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can relationship hurt a soul this Much?

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  1. Bestcreaters

    Bestcreaters Power Member

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    As of this thrade is open i just got off the phone with my friend, she was a girl i really like i saw her and asked a friend for her number a week Ago. when i called her i explain to her that i liked her she said what kind of like as a friend? i said No not really as a friend this where her words,reply (hmmmmm....slient for some minutes and she said oky Accepted), i was happy we called for hours daily 3-5 hrs i always end the call with good night sweet dreams i have always tell her through out the call that she was the most beautifull girl i have ever seen but today i told her again that i liked her remember i told her the first time we meet......she was really suprise and every thing became awkward she couldnt even speak to me she acted as if the first time i said it to her and i could feel blood rushing from my vains to my heart i thought for a sec maybe i didn't make that clear to her but sadly she was soo confuse that i could here her almost crying she kept saying now am shy of you,am not comfortable speaking with you your so smart to do this i was so Sad to think i played a trik on her and she told me that she will give me a call tommorow to give me her reply i knew she did that to end the Awkward call between Us she was nice and told me to please sleep and never think of this during sleep i am now lost in darkness of the so call relationship i wanted which has dycryted a wall of emotions in my heart and created a space for agony and pain to my soul ,i cant be her friend i love her so much and it will really break my heart if she says No but the sad thing is i cant be her friend if she ask me to because that feeling will always be there what should i do am so LOST,
     
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    Yes, but where are you in the SERPs
     
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    i hate when am being serious and people like you post random post so others could see there signature chill bro! Am sorry but am not in the mood
     
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    In that case, maybe you should be talking to your friends, rather than a bunch of randoms on an IM forum.
     
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    thanks but am looking for advice from people that had similar experiance i dont have friends in that area gladly my second family is BHW otherwise i will seeing a therapist
     
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    She cheated on you and feels guilty. Time to move on, or get therapy.
     
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    thanks for the Noob Advice
     
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    OK. in that case I am sorry that I was flippant with my remark.

    You sound young. I am an old man.
    The feelings you are going through are natural and everybody goes through them, although not easy you will come through stronger.
    Years from now, you will look back and smile.

    If she doesn't have the same feelings then there is nothing you can do but be a good guy. Tell her you will be there for her if she ever needs you.

    Don't try to be friends with her on the off chance that she will reconsider as it will really break your heart when she starts dating another guy.

    Try to expand your social circle and also keep in my mind that while you are pining for this girl there may be another right under your nose that has the same feelings for you.

    Good Luck
     
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    My advice would be to get rid of the blue letters all around when posting on a site with an absolutely black background :/

     
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    When you go sea fishing... hear me out... sometimes you manage to get a massive blue marlin on your line.. the biggest fish you;ve ever managed to bait. you work for hours reeling in the fish... you manage to get the fish to the edge of the boat.. its just pulling over the line.. but then the line snaps or your pole breaks.. and you lose the biggest catch of your life.

    What do you do?

    Answer me literally.
     
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    This is one of those situations that "is what it is".. If she likes you as more than a friend you are getting what you want, if she does not like you in that way then you will be disappointed.

    If she likes you then there is nothing more for me to say.

    If she does not you MUST behave like a man and move on. In the future if she changes her mind she knows where to find you. Do NOT get weird, do NOT get creepy, do NOT get angry. Just pick yourself up, dust yourself off and proceed with your life.

    Life has a funny way of fixing these types of things, lose one girl, find another, get fired from one job, find a better one. The trick is to never give up on YOURSELF.

    Good Luck
     
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    If she had to wait and think that should have been a sign.

    This story confuses me though but It seems like you made her feel very uncomfortable when you met her. If that was your first time meeting her... I'm sorry to say but that will most likely be your last.

    Go to your friends and cry all your emotions out to them, that's what friends are for :) You'll get over her faster.
     
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    I know exactly what you mean, how is the bean stalk coming on?
     
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    on a serious note... just be regular if she dont want to fuck with you keep her in your cirlcle if shes cool and maybe one day she will change her mind. then you hit it and quit it since she tried to play you.
     
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    Ok mate, you will hardly find anyone on these forums to talk about this, but yet I have some free time.

    First of all please learn some English grammar, and put some freaking points and commas. Also don't use that ugly color, my eyes are bleeding, lol... (Not that my grammar is perfect, but I try...)

    So, here is how male brain works. Imagine you are in an empty room that has nothing, but 20 monitors in it. This room is the part of your brain that likes women. As you are currently so much in love with this 1 girl, that all the monitors are showing this very same girl. This is making you retarded. And yes I mean a social invalid that can't make a phone call without feeling awkward. In order to fall out of love with this girl, you will have to fill these monitors with DIFFERENT girls. That's right, this is the only 100% working way. Just find some other girls to chase. OetherS, that means more than just 1, and you will be fine. Been there, done that.

    As long as all the monitors are showing the same girl, you wont fall out of love. Find some new girls and fill your monitors with as many girls as possible. As soon as you get 3-4+ different girls you will stop CARE at all about what you are talking, how do you behave, etc. This will help you to act normal, and not like a retarded 13 years old virgin looser.

    Telling her that she is the most beautiful girl and you love her over the phone is probably the biggest mistake you can ever make. Don't get me wrong, you can't tell her this if you meet in person as well. You just can't tell her how beautiful she is, she probably already knows that. Of course you can say that she looks pretty for your date, but never say that she is the most beautiful girl you met (srsly WTF?!). NEVER. PERIOD.

    I guess she might be really beautiful, which makes it logical that SHE KNOWS she is hot. Pointing the obvious will not make her fall in love with you. Almost exclusively. Perhaps there were tens of other guys telling her how beautiful she is, and by stating this, you are in no way distinguishing from the others. Crazy as it sounds, girls DO NOT want you to tell them how beautiful they are, to give them flowers, and to be super nice and gentle with them. There are plenty of losers already doing this, just to bump her ego. And this is exactly what this girl used you for. Don't be ashamed, and don't take this personally, just enter the real world.

    Yet if you ask a girl "What do you want from a man?" She will most likely respond: "I want him to be charming, to be nice with me, to treat me well, to spoil me, to give me flowers, to be romantic, to tell me how beautiful I am, yada yada..."

    A FUCKING BULLSHIT!!! SHOCKING, yeah?! Following this strategy of being the nice guy is probably the fastest line to the friend zone, in which you already are (No, there is no chance you can get out, It's too late now). I can't explain why every girl will actually say they are looking for a nice guy, when in fact they aren't. Being the nice guy is a good strategy once you have found the love of your live, and you already live together, or things are becoming pretty serious. Of course you will be the nice guy for a girl you want to spend the rest of your live with, but in the beginning you can't get her on by being the nice guy. Yet, the nice guy is the worst strategy to get her to like you, or to get in her panties. I expect some BHW female members to even argue with me, but this is an open forum where everybody shares his opinion. This is my opinion.

    So, you don't have to be the nice guy. Never. It just won't work to get her to like you or just sleep with you. Of course there are exceptions, especially with girls who haven't got many boyfriends in the past, this is where the nice guy strategy might work. But most of the time for hot chicks it will almost certainly fail.

    Again, don't take me wrong - you don't have to be the jerk, badass who is making her cry or anything. This also works, but there is a middle stage that really do wonders. I call this middle stage being a MANLY MAN.

    If you go back in time, man were the hunters, who were hunting wild animals and feeding the whole tribe. Do you think that a real hunter who is killing wild animals on daily basis will go and cry about a girl, and telling her how beautiful she is? No! He is going to her, saying "I WANT YOU", because this is what he wants and he knows that. He doesn't have to be romantic or anything, he is just choosing her. This is MANLY. Do you think the hunter will go and write poems for her? Or maybe get her flowers every time they meet? No! Manly mans do not write poems, songs, make hours of call phones just to tell her how beautiful she is. No, no no... They call her on the phone and ask for a date. This is how you tell a girl you like her.

    So once again - what women want from a man? They want a Manly man. Simple as that. If you ask what man want from women? Simple... man like feminine women... WOAH!

    The booty call: "Hi there, would you like to go out with me to ...do something...?" So, you don't have to state the obvious that you like her. By calling her and asking her out, you make it pretty clear that you want her, and she knows that. If she puts her bitch shield up and ask "Who else is coming?" just respond as a MANLY MAN who likes girls. "Nobody else, just me and you on a date, you dumb bitch!". :D

    Ok, forget about the "dumb bitch" part, but I guess you got it right. You are a man who is expressing his wishes, because this is what man do. If man like something he is ACTING in order to get what he WANTS. Writing poems, talking with her for hours on the phone is exactly like being a hunter who goes to the deer and ask her to come and suicide, so he doesn't have to kill her. Ridicolous, right?

    That being said, you have to become a manly man. Start acting like a man, who wants something and ACT to get what he wants. This is what man do. Change your walking to appear as manly as possible, train your voice to become deeper, train 3 times a week (no need to become Mr. Muscle), enjoy your life because you are a man who gets what he wants. Don't be a pussy talking on the phone for hours, this is what women do. Leave the talking to them, this is women's strength.

    If she sees a manly man, she will have to make sure that you are an actual man. This is the casual bitch testing. You might ask her to do something, and she will try to make you do something different, just so it happens her way. Don't let this happen. Learn to say a freaking "NO!". You are the man, you pick whatever you want, you do whatever you want, you fuck whoever you want. You will be amazed but the easiest way to get super hot girls is by saying NO to pretty much anything. Super hot chicks almost never get a NO for an answer, especially fro man. Saying NO to anything will make her wet, true story.

    Real life experience: One of my hottest real life female friends once asked me for a lighter. I gave her my lighter, so she can light up her cigarrete, and she really liked the lighter as it was shining in the dark or something. This lighter costed me less than $1. So she asked me to give her the lighter. "-Whaaat? I would NEVER EVER give my lighter, get your own...lol". She asked me again several times, then she started begging me to give her the stupid lighter. No, no, no, and no. This super-hot girl started hugging me and asking me what do I want from her in order to give her the lighter (Here you have to stay calm and say there is LITERALLY NOTHING she could EVER do to make me give her the freaking lighter. O yeah, this drove her crazy as she was almost kissing me at this moment... and I was STONE COLD serious about my intentions not to give her the lighter). She knew that the lighter was a cheap one, yet she really wanted it. Why? Because nobody, especially other man, never refused anything to her. At this point she didn't want the lighter, she just wanted to hear yes and get what she wants, because she is a super-hot girls and other man would kill to give her a present or something, so she could be happier. I guess I was one of the first to refuse something to her... and that something was a stupid freaking ligther, haha. Long story short I banged her so hard, she will never forget. I also didn't gave her the lighter, yeah!

    One more piece of advice - when you take her out, better go for an "action" date where you guys are supposed to do something, instead of talking. Talking is women's strength. Acting is man's strength. So, take her out to play some bawling, pool, or even climbing a mountain. If you get her on a dinner where you have to talk a lot you will be screwed, unless you get better.

    Hope this helps.

    Regarding this very same girl. Here is what you do. Your chances are currently below zero. Trust me, I know. Wait 7-8 days and call the bitch on the phone. The call duration cant be more than 45 seconds. Simply ask her out on a date. She will most likely refuse. Tell her you appologize for your earlier dumb behaviour and you tried to follow your friend's advice and tell her how beautiful she is. Tell her that she is not actually that beautiful and there are plenty of better girls you see everyday, but you only said this because your friend gave you this advice. Say sorry that you lied to her, and that you really wanted just to sleep with her as you find her very hot and you think she would be a nasty girl, but after the past 7 days you realized this was the wrong approach. Tell her that it doesn't matter now, because you realized your dumb mistake to play someone you are not. Without saying anything else wish her good luck in life, and appologize for trying to use her. Then hang up the freaking phone.
    She might bite this and call you back, agreeing to meet you. Or she might not. It doesn't really matter, because you already blew your chances with a big trompet.

    And seriously dude, where are you in the SERPs????
     
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    thanks mate i want to take the time to thank you for this i appreciate and i hope you get the same help when you need help in any aspect regards creaters
     
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    yeah maybe but dont you think she should be more serious when i said i dont want to be just s friend with her reply ?
     
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    Hey read the dating guides by Black hat or DOD.it sall on torrents
     
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    Ever heard this?::
    The one who controls own self fully can control the elements (and people as well) more positively!

    So don't be half-hearted especially in matters related to the heart!

    Btw, using pauses & punctuations effectively are equally important in creating a dashing personality, positive communications, and winning soul mates... :)
     
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    No because it sounds wimpy and inexperienced.

    IM and getting girls have two things in common. No one is born an expert at it and you can learn it. Luckily for you, getting girls is easier than IM thanks to biology.

    Here's the important part: use the net to learn techniques and practice them away from this forum. This forum is the wrong place for this topic. Most of us don't want to hear about your love life! Especially because it reminds us of idiots and trolls who always whine about girls instead of gaining the friendship and respect of their bhw mates. Eh?
     
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