Am I Crazy?

I feel for you. We do crazy things and act illogical when we are in love. Things can work out in the long run but there is probably some other reason that is causing her to be somewhat distance or wanting her space.

Sometimes people at a young age need their space. What you are offering her right now is a path to eventual marriage. She might not be ready for it and is trying to delay at the moment. Perhaps cooling things down and finding a distract for yourself might make things better. When you press too hard people have a tendacy to push back.

Good luck with things.

Dump her, it will be the best decision you make in your life.

Thank me later.

I agree with the whole 'she's not that into you' part. And I know it's hard to understand from the inside why is it that others call your behaviour 'clingy', but it is.

You should let go of the relationship; try talking to her about the matter, chances are she'll tell you what others have already told you with the info you've provided.

I'm female, btw.

flymethod said:

You are crazy for being with her. Just remember the one who cares the least controls the relationship. Sounds like she is in control.

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That is so FUCKING true.

antsaoo said:

She fucks someone else and meets with you randomly so you keep paying stuff for her.

Probably sucking someones elses dick now. :/

Im sorry to say this but probably true.

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That was my first thought as well. Yes, you ARE crazy for not knowing this already.

Turn the tables on her bro. She will continue to use you until you don't care anymore!

1) she doesn't want to move in with you so you try to bribe her with money.
2) you tell her you want to join the marines and get upset when she supports your decision.

srsly dude.

Hate to say this but it's probably time to move on. Your a young guy who is doing well and knows what he wants so time to get that girl on flippa and get a new one.

I've had relationships in the past that everyone has told me are wrong yet I know better and they don't know how much in love I am.

They all ended horribly and me think wtf why didn't I listen.

And for me long distance relationships don't really work at all. Tried a couple and phone calls are not the same as being with someone.

I mean who is going to go into the kitchen to make me my pie.

I'd outline a plan of attack and give this girl a ultimatum that she has to stick with.

You could say long distance isn't working anymore so how about you get a place together.

tacopalypse said:

1) she doesn't want to move in with you so you try to bribe her with money.
2) you tell her you want to join the marines and get upset when she supports your decision.

srsly dude.

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It's called love

But yeah, being in love sux. Most learn it the first time they are dumped and never again love anybody else more than they love themselves. The minority who don't learn become fixated on reproducing the experience with somebody else, wonder what 'women secrets' book to buy next, end up stitching their own socks and die alone. In other words, the perfect candidates for expensive dating services.

Monrox said:

It's called love

But yeah, being in love sux. Most learn it the first time they are dumped and never again love anybody else more than they love themselves. The minority who don't learn become fixated on reproducing the experience with somebody else, wonder what 'women secrets' book to buy next, end up stitching their own socks and die alone. In other words, the perfect candidates for expensive dating services.

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Well, love stinks.

Well, do you want a woman's point of view?

Even though you started this thread you won't dump the girl because 20 of us think you have to. Why don't you consider all the pros and cons of the situation, clearly, no emotions involved. We have a saying here: ''When your heart in on fire, smoke goes in your eyes''.

If it was for your best friend, what you will suggest him to do? How do you imagine the future together with that girl? Do not delay your decision, hoping the situation will settle by itself. It won't. You'd better take a desicion now, than years later, especially if it happens to have kids involved.

ur Gf is insance

You seem like a very successful guy and ANY girl should be honored to even talk to you. But I must admit that no guy is perfect and we all have flaws. Some people are richer than others and some are healthier and look better. You must look inside you at the moment and see what you are lacking.

As for your girlfriend, she seems to me to have very low self esteem. She's looking for that guy that is actively trying to spread his DNA, whereas you are trying to put it in her only. This is what is turning her off and A. Not fucking you more often and B. Not wanting to come live with you.

So her immaturity + your wanting to put it in her only is making her feel as if there better options out there. She wants to play the field while still fucking you.

As soon as you said she only puts out once or twice a month, I remembered my old GF back from HS. Granted we were younger, but I remember her not wanting to put out as often as I did. So I started playing mind games.... not talking to her often... not staying on the phone as often... making her call me instead of me calling her... working out, staying busy....

Suddenly, I noticed a shift in her behavior... She started calling me more often, wanting to see me and when we were seeing each other, i would not physically try to kiss her or touch her. She started initiating the contact more. We started fucking like rabbits at my every whim.

The moral of the story is to give her what she wants. She wants to be treated like shit! She wants to be treated as if she is just another bitch in your inventory of DNA passers! Can you believe that? Sad but that's the truth of life. Women want men that can't be had. That is the moral of this story.

If you want to be "had" than

A. Play hard to get don't call her as often, don't initiate contact physically or verbally ( on the phone ).

B. Start lifting weights, the more healthier your body is the more she'll be trying to get your DNA juices in her mouth.

C. Although you seem very busy and successful as is, keep working towards your goals and really BE busy so you can A. not contact her B. Be genuinely busy so your not thinking about her.

Also a side tip to looking better.. starting going under the sun more often. Preferably, without a shirt. Scientists have proven that getting sunlight/suntan boosts your testosterone, so not only does it make you look better... it turns bitches on because of the added testosterone.

Maybe shes bored with you..

1.She doesn't want to live with you
2.She doesn't care if you join the marines and risk your live

I think this is very common for a long time relationship....especially when both couple don't live near each other for years.

Chronos said:

Well, love stinks.

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Love sure does stink. Get it out of your system as soon as possible so you can get on with your life and do something productive.

Doesn't sound like she wants to be with you any more man. Don't waste eachothers time, you will only look back at the time wasted and be crazier than you already are now

Really u r soo crazy like me

If you have any self respect, you'll demand more from her or break up with her. Why waste your time with someone who isn't serious about you? You can feel sad and waste 3 years of time stringing this out or you could give her an ultimatum, get your answer right now, like a man and either get what you want(her treating you how you want) or get your truth and move on.

Chronos said:

So, you're saying I'm stupid for having emotions in a relationship?

I'm sorry I don't use probability/statistical theory to determine if I should, or should not stay with my girlfriend of 4 years.

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Maybe she is an independent soul and needs her space, maybe she does not feel ready to move in with you even if your offering all those stuff (that you might consider a no brainer). I know I would not be happy to go move in with my GF if she offered it to me (might be a male thing) especially if I could not help out with rent etc. and even less so if it was 150 miles away from my family.

YOU CRAZY BITCH!

Either way ask her straight up!.... whats going on? Do you see this relationship going to the next level or not? What you want to do?!

IamNRE said:

Maybe she is an independent soul and needs her space, maybe she does not feel ready to move in with you even if your offering all those stuff (that you might consider a no brainer). I know I would not be happy to go move in with my GF if she offered it to me (might be a male thing) especially if I could not help out with rent etc. and even less so if it was 150 miles away from my family.

YOU CRAZY BITCH!

Either way ask her straight up!.... whats going on? Do you see this relationship going to the next level or not? What you want to do?!

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Was about to say something like this. Don't treat girls like bitch who loves nothing but materials. Maybe she doesn't love you anymore or maybe she's gem

I am asking myself the same question (Am I crazy?) ....AND....for sure, I know the answer is YES because I actually spent my valuable time reading this stupid thread that has abosultely nothing to do with why I joined this community. Where is the moderator and why does this thread event exist?