Endless anxiety

Im sorry for hearing your situation. it is sad but try to travel somewhere, beach? mountain? to heal your mind. And think about your family to get over it too

Many people go through something similar, especially when life feels like it’s pulling in all directions.

That voice telling you to stop—that’s your clarity. That’s the part of you that still knows you want something better, even if you're not sure how to get there.

Take a break, see your wife, talk to your doctor.
No amount of money is worth your health.
Spend time with your dog, dogs are awesome and will cheer you up!

ChrisHasADog said:

Since the end of the New Year in my country, I have hardly been home for a meal cooked by my wife. I have been home almost only 1-2 days a week. Every night I am in a state of insomnia and anxiety. I prefer to live in the company.

My actions are getting slower and slower and my mind is getting numb. I started to think of ways to relax, to get massages, to go to the pub and ‘burn’ money. Drinking a lot of alcohol. But when I got sober, I lay down on my bed and started to think.

My head started to hurt, I couldn't see inside myself, and I started making plans to buy luxury cars, new toys, and satisfy my vanity. But then I struggled inside. There was always a voice inside telling me to stop everything.

I couldn't study calmly anymore, couldn't think in a calm manner. I have become weak inside and I often reminisce about the past.

I think I'm sick.

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go and train a fighting sport i promise you will be clear and relaxed after beating someone up or getting your ass beat up. this was true in the movie fightclub.

did you try travelling?

It helps a lot for mental health.

and don't forget take your car with you.

is he okay? hasn't posted for a while.

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The anxiety is a bitch, that feeling where you want to crawl out of your skin, I've been there and it's not nice. Do a bit more of what makes you happy, without involving bad habits like alcohol, drugs and whatnot. Try some new (silly) things. Go to therapy if you want, start a new sport, go to jump house, do some labour with your hands.

Hope you get in a better place!

Go to therapy and you should identify what is the actual cause of the problem. Buying stuff or other superficial things won't help or fix the problem.

But very importantly: Do not drink alcohol or take drugs. This will make things far worse. Your life will fall apart. It will be a downward spiral. Do NOT do it. Please be smart enough to stay away from this. Do not throw away your marriage/relationship because of this.

Here is one quick fix that can help you right now. Deep and slow breathing can help a lot with anxiety. It will make you calm down.

Also, do not feel ashamed to go to therapy. Realizing you are sick and need help is already the first step in the right direction.

I wish only the best for you and your family.

You may be burned out, seek professional help and remember health is wealth.

Drink some alcohol, it will help))

Have an in-depth conversation with Chat GPT and let it assess your psychological issues.

You may have to look into your food intake. Does your food diet / intake include all vitamins, minerals and nutrition ?
Please take care and I would suggest, firstly, quit alcohol. Start sleeping for atleast 7 hours in every 24 hour cycle and also go outdoor for a run or jog everyday.

Talk to therapist. We aint doctors.

Good weather with lots of sun and heat , deciplin with diet and hit the gym is the top 3 things working for me. That really changes my life

Let's keep it simple. Ready?



"I prefer to live in the company"

- Bad habit number 1
- Whatever you think you are and know, love made this world running.
- Conclusion? Stay close to love, your wife, kids, parents, loved ones.


"My actions are getting slower and slower"

- Ability to recognize the issue. Positive feedback!
- Without pain, nothing good ever happened, my friend.


"I started to think of ways to relax, to get massages, to go to the pub and ‘burn’ money. Drinking a lot of alcohol. But when I got sober, I lay down on my bed and started to think."

- Bad habit number 2
- Do not solve the problem, but escape it.
- Useless actions. Imagine talking to people in WW2 about massage. WTF, very soft and bad attitude.
- I want you to get zero 0 massages for the rest of your life. Even fighters who do massage before a fight and pussies.
- Remember that. Carry everything you have, like a King. Every scar, every workout. Massage kills your achievements.
- Alcohol destroys your body and mind. It can cause you to do a super stupid thing in matter of seconds. You can't afford it!


"My head started to hurt, I couldn't see inside myself, and I started making plans to buy luxury cars, new toys, and satisfy my vanity. But then I struggled inside. There was always a voice inside telling me to stop everything."

- See, God is good. He won't force you, but will warn you. Why I talk to you? Why? What made me to type this?
- What is God warning actually? A call to give Him all your problems. By forum rules, I can't expand the subject here.
- You don't know how to solve your problems. You simply don't know how. That's good. You are aware and in need of help.



Summary:

You are under attack. Things not working like used to work. Something updated.
You do not appreciate your loved ones enough, because you don't give them your time.
You choose to live at your company, which is nothing bad. You bring money to the table.
You give life to your ideas, you have passion, will to work even harder, but you are also aware that someone or something is against you. This aren't just like that. You work hard and viola, solved. Nothing works like that. Life brings a bunch of punches to your face.
You rather want to buy a luxury toy, because you are selfish, and weak of course, and you feel it.


You can't play or trade with time. Whatever bad happens to us or around us, it's all for our own good.
It's never late to realize what is the most important in life, even when it's gone. You can still realize it.
Cool story, a bunch of text in the end and what is my problem, or I just have one or more? (you may ask)



Fix:

1. Stay living at your office. Reduce time spent there by at least 20% and give that time to your family.
2. Start praying. DM me, or just pray to God and say something like this:

Lord, I don't know You. I don't know who You are. But I would like to meet You, and know You.
Please, reveal Yourself to me. Help me. I need Your help.

You can do this from your office, just make sure you are alone, without buzz or people around. Focus and talk or speak in your mind.

3. Ignore urgency. Whatever seems urgent or it has no permanent fix or idea how to fix, give it a break. You are someone who already works a lot. You need to become wiser, and that won't happen if you only working something, right.
4. You will start walking 20-30-40min every single day, at the time you love the most. Sunset, 7am, whatever you prefer. Alone.
5. You will install next system to your head. Every time you do not do a bad habit, like drinking, that counts. Just remember this.
Every time you avoid doing a bad habit, that counts in your favor. Here, the day is coming where you will not be weak anymore, and you won't count your bad habits anymore.


This post was written with poor English, without much effort to check the errors.

If this post is wrong, feel free to delete it, as my recommendation may not be the best from someone else's point of view.


OP this was done on your request. Even if you don't get what I meant. Thanks.

ChrisHasADog said:

Since the end of the New Year in my country, I have hardly been home for a meal cooked by my wife. I have been home almost only 1-2 days a week. Every night I am in a state of insomnia and anxiety. I prefer to live in the company.

My actions are getting slower and slower and my mind is getting numb. I started to think of ways to relax, to get massages, to go to the pub and ‘burn’ money. Drinking a lot of alcohol. But when I got sober, I lay down on my bed and started to think.

My head started to hurt, I couldn't see inside myself, and I started making plans to buy luxury cars, new toys, and satisfy my vanity. But then I struggled inside. There was always a voice inside telling me to stop everything.

I couldn't study calmly anymore, couldn't think in a calm manner. I have become weak inside and I often reminisce about the past.

I think I'm sick.

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I have been on similar situation that you are in. What I did before, is to look at the sky and stare at it for few seconds and not to think at all. Or, you can try "somatic breathing" it may help you.

Perhaps, you can write everything that you are thinking, the messy stuff, the worries, bucket list, anything that bothers you or ignite you for the future. This is to help you empty your mind with all those things you have been thinking all this time.

ChrisHasADog said:

Since the end of the New Year in my country, I have hardly been home for a meal cooked by my wife. I have been home almost only 1-2 days a week. Every night I am in a state of insomnia and anxiety. I prefer to live in the company.

My actions are getting slower and slower and my mind is getting numb. I started to think of ways to relax, to get massages, to go to the pub and ‘burn’ money. Drinking a lot of alcohol. But when I got sober, I lay down on my bed and started to think.

My head started to hurt, I couldn't see inside myself, and I started making plans to buy luxury cars, new toys, and satisfy my vanity. But then I struggled inside. There was always a voice inside telling me to stop everything.

I couldn't study calmly anymore, couldn't think in a calm manner. I have become weak inside and I often reminisce about the past.

I think I'm sick.

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Man, I really feel you on this one. That kind of mental spiral—running on fumes, chasing distractions, trying to outrun your own thoughts—it’s brutal. Been there more times than I’d like to admit.

You know what weirdly helped me hit pause on all that noise? Meditation. And I’m not talking about sitting cross-legged on a mountain humming to the universe. Just five or ten minutes a day, eyes closed, no phone, just breathing and letting the chaos simmer down. It doesn’t fix everything overnight, but it’s like giving your brain a chance to reboot - suddenly you’re not reacting to every thought or emotion like it’s life or death. You start getting some space between you and all the junk flying around in your head.

If you give it a real shot, it can be a total game changer. Helps you face the storm without getting wrecked by it. Hang in there—you’re not broken, just burnt out. Time to breathe.

ChrisHasADog said:

Since the end of the New Year in my country, I have hardly been home for a meal cooked by my wife. I have been home almost only 1-2 days a week. Every night I am in a state of insomnia and anxiety. I prefer to live in the company.

My actions are getting slower and slower and my mind is getting numb. I started to think of ways to relax, to get massages, to go to the pub and ‘burn’ money. Drinking a lot of alcohol. But when I got sober, I lay down on my bed and started to think.

My head started to hurt, I couldn't see inside myself, and I started making plans to buy luxury cars, new toys, and satisfy my vanity. But then I struggled inside. There was always a voice inside telling me to stop everything.

I couldn't study calmly anymore, couldn't think in a calm manner. I have become weak inside and I often reminisce about the past.

I think I'm sick.

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do some heavy jogging till you can't feel your own legs. get yourself physically tired out.

ChrisHasADog said:

Since the end of the New Year in my country, I have hardly been home for a meal cooked by my wife. I have been home almost only 1-2 days a week. Every night I am in a state of insomnia and anxiety. I prefer to live in the company.

My actions are getting slower and slower and my mind is getting numb. I started to think of ways to relax, to get massages, to go to the pub and ‘burn’ money. Drinking a lot of alcohol. But when I got sober, I lay down on my bed and started to think.

My head started to hurt, I couldn't see inside myself, and I started making plans to buy luxury cars, new toys, and satisfy my vanity. But then I struggled inside. There was always a voice inside telling me to stop everything.

I couldn't study calmly anymore, couldn't think in a calm manner. I have become weak inside and I often reminisce about the past.

I think I'm sick.

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Thank you for sharing this—it takes strength to be this honest. What you’re experiencing sounds like emotional burnout, not weakness. When your external world moves fast and your internal world feels lost, it’s a signal to pause and realign. Consider speaking to a mental health professional—it’s not a step back, it’s a way forward. Healing begins with clarity.