Advice Needed …. My husband thinks he is in love with a Romanian Cam Girl

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I admit not reading anything but the op.
But the chick is a good ewhore, would be even more amusing if it turns out he's been chatting with a dude and a few video clips.


edit: Oh ye sorry for the troubles this causes for you. I'm NOT saying you're overreacting but remember that it's only an online fantasy he's living out.
 
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I'm sincerely sorry for the pain this guy has caused you. This sounds like a real post so I am not going to make any jokes here. But you should seriously consider divorce.
 
if you have any joint bank accounts call the bank NOW and tell them that your husband lost his card and it needs to be cancelled. open a private account asap and transfer whatever is left into it.

i feel for your situation and you have my sympathies.

i dont know what i would do... probably leave him even just for a little while.
 
In my younger, more idealogical years I always thought that people could change when presented with
rational or logical explanations and arguments, often saving them from making very painful mistakes in life..

Now I realize (and I'm sorry to admit this about humanity) that it is only the stinging pain, humiliation, and
deep regret of actually making those mistakes for themselves that will cause the vast majority of people
in this world to truly change, grow and eventually realize their stupidity..

I realize this is probably very hard on you emotionally, and it's easy to give advice to strangers on the internet...
but perhaps you should encourage him to go be with this scam artist so that he can experience the full measure
of pain needed to teach him the lesson that he has failed to learn thus far in life..
 
Sara,

File for divorce. It's over. If he is willing to throw away 25 years, he is not worth keeping. Hard I know. I had to face it after only 6. But that is the truth. Life goes on, you are still young, believe it or not!.... ;)
 
hgear said:
I'm sincerely sorry for the pain this guy has caused you. This sounds like a real post so I am not going to make any jokes here. But you should seriously consider divorce.
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oh i think now you should provide her number of a Good divorce lawyer.
 
There is no going back now .. He checked out of the marriage and is ready to move on ... Probably due to boredom.

Just send him to Thailand and tell him it's over.

Probably lastly print out like 20 stories from the net of people getting scammed by girls over the Internet.

Then just move on and start a new life .. Just the way you want it.

Good luck and you never know this maybe the best thing that has happened to you in 12 months time.
 
Why don't you go to a shrink and tell him about it. Maybe later go together with your husband. I don't think "punishing" him is a good approach. Also I don't think considering him immature or stupid helps you in any way. If you love him and are happy with him by your side maybe you should try to understand not to judge. He had a need (psychological need, maybe physical) and that is how he choose to fulfill it. If he really fell in love with her (doubt it) is not important, but the underlying need to fall in love maybe. You feel betrayed because it wasn't you the object of his lust but I really think you should try to understand the whole situation at it's core. For that is best to talk with a shrink. You already have the answers even though you may not want to accept them, he will help you listen to yourself.
 
Sara said:
OK ? I need some advice please, I have been married for almost 25 years and my husband as been acting differently recently. I was quite certain that he was having an affair; he showed all the signs even changed the password on his computer and laptop! Of course when I asked him what was going on he denied everything and tried to convince me that I was paranoid!

Anyway so he has gone off for his bi-annual boys fishing trip so I decided to do some detective work! After 6 hours I managed to find and download some software to crack the password on his computer (which was Alexa) and get in.

So what I first I found some photos of this 20yr old girl and then I started searching and found that he had sent her roses to Romania (never sent me flowers in our entire marriage!) that cost $150. Then I found that he sent her $400 via Western Union!

So now I got online found his history hacked all his usernames and passwords and changed them all of course so he could no longer login in. The chat sounds like it is from a teenage boy not a man of 47years who until yesterday I considered to be quite intelligent! After two days of chat she is telling him she loves him and then he does the same.

Then I found in his history that he had been frequenting MyFreeCams and had spent about $1500 in the last 3 months which is where he met the Romanian whore. I since changed his password and deleted his account (which included 2,000 frequent wanker points ) ?Wish I had of know earlier could have put some cookies on his PC and earned some affiliate commissions so to at least get some of our money back!

I notice from reading the chat logs (pretty stupid of him to keep them) but anyway often she is saying to go over to MFC so that they can talk (obviously it?s how she earns a living!)

His mother and our grown children are disgusted that he could be so stupid to think that this girl actually likes him; all we can see is a con artist making a living. I am sure that she is stringing him along lots of old gullible men like this and her and her boyfriend are probably laughing all the way to the bank!

I have put all of his clothes and stuff into garbage bags and left it out the front of the house for when he gets back as he wont even answer my calls or texts!

Any advice, has this happened to anyone you know ? would love to hear some stories, maybe I could show him this to get it into his thick head how stupid and totally gullible he is being ?
or do you think that a 20yr Romanian Cam Girl might actually be in love with a 47 year old in Australia?

Dont be too harsh on me please my heart is broken into tiny little bits :(
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1 solution from me, just ask him to visit that bitch once, apparently he will get robbed.. :D when he is looking for a good time from cam girl, actually he is looking for a bad time, and he needs it the most ATM so that he could understand real meaning of marriage, and know what the word "suffering" really means..

well u can try me.. forgiving your husband won't be necessary that way :D
 
Well my advice at first is do your best to get through it all regardeless of the outcome. Despite changes on your end or his end over 28 years with the same person in the same household is a long time and hard to just shrug your shoulders and get over it so do your best to be strong.

Next thing pull yourself together to be a complete adult and hopefully he will too and TALK about it, not fuss, fight, throw, just talk about what you want and what he wants then from there make a decision to move forward from there whether it's together or separate. Clothes by the door and changing account names on his computer that's all elementary stuff and is not needed. Life is too short for the in between and to not communicate properly. That stuff is just a waste of time and gets nothing done nor does it really change what has happen.

It's a shame it has come to this but doesn't mean it's the end. Men are simple and think of one thing mostly but woman have issues just the same, the problem is no one properly communicates so that needs are met and situations are met with a compromise. Instead we hide and change so that our partner has to do the same then we're apart. However you stayed together for 28 years for some reason and hopefully it will come to light again and keep you together.

Of course what he's doing is nothing, don't worry about that part, a 20 year old romaninan will not be his new lifelong partner in any way shape or fashion so the both of you can let that idea go. Love or not that's too much of an age gap. Then there's the webcam thing so I'm sure she's actually in "love" with all her clients, lol.....

The point is he leaned on someone else when it should have been you and you got left in the dark and heartbroke so where do you go from here.....

And to everyone as a piece of advice: Have some self control in everything that you do! It's really not that hard and a much easier life when you do. Be an adult not 13 years old. Open your mouth and speak what it is you want and need. When you do this you'll be better lovers, workers, parents, and happy all the way around. Self Control. Communicate.

Good luck to you, do your best to communicate and be strong regardless.
 
we all make mistakes, learn from it. laugh ad him and also at yourself. he missed something and that is why he did something so stupid but we man sometimes do stupid things
 
Hi, first of all dont jepordise this relationship of urs. Obivoulsy we all know men can be crawled into womens traps and surley you are the one who can help him. hes 47 yrs old so he wouldnt have much clue about websites, comps etc or how the virtual world is. just show him your love etc and he'll get over it. :)
 
Are you all kidding me? It is just internet....like watching porn movies ( more expensive, agree ) .... but still it is just imagination......everybody is dreaming at some porn diva.....WAKE UP !!!
 
Sara...listen to me good. I'm from Romania I own 6 adult webcams websites, and in the past I managed an adult video chat studio. I knew and worked with a lot of cam girls and I really know what this is all about.

First of all she would never meet with your hubby. NEVER EVER! This is all about money from her side. She can act like she is in love with him, chatting with him even talking to the phone with him but it's all about money. You said in a post above he sent her $400 and spend more than $1500 on MFC to talk to her and enjoy her shows. Voila!

I can tell you heavy stories about american and UK guys scammed and left alone in the romanian airports by our girls. What do you want to know more? Bank accounts created for them (girls), houses bought, a lot of money spent in the name of love. After that our girls said BYE BYE! And left them all with the eyes in the sun.

This is not bs I even know and have friends who made quite a fortune working as cam girls and "falling in love" with these kind of guys. You have money = love story, no money = I'm sorry. This is how they act.

So...obviously he won't listen to you as he is deeply in love. But you can tell hm that a romanian guy just told you what is all about. He will waste all your money and he will end alone.

So you have to worry about the money he will spend not the feelings. I can ASSURE you she doesn't give a shit regarding any feeling about him. So your marriage from this point of view is 100% safe.

So my advice is to seal your bank accounts and warn him he will end broke. This is the only thing you can do.
 
If only this wasn't real life I'd have so much to say. Best of luck to you.
 
sara do you need me to be your personal webcam whore, and see my naked bits? don't give this guy the time of day you need to move on, anyone who would so something like that to someoen they supposedly love doesnt deserve them, it will be hard but you just have to move on don't crawl back to him after he did something like that. cheer up there are lots of young adults who will bring that spark back but just for you, and im sure you can find a new hubby out there just gotta put urself out there. posts some pictures here and u will get a ton of pms from ppl just like you internet marketers that would suite you well.
 
the odds are probably 1 in 100,000 that a cam model actually likes a guy she meets online.
 
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