Extreme Panicking and Worrying

mm65120 said:

as there are lot of IM business owners in BHW, I wanted to ask how do you guys deal with mood-swings, worry, tension. I find it extremely intolerable, I will be feeling really good sometimes and all of a sudden I will be panicking about something else. All of a sudden I have become a worry person which is really unattractive.

I don't have any financial pressure, I'm making $1k-2k/month for now. I do have bigger goals to reach but can't concentrate due to extreme panicky mood and I also worry about the future a lot because I have urgency to reach my bigger goal ASAP. When I'm getting sales my mood is good and 1 bad day and my mood is really bad, it affecting my social life, I have changed from having cool personality that people like to worry person, I'm also extremely skinny and underweight, I need to eat more but due to these worries I don't have appetite, I really don't like to worry all the time but can't help myself.

How do you guys deal with these things?

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davids355 said:

It sounds like you are suffering from a lack of confidence.

Trying doing something completely unrelated to business, but instead something that will build confidence.

Work on your fitness, learn a new skill or perhaps take up a martial art. That will build your confidence and then you will find that you can cope with higher pressure situations more easily.

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mm65120 said:

How do you guys deal with these things?

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@mm65120 - welcome to the site!

Everyone you ask here will have their own, sometimes unique, way of dealing with those types of problems so the thing you need to do is remember that everyone feels like this to some degree or another at times.

You need to get out of the habit of thinking 'robotic' like. For example you said "When I'm getting sales my mood is good and 1 bad day and my mood is really bad, it affecting my social life" - you need to break that habit.

For example - change your mindset.

When you have that bad day or no sales then make yourself think "I need to work smarted or better" - try to imagine that the negative day is actually something 'positive' by taking action.

If you 'allow' yourself to sit still and worry then that is exactly what your brain will do. Your brain is a 'computer' - it has 'connections' that are made and can be broken but only you can do that. If you allow yourself to be low in mood then you will be low in mood. Just try to refocus your attention elsewhere on those bad days. Yes - it won't always be easy but allow yourself to 'know' that too! It's 'okay' to be low in mood - angry - upset......allow that but then refocus.

I have days when I just can't concentrate on what I am doing (as with many here no doubt!) and am now understand those will be wasted days sat in front of the computer so I know I need to 'refocus' my energy elsewhere - usefully going for walks, meeting up with friends or anything other than sat in front of the computer. Doing so tells you brain that you are not just going to sit their worrying, getting upset and angry. That you're not a robot.

On an amazingly positive note - you have joined a community here that can help you refocus when you want to.

Choose what you want to think. Choose what you want to achieve. yep - it's not always easy but you try or you fail. This is life.

zippyants said:

Hey @mm65120 - welcome to the site!

Everyone you ask here will have their own, sometimes unique, way of dealing with those types of problems so the thing you need to do is remember that everyone feels like this to some degree or another at times.

You need to get out of the habit of thinking 'robotic' like. For example you said "When I'm getting sales my mood is good and 1 bad day and my mood is really bad, it affecting my social life" - you need to break that habit.

For example - change your mindset.

When you have that bad day or no sales then make yourself think "I need to work smarted or better" - try to imagine that the negative day is actually something 'positive' by taking action.

If you 'allow' yourself to sit still and worry then that is exactly what your brain will do. Your brain is a 'computer' - it has 'connections' that are made and can be broken but only you can do that. If you allow yourself to be low in mood then you will be low in mood. Just try to refocus your attention elsewhere on those bad days. Yes - it won't always be easy but allow yourself to 'know' that too! It's 'okay' to be low in mood - angry - upset......allow that but then refocus.

I have days when I just can't concentrate on what I am doing (as with many here no doubt!) and am now understand those will be wasted days sat in front of the computer so I know I need to 'refocus' my energy elsewhere - usefully going for walks, meeting up with friends or anything other than sat in front of the computer. Doing so tells you brain that you are not just going to sit their worrying, getting upset and angry. That you're not a robot.

On an amazingly positive note - you have joined a community here that can help you refocus when you want to.

Choose what you want to think. Choose what you want to achieve. yep - it's not always easy but you try or you fail. This is life.

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mm65120 said:

as there are lot of IM business owners in BHW, I wanted to ask how do you guys deal with mood-swings, worry, tension. I find it extremely intolerable, I will be feeling really good sometimes and all of a sudden I will be panicking about something else. All of a sudden I have become a worry person which is really unattractive.

I don't have any financial pressure, I'm making $1k-2k/month for now. I do have bigger goals to reach but can't concentrate due to extreme panicky mood and I also worry about the future a lot because I have urgency to reach my bigger goal ASAP. When I'm getting sales my mood is good and 1 bad day and my mood is really bad, it affecting my social life, I have changed from having cool personality that people like to worry person, I'm also extremely skinny and underweight, I need to eat more but due to these worries I don't have appetite, I really don't like to worry all the time but can't help myself.

How do you guys deal with these things?

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