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Are you happy?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by YoofSpeak, Nov 14, 2015.

  1. YoofSpeak

    YoofSpeak Registered Member

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    I'm not. I feel like life is pointless, no goals worth achieving anymore, unlike 7-8 years ago when I was a newbie on the internet, there was lots of energy, effort, and learning process. But now a days, life is pointless. I feel there is nothing worth getting. I no longer ever feel pump up listening to music, infact, I get irritated listening to even the songs I use to love. I'm not happy. And I don't know what to do with life now. All I know is I got to earn some money, maybe get married and live this pointless life till the end. I use to be an IMer, but now doing something offline. Thanks for reading.
     
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    Go see a psychologist, seriously. Nothing to be ashamed of, we all get there sooner or later.
     
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    WTF do you mean by "life is pointless" ?
     
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    Keep strong. Be sure to talk with people you care about and maybe get a psychologist? Sometimes just talking about your problems can make them so much thinner and easier to deal with. Surround yourself with people that are driven and not people with negative mindsets and such. If you're an entrepreneur, your work can be a little lonely - therefore I would suggest that you get some co-workers or joint venture up with people.

    Make new exciting projects, surround yourself with driven and positive minded people and let others know how you feel - being alone with dealing with problems is horrible, if you got people to reflect your thoughts with you might find happiness again. Best of luck! :)

    Take care,
    hekke
     
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    Looks like midlife crisis
     
  6. YoofSpeak

    YoofSpeak Registered Member

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    I have met the doctor, but now I have lost trust in psychiatrists already. All they do is give medicine which have 100+ side effects. I'm ok, I don't need a doctor. I see the doctor and think, are you really happy treating people. Happiness doesn't comes with pills.

    I mean, there is no point in doing anything, no goals worth achieving. Or I simply mean, there is nothing that makes me happy.
     
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  7. jazzc

    jazzc Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    Change your immediate environment. Travel. Volunteer. Meet new people.
     
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    There is a difference between psychologists and psychiatrists tho. You need 1st not 2nd
     
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    Im a psychology student, I've also done a lot of study in my own time.
    But even I feel like that often i suppose the passed always gets to me , then i just remember i have to move on with life and progress no matter how bad things use to be you cant change your passed but you can always change your future.

    Today i was thinking positive about further educating myself, starting a new hobby , following my passion , training more often . Get inspired and keep trying to make that money thats what im doing right now.

    This is what i listen to when i feel like that it some what makes u not judge how you feel and realize your not the only one and that there is still hope https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h-3CmKofKTU
    All the best :top:
     
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  10. Nonilol

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    You seriously need some love OP :eek:
    How old are you?
     
  11. babyshark

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    You are right. as Richard Dawkins wrote "We, and all other animals, are just survival machines of our GENES", sometimes it seems that we are slaves of our genes, to reach its goal of survival and reproduction. Steven Pinker even given up on figuring out the meaning of life, because human brains lack of cognitive tools to answer that question, just like dogs couldn't understand our language or children couldn't understand what the fuss around sex is about.
     
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    I never liked this phrase, it feels so dumbed down. It's like saying computers are just survival machines for electron movements. Well yeah, sure, electrons move all around but we kinda know the computer's value is more than that. It has a "higher order function" (that's a math phrase, not religious). So while it is true, it is also trivial.
     
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    You should consider visiting a massage parlour OP.
     
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    ever tried reading Pewep's threads?
     
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    When I feel down I watch videos on YouTube of starving kids and natural disasters.

    Sure my life could be better, but shit could be worse.

    It sounds like your problems are related to your job, change it.

    Theres no shame in getting fed up with something, go out and do something else. All that energy will come back.

    I was a web developer from the age of 18 to 23, I got fed up with clients asking the world of me fucked it up. Now I work at a motorbike shop which is completely different enjoying a much more laid back life and just rolling with it.

    One day I am sure I'll be working for myself again, but right now I'm happy where I am.
     
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    All you have to do is visit places you haven't.
    Buy a ticket and go see another country, stay away from your place for a month. Visit naturally beautiful places, you will surely feel better.
     
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  18. babyshark

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    about all your suggestions above, do you think that they are just another hopeless action to try filling up the emptiness of life, to make you forget questioning and answering the question? the big question is still there, you are just being distracted. Blaise Pascal wrote "All's men miseries from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone", because when you face with your own self, not being distracted, you start thinking about yourself, the universe, life, meaning and all those shits :D until being dead, all the time between born and die (I mean thing you called life) you are just trying to avoid answering the question :D
     
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    When I feel down, most times it is work related (my job pays me well and my client is very generous when it comes to performance bonuses :)) but still I feel incomplete, I phone my friends (they are the best people I know). Throw a small house party and get wasted. Sure we'll have a bad headache/hangover the morning we wake up but it's well worth it.
     
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    Never lose hope. Never give up. You're alive and well. Make the most of it.