I wrote a little how-to on BHW a few weeks ago about how I get Wiki links to stick.
Search for it...
Pretty much I just provide exactly what Wikipedia is looking for: A well sourced article that provides a good source for whatever section of the article I'm trying to cover.
Granted they are no-follow links, but Aunt G "knows" I have a link from Wikipedia and while no-follow might not pass link juice, it passes "respect" which I think is a factor in that ever elusive algorithm we all wish we had a copy of...