Dating Sadness

Jimmy Undertones said:

Hey everyone, hope your well.

I have been dating this girl for about 2 months, previously ive not been dating for a over a year. She was absolutely stunning, not sure how i managed to date something so beautiful. We had a great time together travelling, meals out and i felt happy, she had a good personality, we laughed lots.

Sadly she has had to go back to Canada due to a family member who has an illness, who needs caring for. She did not want to be a burden on me and said it might be better if we go back friends as she could be back home for a few years, not sure if she will return back to the UK. We speak maybe once a week and i am fine with it, things happen that our outside our control and i want her to be with her family.

However lately i have been feeling a bit sick, thinking about the good times together. I also get a bit anxious and sad remembering the great times we had together. I am not sure if i will find love again. I feel a bit weak posting this as i thought i was a strong person, men shouldn't feel this way should they? Does anyone know what i can do to overcome this, i feel a bit embarrassed posting this, any help you can give i would be thankful for. Thanks folks, i know you will probably laugh at me.

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ziko12345 said:

I think no man can be strong in fron of genuine love.
Its normal for you to be feeling like that, trust me.
And yes you will find love again. It just feels impossible right now and you feel down, its normall. I would recommend going out with friends and keep yourself busy so you dont keep that in mind. Also there might be still a chance with her. Life is unpredictable. Dont beat yourself over sth u cant control.
Cheers!

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Jimmy Undertones said:

Thanks everyone for replying, i appreciate it. Ive never felt like this before very depressed and sick. I will try keep myself busy thanks for this, it is just my brain and hormones messing around with me. True i wont beat myself up, life is full of ups and downs. Anyone want a party at mine tonight, your all invited?

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710fla said:

And the weekend begins

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BassTrackerBoats said:

This is at least the third weekend thread I have seen today as it relates to relationships.

I've been punching myself in the neck for 2 hours or so - although anyone that knows me thinks that is fine I'm getting bruises on top of bruises.

Geez, Louise, how about some threads that discuss Kansas City Bar B Q, Conch Fritters or why the Sun sets in the West instead?

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Jimmy Undertones said:

Thanks everyone for replying, i appreciate it. Ive never felt like this before very depressed and sick. I will try keep myself busy thanks for this, it is just my brain and hormones messing around with me. True i wont beat myself up, life is full of ups and downs. Anyone want a party at mine tonight, your all invited?

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stepdub said:

Don't try to be busy to get over her. Try to be busy cuz you genuinely have dope shit to do. Women are pushed away if you show neediness.

You could travel to New places, start new business, hobby, gym etc etc..and take loads of awesome photos of you doing these amazing things. Share them on your Instagram, WhatsApp stories, Facebook etc. If she notices these updates, she'll be drawn to you again slowly. But the catch is, you MUST do these things for yourself authentically, not to impress her. Women are drawn to guys who don't need them. The neediness is what you must kill first.

And bro remember one thing. Do not take life and women too seriously. If you enjoy it as a game, you'll have a good time.

Everything I said above is from my own experience. I was a virgin till 24, did a bit of pickup artist training, got my first girlfriend, broke up, got another girlfriend, had a live in relationship, broke up, had multiple serious girlfriends at a time. These days it's me who swipes left and cancels dates cuz I'm busy working on my business. I'm not bragging, I just want to be the example of a guy who couldn't attract a woman, to someone who doesn't care now. You too will see after a few years, you'd look back and laugh that you once felt sad cuz a woman left you.

All the best brother.

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Jimmy Undertones said:

Hey everyone, hope your well.

I have been dating this girl for about 2 months, previously ive not been dating for a over a year. She was absolutely stunning, not sure how i managed to date something so beautiful. We had a great time together travelling, meals out and i felt happy, she had a good personality, we laughed lots.

Sadly she has had to go back to Canada due to a family member who has an illness, who needs caring for. She did not want to be a burden on me and said it might be better if we go back friends as she could be back home for a few years, not sure if she will return back to the UK. We speak maybe once a week and i am fine with it, things happen that our outside our control and i want her to be with her family.

However lately i have been feeling a bit sick, thinking about the good times together. I also get a bit anxious and sad remembering the great times we had together. I am not sure if i will find love again. I feel a bit weak posting this as i thought i was a strong person, men shouldn't feel this way should they? Does anyone know what i can do to overcome this, i feel a bit embarrassed posting this, any help you can give i would be thankful for. Thanks folks, i know you will probably laugh at me.

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stepdub said:

Don't try to be busy to get over her. Try to be busy cuz you genuinely have dope shit to do. Women are pushed away if you show neediness.

You could travel to New places, start new business, hobby, gym etc etc..and take loads of awesome photos of you doing these amazing things. Share them on your Instagram, WhatsApp stories, Facebook etc. If she notices these updates, she'll be drawn to you again slowly. But the catch is, you MUST do these things for yourself authentically, not to impress her. Women are drawn to guys who don't need them. The neediness is what you must kill first.

And bro remember one thing. Do not take life and women too seriously. If you enjoy it as a game, you'll have a good time.

Everything I said above is from my own experience. I was a virgin till 24, did a bit of pickup artist training, got my first girlfriend, broke up, got another girlfriend, had a live in relationship, broke up, had multiple serious girlfriends at a time. These days it's me who swipes left and cancels dates cuz I'm busy working on my business. I'm not bragging, I just want to be the example of a guy who couldn't attract a woman, to someone who doesn't care now. You too will see after a few years, you'd look back and laugh that you once felt sad cuz a woman left you.

All the best brother.

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ziko12345 said:

Take an example from this guy please, not even joking.
You are right that you will laugh about it years later. But right now when you really like a girl, not just bc she is beautiful, you think there is no girl like her that why people feel said. Time has always proven that to me.

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stelios0 said:

Men should feel whatever the fuck they want.

Just follow her since Canada is nice too or just find another person, man up and solve the problem no need to feel anxious about this.

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