Girlfriend Keeps Putting Me Down - Feeling Demoralized

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I've been with my girlfriend for several years and we've been living together for one. I pay bills, help out with groceries, take her out to dinner, and all that stuff. While I do IM, she hates it that I am on here and she usually ridicules me and puts me down. I am working on some big projects I am passionate about, like I put a sleeping bag in the office so that I don't miss a beat of the work.

She gets pissed off and wants me to go down to her parents, or go bar hopping with her and her friends. I usually decline so I can get work done, save money for our place and so forth. Right now I have had about enough. I almost feel at the verge of defeat with her. My project is several months late and my competitors have at least a few week head start on me. I move passed my thoughts that if I didn't spend so much time with her, I would be further along. However, I try to find a balance between work and my relationships (her and my family, etc.)

Now she puts me down, always points out negativities and doesn't respect me. So I am planning on moving out (big step). For at least a month, or maybe permanent. Just had enough of her shit. Anyways, I'm venting a bit but if any of you guys have thoughts, I'd love to hear.
 
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It sounds to me like she might be trying to end the relationship. She doesn't sound super happy, you don't sound super happy. I don't see why you would stay together. Do you want to be with her forever?
 
agree with kickflip! when females started to mention your negative traits out loud, she is trying to get out of the relationship but she can't afford to say it first. that's why she annoys you first so that you'll be the one who'll gonna ask for a break up first.
 
Although it's wrong to give an opinion without hearing both parties, I wouldn't want to stay with anyone who doesn't have respect for me or vice versa. If you are earning money and providing for your family through your work, IM or not, I don't see any reason she should redicule you.

Talk to her and make her understand how you feel about this. Tell her that love and respect are two major agents in a relationship and partners should love each other for what they are and what they do (considering none of them is doing something bad for a living). Then make the decision.

I hope something good will come out of that.
 
Thanks for the response and support. We've talked about this and she says its unfair how she treats me. She doesn't want to be that way and blah blah. She admits that I am good to her and she is bad to me and asks why do I stay. She doesn't want to break up but wants some time apart. One or two nights I slept in the guest bedroom and she came in crying because I wasn't sleeping with her. She knows I am going to move out for a bit yet she does this?

hameem said:
Although it's wrong to give an opinion without hearing both parties, I wouldn't want to stay with anyone who doesn't have respect for me or vice versa. If you are earning money and providing for your family through your work, IM or not, I don't see any reason she should redicule you.

Talk to her and make her understand how you feel about this. Tell her that love and respect are two major agents in a relationship and partners should love each other for what they are and what they do (considering none of them is doing something bad for a living). Then make the decision.

I hope something good will come out of that.
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mungus said:
End it with her. Difficult, but treat it as a learning experience, don't waste time with people who don't value you and encourage you in what you believe in.
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Kickflip said:
It sounds to me like she might be trying to end the relationship. She doesn't sound super happy, you don't sound super happy. I don't see why you would stay together. Do you want to be with her forever?
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billyd said:
Thanks for the response and support. We've talked about this and she says its unfair how she treats me. She doesn't want to be that way and blah blah. She admits that I am good to her and she is bad to me and asks why do I stay. She doesn't want to break up but wants some time apart. One or two nights I slept in the guest bedroom and she came in crying because I wasn't sleeping with her. She knows I am going to move out for a bit yet she does this?
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Ah...girls!
 
Involve her in your work, show here why this is so important for you. Let her feel the passion what you feel, if she still doesn't understand where you come from she is selfish. But really think before you act, because it is a big step and almost no way of turning back.
 
dheer said:
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^This^ is the correct answer. There are billions of women out there so why settle for one who isn't perfect for you? Either find yourself a woman who cares enough to be supportive of your dreams or disregard females altogether and acquire currency instead. I recommend the latter.
 
Panique said:
Involve her in your work, show here why this is so important for you. Let her feel the passion what you feel, if she still doesn't understand where you come from she is selfish. But really think before you act, because it is a big step and almost no way of turning back.
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I strongly agree!
 
I can say I am in the same position, I sort of am in a relationship sort of not. We are on a break so I'm told. Because she doesn't consider what I do a job. She wants me to go to work place and do work not work from home. I'm making money so I don't see what her problem is but yeah I vote for disregard females, acquire currency.

Just my thoughts.
 
There are 2 reason :

Either she wants you attention :rip: (Yep, females are always like that)


Or she's giving you a hint like everybody says here.


So,stop avoiding, man up and talk with her.Seriously ask her what she really wants.

You'll get the answer.
 
Sell her the dream of Internet Marketing, she will see its great potential, teach her SEO, buy her a few domains and she will be even more busy than you, she will take a few good and long days just to pick out a theme for blog or website, and a few more days just to pick out the colors, lol, in that time you can catch up easily with your competition.
P.S: Tested this out on my GF and I hope she doesn't read this thread, lol.
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