooking up for a 1 off and when I took her to what used to be our home, she was gutted. Then I let her have a look at a few bank statements and showed her a ton of photos from holidays and such. You could tell that she was gutted.
Then I asked her how she was doing, she replied "I'm a single mum, living on a council estate and claiming benefits"
We were together for 6 years before buying our house together, after a year of living together, she was pissed off with me being online all the time and not blowing tons of cash on stupid things.
Needless to say, things cant go on like that. I drew a line in the sand and said "support me or fuck off" basically.
We broke up and went our different ways. I seen her for the first time in years in march last year, we ended up hooking up for a 1 off and when I took her to what used to be our home, she was gutted. Then I let her have a look at a few bank statements and showed her a ton of photos from holidays and such. You could tell that she was gutted.
Then I asked her how she was doing, she replied "I'm a single mum, living on a council estate and claiming benefits"
sanjeev2010
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Haven't read all the responses in this thread so I apologise if someone's already said this.
You're on two completely different wavelengths. You're about your work - you enjoy what you do and want to make money (nothing wrong with that). Your GF has a different perspective (hang out with friends etc) - again nothing wrong here.
The problem is that your GF cannot understand your perspective and you cannot understand hers, which has lead to where you are now. The two of you need to sit down and try and come to some kind of compromise. If you are not able to do this, it's time to move on.......life's too short to be unhappy.
You're on two completely different wavelengths. You're about your work - you enjoy what you do and want to make money (nothing wrong with that). Your GF has a different perspective (hang out with friends etc) - again nothing wrong here.
The problem is that your GF cannot understand your perspective and you cannot understand hers, which has lead to where you are now. The two of you need to sit down and try and come to some kind of compromise. If you are not able to do this, it's time to move on.......life's too short to be unhappy.
MafiaBlack
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You'll make a great decision when you're going to leave her... I had same prob as you couple months ago... 5 years knew her...
Im between my own dream ( internet business ) and work hour 8-5.. She not believed in internet business... She and her family want me have permanent salary ( employee )
My decision that time was i leave my business and follow what she said...
After couple months later she leave me ( So cruel ) because i got no money to spend on her ( got fired..)
Im begging for her and she acted like a numb person...
What a joke Im realize it now..
After that i rebuilt my business again and forgot about those shit feeling toward girl..
This is my experience so hope you'll learn something from this... Stay away from your girl and chase the money for your future... Girls will come for you after that...
And now im only want girls in bed... Because i have money
Im between my own dream ( internet business ) and work hour 8-5.. She not believed in internet business... She and her family want me have permanent salary ( employee )
My decision that time was i leave my business and follow what she said...
After couple months later she leave me ( So cruel ) because i got no money to spend on her ( got fired..)
Im begging for her and she acted like a numb person...
What a joke
Im realize it now..After that i rebuilt my business again and forgot about those shit feeling toward girl..
This is my experience so hope you'll learn something from this... Stay away from your girl and chase the money for your future... Girls will come for you after that...
And now im only want girls in bed... Because i have money
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jazzc
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He is not a slave enough for your liking?
On willing women that will make him happy. What a nightmare huh?
As long as you enjoy it, ownership is for the papers...
So now he 's bad in bed? Even so, how is being poor AND bad in bed is going to help him?
If she 's not pleased, others will be, so no need for him to worry.
jazzc
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It 's very obvious though. Your income source is not something that her parents/friends/whatever can understand and acknowledge as a secure income source and so she fears of getting the "are you going to marry that man who has no job" rhetoric
MafiaBlack
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Man I feel your pain. I was in this situation about 5 years ago, I had total faith in IM and my girl at the time was all about getting high and partying all weekend.
We were together for 6 years before buying our house together, after a year of living together, she was pissed off with me being online all the time and not blowing tons of cash on stupid things.
Needless to say, things cant go on like that. I drew a line in the sand and said "support me or fuck off" basically.
We broke up and went our different ways. I seen her for the first time in years in march last year, we ended up hooking up for a 1 off and when I took her to what used to be our home, she was gutted. Then I let her have a look at a few bank statements and showed her a ton of photos from holidays and such. You could tell that she was gutted.
Then I asked her how she was doing, she replied "I'm a single mum, living on a council estate and claiming benefits"
You're made a great decision that time.. Unless you'd be me..
thedon23
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Don't listen to anyone who says you're the problem. They are talking out of their arse. I've dated women that sound just like the girlfriend you are describing. Rest assured, you are not the problem. SHE is, and you need to break up with her. She's going to keep pushing you down. Leave her. You will find someone better. Again, I can't stress this enough; the point of a relationship is to be happy and enjoy the presence of the other person. If you can't, what's the point of being together? There is none. The occasional argument is normal, but when it turns into a regular thing, it's not okay.
Break up with her. You will look back on it in a couple of months and you won't regret it. I'm tired of women that are unreasonable. You're trying to work hard so two can have a better life, and she's being selfish. Unfortunately, there are too many selfish women out there nowadays.
Anybody that is telling you otherwise:
a) Has never been in a relationship
b) Is a female
Take it from a man himself. I don't mean to disrespect women. I'm just saying it how it is.
Break up with her. You will look back on it in a couple of months and you won't regret it. I'm tired of women that are unreasonable. You're trying to work hard so two can have a better life, and she's being selfish. Unfortunately, there are too many selfish women out there nowadays.
Anybody that is telling you otherwise:
a) Has never been in a relationship
b) Is a female
Take it from a man himself. I don't mean to disrespect women. I'm just saying it how it is.
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G-S-T
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You're made a great decision that time.. Unless you'd be me..
Trust me nothing is more satisfying than nailing your X, showing her a bank statement with 400k in there and then telling her your off to Antigua for 3 weeks on Saturday.
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