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Dealing with a breakup

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by rancidricky, Jun 25, 2017.

  1. rancidricky

    rancidricky Junior Member

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    I've seen these threads here before and they normally get hate, but I'm drinking so I don't mind.
    And yeah probably I should ask friends not people on an IM forum o_O But plenty of smart people here.

    So anyway I wanna hear from anyone how you got over your ex. ideas etc.

    I met her while she was traveling in my country, she returned home at the end of her visa, to get straight back with her ex.

    While we were together we talked a lot about our plans to visit each other and stuff, I definitely thought she would wait. First girl I actually loved.

    Just blew my mind how something that I valued so much seemingly meant nothing to her.

    I still like her as a person but I can't reconcile that with how hurt I am from it. I couldn't really eat for a few days when I found out, but apparently I'm just dramatic.
    It really seems as though she didn't care, although when we were together it was the opposite, so maybe I'm just telling myself that I don't know. she was a couple years older than me (im 21) and probably more experienced so maybe it's why it's a big deal for me not her.

    so far my plan is just to throw myself into IM things I've been slack on.

    would really welcome any ideas, and thanks if you read my rant lol
     
  2. Aty

    Aty Jr. VIP Jr. VIP

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    First things first. Stop drinking alcohol. You thirsty? Drink water.
    Go do something outdoor, fishing, jogging, work out, hiking.
     
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  3. gashead

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    Keep busy, focus on yourself and I know it's a cliche but it gets easier with time.
     
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  4. TheGreene

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    My Ex and i were together for 1 year and little more than half. I was forced to break up with her, because of her parents. We did not speak to one another ever since and saw her at a party and we were acting like we were never ever together., 1 year and half all gone. I got myself back into Internet Marketing and honestly helped me get rid of thinking about her 24/7 Kept me very busy. She found a new boyfriend After we broke up like 3-4 months later, and hopefully he's a good guy and takes care of her. But since she did this, I had enough self respect to get over her. Move on, ill tell you this much.. Everything really happens for a reason... Trust.
     
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  5. rancidricky

    rancidricky Junior Member

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    Thanks, and yeah I don't drink often so it's no biggy. Yup exercise and fresh air is keeping me going atm too

    Thanks mate, I know it will, but it's gonna be awhile until I can stop thinking about her. And bargaining with myself about what I could have done better, if I still can lol.. once I move past that...

    Wow that's harsh man, I don't get it when people are together, and then not, and act as if they never were... even if not in a relationship anymore, ya still knew eachother really closely you know. But anyway sounds like you cam out good. I plan to do the same, looads of im, cause man she is on my mind a lot haha. I have enough self respect to move on I guess but I feel like I lack closure or understanding. But anyway I feel the same that I hope she's with someone who takes care of her because despite my ego is angry at her, I still think she's an amazing person
     
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  6. W9go

    W9go Elite Member

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    i never forgot my big love but a view bottles of alcohol and some strippers did help a lot :)
     
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  7. laur.laurix

    laur.laurix Power Member

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    OMFG.....get some friends do some cocaine and stop spamming this IM forum with ur love life problems. U know why? Because we don`t care about ur love life we are here to make coin.
     
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    have a good wank, that will set you right.
     
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    abalone is just abalone. move on pal.
     
  10. roki4ka

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    LOL, you are 21...

    At 21 I was doing sex with at least 3 different girls (and boys) in 1 week. College was crazy. My longest relationship back then was few days and I was happy like a dog with a bone in the grass, in a sunny day.

    At 23 I met my wife, now I am 29 and we are together until then and very happy, we also have a wonderful daughter. This is what makes me happy now, but at your age ... this is the time to try things, everything, everywhere with everyone.

    Anyway, what will help you is making good money and f*ck every pussy u can get. Be happy, man.
     
  11. rancidricky

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    It's different for everyone man. I've had my share of meaningless hookups, but if you become emotionally invested it's a whole notha story
     
  12. Gloria Parker

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    This breakup things happens to mostly.I never forget my love. Many people advised me to forget but I don't want to. You have to only remember good memories and only stop thinking about breakup things( breakup time). Try to busy yourself. Try to spend time with friends and your favorite task. Its really hard to do and manage yourself in front of people and hiding your expressions but try to laugh. Laugh will decrease your depression.
    Join some clubs and other social program. Meet more people and you will find that you are not a single person that felling like that.
     
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    Old pickup rule. Fuck 10 other girls :)
     
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    You should stop drinking alone.
    Some things that i did to get over a breakup
    • Go out with friends and party hard(That's the only time i would recommend alcohol while going through a breakup)
    • Find a hobby that makes you stop thinking about her/the relationship
    • Go on a date and meet other girls!
    If i get some more ideas ill write em down, but you get the point. Just get over it and accept the fact that she is no longer your girlfriend keep yourself busy to forget about it. May i ask how long the relationship was?
     
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  15. rancidricky

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    Thanks man, appciate the tips. was ~6month
     
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    Quick way (as suggested by @Panther28 when i was in similar situation): wank off and forget her :p
     
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    You really need to rediscover yourself, always try encouraging yourself and try talking more with those who actually want to motive you to do better in your life.

    Also, you need to look into those people more, that you admire in your life, you will get the idea how to deal in this situation, because if they could deal with difficulties, you can deal with them as well.
     
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  18. deal with it

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    wanker is the banker
     
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    I've been there but honestly it gets easier with time. You have to go through the partying stage, then the mad obsessve stage (wether its gaming, coding or fitness) but when you come out the other side, you'll be so much happier.
     
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    I went through some shit about 2 years ago with a hungarian girl that I worked with. We were seeing each other for six months and she had hid the fact that she was with a guy for two years. We both genuinely had feelings for each other and we were in love but it just didn't seem feasible for me so I gave her the choice me or him but they had a home together etc so I just parted my goodbyes - she still messages me now and again but I do not reply.

    I drunk heavily etc after her and me split up and I got myself into some messes let me tell you! and I can tell you one thing, women are not worth drinking over or snorting copious amounts of coke.

    Now 1 year and 2 months later I've been with this new girl for a year and I've never been so happy. Just got engaged last weekend!

    There is always someone better out there bro trust me.
     
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