Girlfriend Keeps Putting Me Down - Feeling Demoralized

Sorry to break it to you man - but YOU are the problem.

You can disregard females and acquire currency - but then who you gonna blow that currency on?

Why do men acquire currency - to live a better life and acquire females.

Money doesn't buy happiness - it only lets you RENT it.

Either you aren't pleasing her in bed or YOU AREN'T PLEASING her in bed.
^that's the real problem here... everything else is BS

Okay i though like 10 times before writing this.. but then what the heck..

I was in similar situation.. Dumped her/got dumped whaever.. Felt miserable for a few weeks.... realized how much time I have for myself now(at least 8 more hours of my day were back)... Started in IM..... Have my own company in 2 Years... Doing Pretty Decent


..... Have atleast 10 Good Girls around me..... Now I see what I was mIssing.. Now I see My options... Now I am very very very Happy..

I think its human nature that makes us happy when we feel miserable sometimes.. I guess its what we call living.. But Get over it.. Dump the Biaaattt*****hhhhhhh... Make a career.... Fall In lOve... LIVE LIFE

Panique said:

Involve her in your work, show here why this is so important for you. Let her feel the passion what you feel, if she still doesn't understand where you come from she is selfish. But really think before you act, because it is a big step and almost no way of turning back.

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Yes and maybe offer her little cut of your gain, so she would at least give it a shot.

Sounds like she has control issues. Dump her. I could never date a girl like that. Those girls generally end up growing more and more controlling (aka psycho). No offence.

What Man you are??

Are you a winey little boy``

of course its easy for her to bust your balls , she isn't the one who is paying the fucking bills,
just bitch slap her and explain her who is the boss, if she doesn't like it stop paying the bills and shit for her... then she will know how important money are ...

I think this video will help you out

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She sounds like she's 21 years or younger. Dump her.

i dont get the problem here.... money or her..... how is this even a hard choice.... money always wins if i had to decide.

Often times I hear from the guys, " I bought her that, I bought her this, I did that for her, I sacrificed my career for her....yada...yada...yada.....and at the end of the day she just broke up with me for that looser or she doesn't respect me any more".

My Answer to them, "you are still wondering why she broke up with You !!!"

My suggestions to you:

Respect can't be taught, It has to be earned. You are a man. Don't act or think like a harmo. No matter how beautiful or qualified she really is, never think her as irreplaceable. Always ready to leave her (but don't yet). The point is if you think like (of course you can say these lies) "oh, I can't live without you, honey. or You are the whole world to me" and guess what??? She suddenly realizes (their sensing power is more stronger than tiger) that she has got the power over you and she can rule you whenever she wants.

So, rule number 1 is, if she tries to tell you what to do what not to do, give her signs that if it requires you will leave her without any hesitation. If you can do it properly, you will never leave you until you cut her loose.

Rule no. 2 : Never do her any favor. Favors are what they do for you. You can call me anti-feminist but that how it works. Though we have a misconception that "winning girl's heart by doing them favor". Wrong. 10000 Hundred percent wrong. The more you do favor for them the more they will think that you are cheap and she will start to treat you like a golden eggs laying goose. She will think that this guy is under my hood. Let's focus on real man. Yes, the real man. Women never feel any attraction toward those who are easy to get. Rather they need someone who can constantly give them challenge. Anyway, I am not going into that part as this is not a dating site. Now, my advice to you is that, What you have been doing for her don't stop it at once. Stop those is at a slow pace and let her start the doing the favor thing for you.
Presently two advises for you. If you requires more than pm me.

Hope you can work this out without breaking up.

Look, you both sound young, she wants to have a good time and you probably do too but you want to have a good future as well - good on you. Look at another perspective (ignore the stereotypes, understand the point of the story

An American investment banker was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellow fin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.

The Mexican replied, "only a little while."

The American then asked why didn't he stay out longer and catch more fish?

The Mexican said he had enough to support his family's immediate needs.

The American then asked, "but what do you do with the rest of your time?"

The Mexican fisherman said, "I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos, I have a full and busy life."

The American scoffed, "I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat with the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats, eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually NYC where you will run your expanding enterprise."

The Mexican fisherman asked, "But, how long will this all take?"

To which the American replied, "15-20 years."

"But what then?"

The American laughed and said that's the best part. "When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions."

"Millions.. Then what?"

The American said, "Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos."

when i read this i get the impression that only kids are hanging around there.
what do you expect when you only sit in front of the computer and even sleep on the floor in the office?
maybe you are not ready for the relationship.
otherwise you would understand her better.
you should work less and concentrate more on your social life.
but i think this an issue many people here have...
spend the whole life in front of the computer and forget the world around...
there was even a thread here recently about don't having a social life because of internet marketing anymore, that is really sad.
or the thread that the wife wants to get divorced because on internet marketing; of course she will not get divorced because of internet marketing but because the guy does internet marketing all day and still has no success and earns no money from it.
all the shouts about how bad girls/women are...
how many girls did the shouters have?
1? 2?
it's very immature and shows that many people here have still to learn so much.
it's the typical mindset of boys, not men.
grow up, get your internet marketing managed that you earn good money without spending much time on it and then better spend more time with your girlfriend, friends and so on...
it's healthier and makes your life more worthwhile.
or do you really want end as a nerd?
hanging in front of the pc night and day without friends or girlfriend?

i think your <br> button is stuck

billyd said:

...We've talked about this and she says its unfair how she treats me. She doesn't want to be that way and blah blah. She admits that I am good to her and she is bad to me and asks why do I stay. She doesn't want to break up but wants some time apart. One or two nights I slept in the guest bedroom and she came in crying because I wasn't sleeping with her. She knows I am going to move out for a bit yet she does this?

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If you want to stay with her,start treating her like shit and you'll get your respect back.Be good to her only in small doses,like once or twice every fortnight.Your problem is you're not interesting to her.Women want to know how far they can go.It's up to you to set the limits.You've been mellow so far and it backfired so I suggest taking a u-turn.

Hogare said:

If you want to stay with her,start treating her like shit and you'll get your respect back.Be good to her only in small doses,like once or twice every fortnight.Your problem is you're not interesting to her.Women want to know how far they can go.It's up to you to set the limits.You've been mellow so far and it backfired so I suggest taking a u-turn.

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yea flip a bitch!

I was in a similar situation....in fact, I have been in a similar situation several times. I tried several approaches to try and fix my relationships. However, now that I am a little older and wiser, I understand what was happening. I was essentially being dumped. Not in the manly bitch GTFO kinda way, but in that stupid "I am gonna make you feel like crap, beat you down and then leave you when you have been crushed" kind of way. Each time it was for my choice of career. If someone doesnt respect what you do, then they can't respect you. It was always sad, but trust me, when you find that person that can respect how you support yourself and support you in that endeavor, amazing things can happen.

Afterall, wouldnt it be great to have a girl that looked at how you made money like this

Sorry bro,

its tough sitution, but you are better of being on your own than being with someone that is makes you feel so low about yourself and puts down all your dreams even though you are trying to do it not just for yourself, but for her too.

Focus on your goals and plans, a better girl will come along later. Dump Her...

thedon23 said:

Sounds like she has control issues. Dump her. I could never date a girl like that. Those girls generally end up growing more and more controlling (aka psycho). No offence.

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Ok I had to chime in on this one

1 thank god your not married
2 Yes she wants CONTROL ALL OF IT
3 believe me I've been married over 13 years she doesn't want you to do your own thing and be successful
4 If your not focusing on her.... you suck ... no way around it
5 thank god your not married
6 Dan Kennedy said it best --- Their either with you or against you

She's just gonna bring you down, if you cant get rid of her keep doing your own thing. I know EXACTLY what your going through, and I've had to tell wife to basically F off. Yup I too pay all bills so do you think shes gonna go anywhere soon?

Good luck to buddy, just look at it from my perspective, it's not worth it. You have a right to be selfish because your looking to learn and get ahead.
She's going to try and break your spirit... fight brother fight

She's only interested in her world, and their also may be other underlying problems. Do you need permission to break up and get away? --- consider it done and endorsed by me.

Kickflip said:

It sounds to me like she might be trying to end the relationship. She doesn't sound super happy, you don't sound super happy. I don't see why you would stay together. Do you want to be with her forever?

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Sounds like this also, if she is not happy and you are not happy, then maybe is not a healthy relationship. My girlfriend backs me up and cheers me everyday, this motivates me a lot to continue IM work. At first she didnt understood what is my work here on the net, but after explaining and telling that this will be a nice income in the future she understood. But also I spend time with her, you have to balance the time for work and girlfriend. If you are not paying too much attention to her then maybe its time to end it.

Whatever you do make it your call not decided by others.

Talk about it with her. You started a relationship with this girl. The fact that you vent off her shows a lack of communication inside your relationship.

But first, ask yourself do you actually want a relationship at this point? If yes, work is important but taking care of your relationship is important too.

-> Plan dedicated time with your girlfriend
-> Plan work times and tell her about it. Tell her why it's important.

you the man -> set the rules and boundaries

if you're not willing to give something into the relationship and feel most of the stuff is a "duty" .. think about whether having a gf gives you what you need.. or not..

if it's just a drag, make yourself happy and end it. but NEVA LOOK BACK!

if you need space, take it. don't let her take control of your space! YOU THE MAN

always try to be reasonable, women mostly aren't....

and sorry if I sound like a teacher or smth, no disrespect, just talking from my own experience mate... good luck and enjoy life!

Don't forget to have some FUN FUN FUN