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Is being " very kind" a reason to get rejected?
- Thread starter Mohaegy
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Welcome to the game my man, you'll never figure out what they want instantly, meh maybe if you're lucky. I'd suggest to FIRST AND FOREMOST don't behave NEEDY. Give the impression that they need to talk to you and not you to them, keep that game up until you figure out with hints what kind of approach do they like.
Best of luck King
Best of luck King
- May 6, 2020
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Men aren't nice, especially the ones that claim they are, lol.
because you expressed your feelings and came off feminine. women say they want a guy who expresses his feelings, but in reality they hate such guys. they want a masculine guy.
never listen to what a woman says she wants. she wants the exact opposite.
you sound young and inexperienced.
never listen to what a woman says she wants. she wants the exact opposite.
you sound young and inexperienced.
- Dec 3, 2021
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She just wanted to reject you and not hurt you at the same time. No one rejects kindness. But maybe she's not attracted to you. Don't worry about it. She's not the last woman on earth. Move on. Also, being friends or not is completely your choice now.
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Expressing feelings isn't inherently feminine or masculine, everyone has feelings. Sure nobody likes a weak looser. But playing tough, being mean jerk towards women, while at the same time you're actually weak in life and give chargebacks to clients all day long, won't get you far. A lot of men are weak, but try to feel 'manly' by terrorizing women, this isn't manly.
Like I already said - I never personally met a nice guy during my 35 years of life. Not saying this to troll, etc, I have never, fuckin never met an actual nice guy even though men keep complaining women don't like nice guys, etc. Up to a point where even some dude from here keeps mentioning in posts 'I'm too nice for my own good' but he wasn't actually nice to me, lol. Generally the bar is really low for men and there's a literal shortage of actual good men, so I'm thinking since the bar is so low already they all think they're better than they actually are xD. I'm thinking actual good quality men are like 0.1%, high chance they're already taken, it is what it is.
It's also mothers' fault because they raise parasites. Then these shitty men go try dating and they complain that they're nice guys, why women don't want nice guys... Never met an actual good man with good intentions. There's a choice of various flavours of jerks that'll 100 fuckin % abuse you in some way so at best you could maybe choose the one that isn't broke but these also have bad intentions, hot ones also have bad intentions and their own goals, ugly and broke ones act exactly the same or worse than hot and rich ones but on top of having to stand their shitty personalities you'd have to stand their ugliness and probably provide for them since they don't have money xD.
Not saying this to insult actual good, respectful men that try hard for their girlfriends/spouses/families and not implying that there's something wrong with OP. Just stating the fact - yes, we do like nice guys, ACTUAL nice guys, not fake, self-proclaimed nice guys. The moment someone starts acting like a jerk I'm out and that's precisely why I'm single xD.
Yeah, I agree, don't worry about it OP. Also she probably doesn't want to be friends since you'd have trouble being platonic so she prefers to stop talking. Which is sad and something that I personally don't like about dating, you don't get friends from it even. It's probably better to go the other way around, have friends and then maybe there'll be something from one of these idk xD.
Mohaegy
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No not yet haha
I know she isn't interested and probably she just keep trying find the " the perfect one" also I don't care and I know it's ridiculous to overthink about it but I'm just confused with the reason
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Yes, it can seem strange, but being "very kind" can sometimes be interpreted as lacking confidence, passion or assertiveness traits some people look for in a partner. It's not about you being bad. it's just not what she’s looking for.
Mohaegy
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I respect your opinion
But some women's " not all" like the feeling of being chased even if she is being chased by guys she don't like or have interest
I mean if she doesn't have any interest for me in the beginning she wouldn't accept go date with me
I express my feeling even told her if she got any feeling same as me I was ready to travel to Turkey and spend more time with her
I think from my side I did everything but maybe she have interest or another preference that I respect
Lifeisnotgood
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I got the impression that you didn't get that particular look from a woman. I mean, I've experienced that look from an outsider a few times. That a woman looks at a man like he's not a god, but her eyes still glow and her electric aura has changed in the company of this man.
These couples are still together today and have been for over ten years.
This is definitely not something you can get from every woman or man. Because not all people's auras match. There's really nothing you can do about it. Of course, it's true that if you spend a lot of time with someone, these auras get used to each other and then they can become a couple. Because subconsciously, each of us wants a partner who is easy to be with.
So this mental state then becomes a normal thing in life. Although not completely synced, it is still good to be in his presence and company with this person.
You have to hook the next "fish". But unfortunately, there are many different types of fish in the ocean. So it´s a harsh world..
These couples are still together today and have been for over ten years.
This is definitely not something you can get from every woman or man. Because not all people's auras match. There's really nothing you can do about it. Of course, it's true that if you spend a lot of time with someone, these auras get used to each other and then they can become a couple. Because subconsciously, each of us wants a partner who is easy to be with.
So this mental state then becomes a normal thing in life. Although not completely synced, it is still good to be in his presence and company with this person.
You have to hook the next "fish". But unfortunately, there are many different types of fish in the ocean. So it´s a harsh world..
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Leave her and find a new one. There are lots of like minded girls.
hello,
thanks for your contribution but you got the meaning of nice wrong. in this context nice is not the opposite of jerk. nice means a guy who has no edge to him, who is afraid of offending someone, who agrees with everything the girl says because he is afraid of losing her. still, I stand by what I said. expressing feelings to a girl (I am afraid of xyz, I like xyz" is a turnoff for girls for some reason. expressing feelings TOWARDS a girl (I like you, I have feelings for you" is death.
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I'm a girl, quite dominant one. I personally would like a nice, agreeable guy. Never met one lol. Usually they try to act very manly even though there's no real substance to said pseudo-manliness (no achievements, but the guy tries to play tough), they try to boss me around, etc.
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I see it as a way of saying he's not attracted to you, without hurting your feelings. I mean, kindness doesn't scare anyone off; what scares people off is not creating any spark. Maybe he likes other women and just wanted to take advantage of you a little 
... You're doing the right thing by trying and meeting other people. If you don't try, you won't succeed, just like with everything else. Just don't overthink it, let it go.
... You're doing the right thing by trying and meeting other people. If you don't try, you won't succeed, just like with everything else. Just don't overthink it, let it go.
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A young lady we know, who is as sweet as honey, was dating a guy who I thought was not a good fit as he was the opposite side of the spectrum.She wants a badass.
When I asked my wife why she would, she said some girls like bad boys and gave me a look.
She and you are just not a good fit.
Don't let that get you down and keep being kind.
BNB
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No time to check replies, but read this
This means you are not confident in your own abilities.
Expression means action.
Cold: I love you/like you (words)
Hot: expression of love (an action)
In the end, it is far superior to be rejected and called maniac or whatever for trying to kiss a girl using a good hook, then being very kind.
This means you are not confident in your own abilities.
Expression means action.
Cold: I love you/like you (words)
Hot: expression of love (an action)
In the end, it is far superior to be rejected and called maniac or whatever for trying to kiss a girl using a good hook, then being very kind.
there are plenty of effeminate guys out there. I dont know why you are having trouble finding one.