Dealing with a self sabotaging partner?

I don't know if you have heard of Ajahn Brahm , he has some good talks on dealing with difficult situations in life.

This is a talk on dealing with difficult people.

Ex :

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zSQI1e8D3Qo

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Dude, the only thing I would say is jump ship pretty fast. If you don't this is going to be one bumpy ride that you would not like to take. Bat crazy girlfriends, coupled with no medication is a pretty serious issue, and looking at the history, I would say you are looking at years of pain before you. Have a look at the beautiful smile of your daughter, and if you can, take her with you. In fact, that would be a whole world of good for your motivation in terms of IM and a 9-5 job.
If you don't take an action soon, all you would be doing is counting your fingers till the time she starts acting crazy again, and believe me, it will become more and more frequent as days go by. I am speaking from experience, I have had my fair share of crazy exes.

My wife was the same i am so glad i dumped my bitch i had also a girl with her
i took her to court to get weekend access and
then afther a while my daughter moved i. With my mum so i was saved via mum
but it was the best move in my life afther we broke the lift from my shoulders was massive , my daughter is 19 know and trains football in london for local council i am happy she happy mother means nothink to me ...

to be honest my daughter happy with out contact with her mum
becouse all she does is moan .

and my x looks so old know it 20 years later , i never speak to her we cut all ties ,

The only man thing i done was let her keep everthink in the home, and i left with the cloths on my back
slept on a friends floor for 8 months untill councel rehomed me.

i am happy know and been for years l never go back hate her

Still a moan old cow 20 years later but know she very ugly and old
it true she got older looking then me it funny ....

love life go foward never give up

Well i can't speak so much for how to deal with your partner but, i'm sure you know weed is pretty addicting if you used to smoke weed too.
Of course I did also back in highschool and yeah, when you're a "kid" it's just basically going to happen.
But the problem was, i was addicted back then and maybe she is too.
I literally got my medical card (allows me to legally buy weed in cali) and i was blowing $200-300 on weed like every week or 2.

Well the moral of the story is, I started snorting cocaine and magically I stopped smoking weed.

Just kidding, jokes aside, I just grew out of it somehow.. Wasn't "important" to me anymore.
Maybe she's at the phase.. But I also learned that some people just never "grow up"
They just want to do nothing all day, just smoke weed, make money (usually strippers) and then PRETEND their life is great but in reality it's shit.

Goodluck with everything though

Man, you are in a TOXIC situation. Get out of there pronto, find your own place, do what you need to do to get out of that prison, then rebuild from over there. If you stay in that prison of hell it will quite possibly break you down, it sounds like it's already well underway. How is your temper? When at breaking point, are you capable of harming your gf or yourself in the heat of the moment, that moment of red mist? If yes to either of those, you owe that ball of negativity nothing, but everything to your daughter to take care of your sanity. Your daughter won't be the first person to have separated parents, it's no biggie, trust me, she can live a very full and productive life without her parents living together, it's not that big a deal. It's much worse to witness parents fighting, or she's going to end up toxic and angry at life too.

When I first started on the road to positivity I actually at first became more sensitive to negativity around me, like "how can these people be so negative? It's unbelievable and to make it worse, their actions are bringing down my positive effort and bringing my own day-day life, that's so selfish, what a fucking toxic negative brainwashed robot" - and now you feel negative as fuck. Get out of there, if once your free and have a clearer head, by some chance you decide it's best to go back to her (doubt it), then at least you'd know that with a clear head. This lady is NOT your girlfriend, she stopped being that a long time ago, she is a liability.