I agree, it's really sad to see new members get treated this way.
But I think it could be easily solved with a bit of moderation.
Posts like "Tits or GTFO" have absolutely no place on an internet marketing forum, as well as people who post them, regardless of the context.
Asking a female member to show tits (?!) or post their picture to prove they are girls is just sickening, I don't know how posts like that don't get deleted.
Just a few warning strikes with banhammer, and I bet we'd see a lot less drama... and maybe, without all the drama, duffers' picture won't be valid anymore, since girls would be welcomed equally, and would not be asked to post a photo of their mammary glands. But now I'm just fantasizing.
As for "why they mention their gender"... well, why not? Gender shouldn't mean anything. Nobody minds when someone joins and writes "I'm an 18-year old
guy". But when it's a girl, then it becomes a matter of ulterior motives. People think they're being e-whored by a 40-year old guy called Elroy, a fat, balding ginger who writes SQL code by day, and pretend he's an attractive female by night in order to get some IM tips.
Or sometimes, a girl will say she's a girl expecting us to get all soft and tender and make us kneel down asking how we could be of service. But it doesn't happen often enough to warrant such responses to every "hey, I'm a girl" introduction thread. Everyone should be offered a chance / benefit of doubt.
