You can't do a meta refresh unless you bring them to a landing page.
If you want to make money and you're getting traffic from a site that the publishers don't want traffic from you're going to have to make a whitehat (a front) web site.
For example.
Some kind of blog can be your whitehat site with the URL
www.my-niche-news-blog.com the blog would be related to your niche and would appear to be a legitimate site that you will take care of and update regularly.
Then you have advertisements on that site, leading to the offer.
When the person clicks an advertisement they are taken to a page on your site called
www.my-niche-news-blog.com/advertisement1.php
That link will redirect them to your offer. And on your whitehat blog it looks like the person, if interested in the advertisement on your site, clicks it and is taken to that link. For the reason you're doing this, if asked by your network. You can use the excuse "it looks prettier/more trusting then a regular offer link and i noticed a higher click through rate when I made the links like that"
It seems complicated but it's basic.
The youtube people are clicking on:
www.my-niche-news-blog.com/advertisement1.php
in your youtube description but they're taken directly to your affiliate offer through a redirect. The affiliate will see it coming from that link and not youtube.